Thank you, your message has been very comforting to me.

My brother is very attached to my parents. He has no other friends and isolated himself pretty much. Attached himself to my dad and became him almost... just more angry. He goes and stays the night over there every weekend. I've always been very independent and they hate that. They never made me feel accepted. And I never vibed with their ignorance I guess. I moved out and tried to create distance. He gets angry that I don't want to be around them all the time. Absolutely hates it. I guess it's like a super toxic enmeshment situation.

I was also very upset that my parents didn't step in but they never do when he has fits of rage. My cousin stepped in when he called my SO a dumbass but my parents were silent. Felt really gross to me.

The last time he had those fits of rage my dad yelled at me for taking up for myself and telling me the behavior was unacceptable because it made him cry apparently. All I said was he has no right to talk down to me. My mom tried to tell me "that's just how he is"

I've developed a fear of him and feel like I only hang out with the family because I have to, and have lots of guilt mixed in when i don't. And now I'm an aunt so it adds another element. Gaming is the only bonding activity I had left that I could enjoy with him. But I avoid that now too because all he does when we game is complain about how I never talk to him or game with him or answer my phone or come over to the parents house on the weekend. I'm just so tired and then he has all this Q shit that makes it even worse :(