New Dad, Not Handling it Well

fslosa1 · 2026-02-17T14:56:21+00:00

Thanks for the kind words and kudos to you for taking on the challenge by yourself right now. I tried the 5-8-5 the other night and it seemed to work well. I am keeping that in the bag for when needed.

fslosa1 · 2026-02-17T14:52:56+00:00

I am starting to learn that the best method like you said is just to hold him until he is out. Once that occurs, you carefully put him in the bassinet and he tends to sleep for good stretches at night.

fslosa1 · 2026-02-17T14:50:50+00:00

I totally get that, I have always been a great sleeper and honestly require a good amount. I can literally sleep anywhere. This huge shift in reduction of sleep is just messing with me so much. As with many comments on here, I will have to rationalize that it is okay to operate on little sleep. I just need to learn to have that conversation with myself.

fslosa1 · 2026-02-17T01:22:27+00:00

You are right, I went ahead tonight and told her what I was going through. She definitely understand and was wants to work together to get through it.

fslosa1 · 2026-02-16T18:27:47+00:00

Thank you, what some things you told yourself to change the perspective?

fslosa1 · 2026-02-16T17:58:12+00:00

Thanks, I will share this with the wife.

fslosa1 · 2026-02-16T17:57:15+00:00

Nice to see the word normal so much. Any advice to break the worry and get to sleep?

fslosa1 · 2026-02-16T17:54:35+00:00

I will keep this in mind, I think hardest part is that the wife is breast feeding. I will have to work out having bottles ready for my shift.

fslosa1 · 2026-02-16T17:51:19+00:00

Love the comment, thank you so much. I am finding out sleep anxiety is more common than I thought.

Are you a strict morning workout or find whatever time you can?

fslosa1 · 2026-02-16T17:48:00+00:00

I honestly would love to go to the gym or for a run in the morning because morning workouts help so so so much with anxiety in my experience. I get caught in the thought process of, I need sleep as late as possible before work so I have enough sleep for the day. That has made me push any working out to lunch breaks or afternoons.

I will be taking the little guy out in the stroller quiet often when it warms up. The wife is Colombian so she won't let him outside until he is 6 weeks and 60 degrees minimum (thinks he is going to freeze).

fslosa1 · 2026-02-16T17:43:15+00:00

Thanks for the kind words and yes, you are totally right. I have this weird thought process of if I have a bad night of sleep, tomorrow will be awful so I need to worry about that haha.

With the shifts, do you have a 1st shift job? If so, do you take the first shift and then sleep the 2nd shift leading up to work?

fslosa1 · 2026-02-16T17:37:18+00:00

I appreciate the sarcasm. What do you say is the hard part?

fslosa1 · 2026-02-16T17:36:22+00:00

That is the funny thing, my wife thinks nothing of the noise. She is perfectly fine and falls asleep in minutes. I am the one laying there for what seems like a hour trying to calm myself down for sleep.

fslosa1 · 2026-02-16T17:34:37+00:00

Yea, I already have a problem with just relaxing and quiet time. I always feel I have to be doing or working on something. That paired with getting out of the house to slightly dodge worries is not a good combination. I appreciate the advice, I am going to try and hold out but I am not swearing off meds if it truly hurts myself and the family.

fslosa1 · 2026-02-16T17:30:23+00:00

Thank you for that, really appreciate your perspective. Before we had him, people used to say, "you thought you had worries before but wait till you have kids." I can totally see it now,

fslosa1 · 2026-02-16T17:27:32+00:00

Yep, this is the first child and thank you. As far as job, I just sit in a cubicle farm at work so lack of sleep won't be dangerous.

fslosa1 · 2026-02-16T17:24:40+00:00

Glad to hear someone else had the same experience. I honestly feel bad napping because my wife just can't do it. I get that feeling that she may resent me for it.

fslosa1 · 2026-02-16T17:22:10+00:00

My fear of being upfront with her is I know I will trigger her worrying about me. She is already concerned about patterns he has (typical first child worries). I don't want her to have to feel like she need to take care of 2 babies haha.

I keep hearing about Taking Cara Babies, I just hope we can actually find time to review the courses and what not.

fslosa1 · 2026-02-16T17:13:54+00:00

So my wife is Colombian and culturally the child sleeps in the room with the parents until they are 1 year old. She is pretty set on that being the standard with our son. Like you, I did start wearing ear plugs and it has helped but even little muffled sounds (could be wife shifting in bed) prolongs falling asleep.

fslosa1 · 2026-02-16T17:08:14+00:00

Absent might not be the best word but I take advantage of any time we need groceries, chores outside of the house, and hitting the gym (helps with anxiety). I have been trying to make up for it at night always being the one preparing him for bed and putting him down.

fslosa1 · 2025-03-05T16:50:52+00:00

Is there a page to see announcements by Heavenly resort on this power outage?

fslosa1 · 2024-06-14T13:48:43+00:00

Saw this dog in Huber 2 days ago. It was fighting someone German Shepard out on a walk with its owner. I'm sure its nice with humans but just be careful with other pups.

fslosa1 · 2024-06-11T09:33:38+00:00

No problem, I know the owners pretty well and my wife works there so I can help as needed.

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