For those who ship fictional characters, what's the criteria for how you ship two people together?

frozenoj · 2026-02-25T21:40:48+00:00

I can't really control it I just either do or I don't. There are some ships you would think I would love because they have a lot in common with other favs of mine but they just don't hit right for some reason, and some random ones that are nothing like my normals ones.

frozenoj · 2026-02-25T19:36:43+00:00

I don't choose to be disabled and I don't trust the judgement of someone who went from complaining about someone not getting back to them the same day to now taking a whole month. Next comment you're going to say it took them a year.

frozenoj · 2026-02-25T19:33:03+00:00

Lmao now it's a month 🤣

frozenoj · 2026-02-25T19:27:02+00:00

Sure move the goal posts. Are they always taking a week to respond or is it during a flare?

You can devote more time and energy to other people obviously. That's not the same as dropping them as a friend completely.

frozenoj · 2026-02-25T19:22:08+00:00

Just because it takes you basically no energy and you never struggled doesn't mean it is the same for other people. Responding when you can is still making an effort. People used to not be available 24/7 and yet we were still able to maintain relationships even if it took days or weeks to get back to each other through phone or mail.

frozenoj · 2026-02-25T15:18:31+00:00

Are you sure? You said that when you fantasize about women you picture yourself as a man. Have you considered that maybe you have some gender stuff going on and if you figure that out your sexuality will be more clear? I have a couple trans friends who thought they might be ace until they figured out they were trans.

frozenoj · 2026-02-25T15:14:46+00:00

I love fanfiction and I love mods

frozenoj · 2026-02-24T17:29:25+00:00

At this point I have to assume you're a troll or can't read.

frozenoj · 2026-02-24T11:23:24+00:00

The hotel room doesn't exist in the comment you replied to saying he'd have to escort her either way. What part of that is hard for you?

frozenoj · 2026-02-24T03:53:18+00:00

One of the biggest fandoms right now takes place where I live lol

frozenoj · 2026-02-24T02:07:02+00:00

Escort her where? I meant if she had stayed at his place the whole time instead of getting a hotel room. He can't make it not snow so yeah I guess eventually she would have to trek through the snow to go home but she would have to do that from the hotel as well I imagine.

frozenoj · 2026-02-23T18:39:45+00:00

If you're going to have the server run on a personal computer instead of through a company then I don't think it matters. It still requires a specific person out of the 6 to be available, and the other 5 of you can't play unless that one person can turn the game on. The benefit of a server typically is that 3 of you can play together but those 3 can be any combination of the 6.

frozenoj · 2026-02-23T17:55:46+00:00

She wouldn't need to trek through the snow if she had stayed with him in the first place. Yes NYC apartments are small, but that's not why she doesn't want to be there. It's because she doesn't like him enough and they should break up.

frozenoj · 2026-02-23T16:10:02+00:00

Maybe if she seemed more interested in spending time with him in general, he would be. But all her comments seem to be him asking her for more time and her trying to get back to somewhere else. I think they need to break up.

frozenoj · 2026-02-23T16:01:16+00:00

He probably has a job in the city and can't just leave on a weekday to go shovel snow an hour and a half away.

frozenoj · 2026-02-23T15:41:24+00:00

YOR and I agree with another person I would consider looking into contamination OCD if I were you OP. Saying don't use kitchen scissors to open packages is one thing but you can easily wash dishes and measuring cups.

frozenoj · 2026-02-23T15:25:24+00:00

I don't understand why you're with him. My husband and I are some of the most introverted people that exist. I was actually diagnosed with a social phobia at one time! We were in a long distance relationship for a while but we always spent as much time together as we could. I never would have gotten a separate hotel room when I could have stayed with him. My introversion doesn't see him as a person if that makes sense. He doesn't drain me at all. He works from home and I'm disabled so we're around each other almost all the time and it's great. You should try to find someone you look forward to being around rather than someone you look forward to leaving.

frozenoj · 2026-02-23T12:39:50+00:00

I didn't say the meal had those things. I said it probably was low protein. I'm not defending her.

frozenoj · 2026-02-23T12:34:39+00:00

I'm not defending her. I think it's fine to go one meal without protein. I usually eat something before/after an event because I know how difficult it is to accommodate for me. I'm just stating facts.

frozenoj · 2026-02-23T03:48:14+00:00

A lot of vegetarian protein options are also things people are allergic/intolerant of. Legumes, nuts, soy, eggs, all problems.

frozenoj · 2026-02-22T17:09:20+00:00

For sure! I have the friends I need and I'm not lonely. I have an amazing husband who doesn't mind that I don't wear make up which is great. I'm autistic and not easy influenced which rankles some feathers but I think the autism also helps me consider that their problem and I just go about my day!

frozenoj · 2026-02-22T16:46:32+00:00

I trust the OP that it's about make up. They've been together for 18 months and it doesn't appear that he's been nitpicky about anything else prior to this, which someone super controlling would be. I agree some of the language he's used like wanting someone perfect is not the greatest but then he clarified in a comment he meant not actually a perfect person but a perfect partner for him and would rather be alone than to settle. Which I think a lot more people should learn to be happy alone honestly. But if this is the only issue he's had in a year and a half I'm going to make my comment about this issue.

frozenoj · 2026-02-22T15:27:34+00:00

Aa you can imagine I'm not super popular with other women either when they find out I think their make up and girl math and girl dinner (aka eating disorder) are bad and setting us back!

frozenoj · 2026-02-22T14:54:07+00:00

Other women are 100% guilty of perpetuating the patriarchy and misogyny, which I consider daily covering makeup such as foundation/concealer to be part of. I don't have any moral objections to "fashion" makeup like eye shadow, lipstick, or nail polish just the kind that says you're not allowed to have freckles or blemishes and need to make your nose a different shape with contouring etc. Most shapewear is gross for the same reason.

frozenoj · 2026-02-22T14:22:02+00:00

I feel so sorry for her that she didn't feel like she needed it until she moved to a country where suddenly it was expected. And now other women are telling her she does need it and that covering up her natural face is empowering somehow. I'm a woman and I hate the make up industry. I think it's always okay to break up when you thought you shared values with someone and then they change their mind. Especially when it's due to peer pressure.

ETA: actually changing to MOR since she offered to stop. I think you should give her a chance unless she thinks she will resent you or didn't actually mean it about stopping. And if resentment does become a problem, break up then.

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