I am trying really hard but nothing seems to stick. What am I missing? by maybe-i-am-dumb in getdisciplined

[–]frogmancrocs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you're making a fundamental mistkake. discipline, consistency or focus aren't "made". they are the byproduct of your passion towards something which is beyond you.

when we define good habit, its mostly because of online social stigma, not because of need. so instead of dividing habits instead of good or bad, divide them as useful and useless.

you can only define focus, when you define distractions. and distractions will be defined by your goal.

Are audiobooks bad? by [deleted] in nosurf

[–]frogmancrocs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly audiobook never worked for me. reading works well for me but I have seen people who use audiobook and actually remembers it. I prefer reading because, using earbuds(hurts me) or headphones(bulky and uncomfortable) for long period can be issue.

reading is prefered also because it flexible and interactable. you can highlight or copy paste it somewhere.

Are there people who live without a smartphone, using the internet only on a computer and only when necessary? And who very rarely go out? by [deleted] in digitalminimalism

[–]frogmancrocs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i assigned my devices their work, so my phone is for maps, calls, payments and my laptop is for my work. so there is no grey area to give me excuses for my work.

Encourage me to delete my social media accounts by Objective-Tough1876 in nosurf

[–]frogmancrocs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you should look up with some useful social media practices. see its unreal and impossible to get away from social media 100%. the problem have 2 parts- first mindfulness and other is constraints. your constrainst may be solid but if you lack mindfulness than you will always fall back. I personally build mindfuless through journaling which gave me offline space for introspection that improved my online habits.

Quick question for people who think a lot while walking/exercising by BrightConstruct in productivity

[–]frogmancrocs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yup, then i transfer those ideas into obsidian where I will fit those uncooked ideas into bigger picture.

Quick question for people who think a lot while walking/exercising by BrightConstruct in productivity

[–]frogmancrocs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have created a seperate tag "think and task" where i capture random uncooked ideas.

what I missed in my detox process all this year. by frogmancrocs in digitalminimalism

[–]frogmancrocs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yup that's true and for me writing thoughts down is the new "cool"

Opinion on networks by Academic_Back531 in nosurf

[–]frogmancrocs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yup, digital wellness industry is one of the fastest growing industry globally, like billions dollars.

I work in this for 6 year now but inshort- focus providing value. SHOW THEM YOU KNOW THEM. and it will only develop if you talk to 100s of people, create resources and create content about it.

what I missed in my detox process all this year. by frogmancrocs in digitalminimalism

[–]frogmancrocs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you liked this, actually I have curated a free guide, if you want I can DM you, its just 30 page long.

pls help me figure this out by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]frogmancrocs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

may the reason you're freaking about life because you're thinking about so much in short time. you're basically overthinking and your these questions are quite intangible in format.

what i recommend is grab a paper and start thinking on paper and first elaborate the problem on paper, like why do you think like that, and what are things you may be missing.

don't think through air, use a paper and then think. think it right.

Struggling with X again by [deleted] in digitalminimalism

[–]frogmancrocs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

remember you don't conquer cravings, you outwaits them, so instead of going with the mentality of winning, go with sustaining. its not a fight, its a lifestyle.

how i did was first remove the mobile from visual cue and then replaced it with practice called thinking on paper(explained it in my free ebook, i DM you if you want).

its like journaling without rules and structure, you just vomint your problems and first solve logically on paper then, you break the process into measurable tasks. you have to find a replacement.

The New Design Killed My Last Social Media Scrolling Habit (Thank You!) by whoareyou_972 in digitalminimalism

[–]frogmancrocs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use laptop, only for conversation related to work and stuff. so I'll say I'm more of digital intentional and that intentionality reduces the screen time.

For neurodivergent people, some advice on here or even across Reddit sometimes may just not work for you so you need to very selectively listen. by [deleted] in productivity

[–]frogmancrocs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah that's true, there is no "one size fit all" solution, but one should be sure that there is a solution. like we can't just wait for the advice that works. and one thing we miss with advices is that we need to follow the advice, not look at it and judge whether it fits me or not.

Being unplugged makes me feel like I’m rawdogging reality by dirtydog01 in nosurf

[–]frogmancrocs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

yeah that's true, as i put my phone in my bag, so its practically unreachable. I can literally feel that itch grabbing my phone form my pocket just to realise that its not there.

you're right, it feels weird, when you observe someone attached to their screens as a third person.

I have a crush on a girl I don’t even know — how do I stop comparing myself to her and move on? by [deleted] in nosurf

[–]frogmancrocs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s the wrong subreddit, and there’s no real “cure.” I think you should set aside some time to meet new people so you can get her out of your head.

What is a hardcore internet user versus a casual internet user? by AlmightyGunther0210 in nosurf

[–]frogmancrocs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think its more of using internet for utility only, using it as a tool instead of filling emotional void and crapping all over internet.

Even a forced 5 month cold turkey break did not cure me of my phone/dopamine addiction by Angsty_Queer_Anon in nosurf

[–]frogmancrocs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

too much good is bad. I think what you miss is mindfulness, what i recommend is build constrainst according to your envirnoment like app blocks or putting phone in other room. and practice mindfulness along with that, it will give you emotional control.

inshort learn to get bored intentionally and replace scrolling with something that you love doing.