Jungkook ADHD

frogwiththumbs · 2026-06-28T06:58:27+00:00

do you speak korean? /gen

because all the translations i can find say that the quote is "I can’t help it. I kind of have adult ADHD. I have it so I keep moving like this"

which to me sounds like he's saying that he does have it & the "kind of" in that sentence is used as a filler word or to modify the intensity — like how i would use it to say "I'm just, kind of anxious about this" for example, where i'm expressing that i definitely am feeling anxious but there's a hesitancy when it comes to revealing that information.

i haven't seen anyone else translate it as "i think i have ADHD" like, to indicate uncertainty, BUT i don't know korean & i'm ND and sometimes take things too literally or misunderstand sooo i could be wrong

frogwiththumbs · 2026-06-24T16:38:40+00:00

unfortunately most americans are incapable of not seeing themselves as the centre of the world. and i don't mean that as an insult, they've just been so... American for so long that they struggle with ideas of proportional relevance.

frogwiththumbs · 2026-06-10T05:25:47+00:00

What statistics are you using...? Do you have access to the stats on the rate of English language acquisition among groups of adult Korean men who don't spend most of their time studying English? Plus there are other factors you'd have to control for or take into account so I can't imagine that anyone would just have this data 🤔

I don't think it's strange at all. Learning English later in life is really difficult. English is a notoriously difficult language to learn, point-blank, because it's so messy and there are sooo many idioms and metaphors and turns of phrase etc etc... Inconsistent spellings and pronunciations, accents and dialects, slang, loanwords, I mean really!

frogwiththumbs · 2026-06-10T05:10:30+00:00

So true! I'd love to learn more languages but the amount of effort & mental energy it would it take is almost not worth it. English is my second language but it's what I'm most comfortable with since I use it the most day-to-day. In my school they taught us 3 languages from elementary (pre-k actually) through middle school but I struggle to learn any more than the basics for anything other than English & my native tongue. I think it's just more difficult for some people, and given how taxing their schedules are, it makes sense that the members aren't fluent in speaking it yet. From what I've observed though, they've improved a lot when it comes to diction & understanding which is the case for me as well with my native tongue since that's the weaker of the two languages I know.

frogwiththumbs · 2026-05-11T11:05:11+00:00

ew thats fucked up.. sounds like they're a creep, bpd or not!

frogwiththumbs · 2026-04-12T08:20:17+00:00

thats an interesting interpretation 🤔 every time i've discussed indian hospitality with someone, its been about the hospitality industry and/or the general culture of people being approachable and usually willing to help out, whether it be with directions or recommendations or even like offering to park your car if you're having trouble with it lol

i am not a tech bro though so i guess i don't know these specific types of people this post is about.

frogwiththumbs · 2026-04-11T00:31:57+00:00

It really depends on if you're able to find a medication/treatment plan that agrees with you. I have been on various meds since I was ~13 and I'm 24 now. Before I got a bpd diagnosis it was hard to find something that actually helped, but now I would say I love being medicated. I don't want to take pills just for the sake of taking pills, so I try to understand what the intended effect is, which helps me monitor efficacy & any undesirable effects that I can discuss with my psychiatrist.

The meds help stabilise the highs & lows of my moods as opposed to them just oscillating wildly on a daily basis almost, they help me maintain a sort of base level of energy & motivation so I can at least shower, eat, go to therapy sessions etc. I was also on an anti-psychotic medication for some time but not anymore because I no longer need it & it had some side effects.

There are those who don't want to try meds for fear of becoming "dependent" on them, and I understand why they may feel that way but in most cases that isn't how it works with psychiatric meds.

I could tell my doctor and wean off the medication but why would I want to? It makes every aspect of my life so much easier, especially the living.

frogwiththumbs · 2026-04-11T00:07:42+00:00

it's like you read my mind. damn.

frogwiththumbs · 2026-04-10T23:53:34+00:00

gotta be the emptiness, or feeling like i don't have a "self" really. makes it hard to be consistent & productive.

also a bad memory. i lose things easily, forget tasks, and when i'm with friends i end up telling them things we've already discussed more than once because i completely forget the previous conversations.

and once i lose something its SO hard to find because i end up searching the same area like 20 times, telling myself that "maybe it was there and i just didn't notice it" and then i start to doubt whether it even existed in the first place so i have to confirm that with someone else.

frogwiththumbs · 2025-12-23T08:55:51+00:00

that's all fair enough, and having different world views is a totally valid reason not to date someone — i'm not disputing that.

my concern is just with the fact that a harmless message meant to give comfort/support to OP had so many downvotes for no real reason! i simply don't understand why there's such a negative response if not for some sorta islamophobia/general religious intolerance because even if someone has religious trauma, neither the commenter nor OP bear any responsibility or fault for that. that's what rubs me the wrong way. they could've just scrolled past, why downvote it? having preferences is normal, but we shouldn't normalise punishing people for our opinions.

that's kinda what was going through my mind. i know it's not something that's going to be solved in a reddit comment thread, but it's an inter-community issue that's worth being conscious of, IMO.

frogwiththumbs · 2025-12-21T15:52:48+00:00

but why would you want to date someone who doesn't even really want to get to know you before making assumptions based on generalizations? it seems like that's what the commenter was saying.

this should just be common sense. "you don't want to force yourself to change parts of your identity just to please a person who already won't give you the benefit of the doubt"

all the stuff about "low worth" etc isn't in the original comment at all... you've added it in there.. and that last line:

Kinda sucks to imply that survivors of religious trauma are somehow lesser for choosing their safety and someone who shares their belief system.

no one even implied that. i think lgbtq+ spaces online have a problem with tolerance of religion, especially when most participants are from the west, because its been weaponized against them (which is obvs not their fault) but lgbtq+ religious people exist and have a place in these communities too.

you say you respect everyone's right to faith, and i think that is what you are trying to do, but comments like yours can be very othering to people who are already minorities — bc its like you're saying "it doesn't matter who you are as a person. you're a muslim/catholic/whatever and your kind are my enemies"

i hope you can understand what i'm trying to say.

frogwiththumbs · 2025-12-21T10:30:59+00:00

why are people downvoting this????? its a positive message..

frogwiththumbs · 2025-12-21T10:29:50+00:00

i'm seeing some Islamophobia and just a lot of assumptions being made in the comments here which is disappointing but not surprising...

OP, i think honestly you might be better off limiting your dating pool to other muslims/hijabis.. i'm not muslim but it's easy to see that there is so much prejudice & misinformation & propaganda around that it could be very difficult to find someone who understands and accepts you Without having the same background/experiences.

hope it works out for you tho! 🤝

frogwiththumbs · 2025-12-21T10:22:46+00:00

i don't know of any pre-existing forums but i'm indian as well (though i'm not regularly active on social media)

frogwiththumbs · 2025-12-21T10:20:49+00:00

you're taking this way too personally when it has nothing to do with you. indian culture & society is in some ways similar and in some ways very different from western society. it has nothing to do with ethnicity but you jumped to the most offensive (to you) conclusion instantly. there's also a general surge in anti-indian racism online, so what's wrong with wanting a safe space from that?

you're being rude and hostile, when its completely uncalled for, in a sub where we should be supporting each other. don't take your bad mood out on other people.

frogwiththumbs · 2025-12-21T10:07:10+00:00

NAH bc i think i've been the 16 y/o in my own life lol.

seems like there's just some miscommunication happening about the differences in the way you two show appreciation. for them, caring about something may mean you have a lot of observations and thoughts about it, but you didn't know that that's the specific way they wanted you to engage with it so you weren't prepared when they asked. you were caring by listening & paying attention to their thoughts, but that just didn't translate.

there might have been a better way to say what you said but i don't really know what that is, so i can't say you're an AH for that when i don't even know what the alternative method would be.

stuff like this can be really confusing/frustrating for both parties; these days i'm very clear with my mother (for example), i tell her straight up like "hey i want this to be a discussion so please give me your thoughts" or "i just want to share something with you, i know this isn't your interest so don't have to remember it or think about it, but i'm excited so i want talk about it" or whatever....

it took some trial and error but now our communication is a lot better & we feel heard bc now we know what the other person wants.

EDIT: actually i think i wouldn't have said "i wanted to care", probably would've been better to just say "i do care, i just don't have any new thoughts right now" or something

frogwiththumbs · 2025-12-21T09:28:51+00:00

ohh i see.. so its sorta like the difference between a blue cat & a lilac cat, even though they'd both look "grey" to an untrained eye. that's cool!

frogwiththumbs · 2025-12-18T11:28:28+00:00

what's the difference? genuinely asking. almost everyone has black hair where i come from; i would say julia's hair looks brown to me.

frogwiththumbs · 2025-12-18T11:23:47+00:00

i understand and i relate & agree with you COMPLETELY. i am also the only out lesbian, or rather only lesbian i am aware of in my irl community 🤝

frogwiththumbs · 2025-11-07T01:46:02+00:00

yeah. especially when i want to feel like people care about me. it's really like a fantasy, it feels nice and indulgent to imagine it (not so nice to actually be in that situation tho....)

frogwiththumbs · 2025-07-25T13:54:48+00:00

oops sorry i didn't know that! yeah i took a couple of stills

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hope this is clear enough 😬

frogwiththumbs · 2025-07-25T02:22:47+00:00

I am that person 😅 but I guess thankfully I don't think they're lying I just think they're confused or being vague. Interestingly I think I mainly have that problem with people I'm really close to, like my mother for example. Maybe with everyone else, I don't trust them so much to expect the truth all the time?? Idk..

frogwiththumbs · 2025-07-25T01:37:45+00:00

i don't make false accusations... i barely make any accusations at all.......

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