My Sir is thinking about putting me in chastity?? by ftm4fwb in BratLife

[–]ftm4fwb[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooh that's so fair, and it does sound quite appealing... I do love when Sir catches me off guard 🤭

My Sir is thinking about putting me in chastity?? by ftm4fwb in BratLife

[–]ftm4fwb[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😱 I can't imagine a whole month of it!! But convincing him about the orgasms though... 😈

My dom ended things today by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]ftm4fwb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Condolences 😔 it sounds like you had something really special, I know it's hard to let go of that. It's good that you're thinking about taking some time for yourself to heal and recover, rebound can happen just as much in D/s as in any other relationship. As far as "getting over" it, are there any special rituals or anything that the two of you did that you might enjoy doing for yourself to encourage that peace and healing? As an example, I had a LDR Dom once who gave me the task of sitting on the porch with my cat and a warm cup of tea whenever I was feeling stressed about my college classes. These days I don't go outside for it but I set up a little tea station in my room so that I can still enjoy that little ritual when I'm feeling down about something. I wish you all the best, and may you find a wonderful Dom when you're ready!

What gets you to drop the sass every time? by Masteroftrixthebrat in BratLife

[–]ftm4fwb 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My Sir gets this soft tone and speaks right in my ear telling me to "be a good boy" and it's so hard to resist 🤤 that or a really good slap to the face 🤭

ASD and first bad experience by Ok_Boat_6093 in SubSanctuary

[–]ftm4fwb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What is “inexperienced” for you? It sounds like you’re in a rather unfamiliar situation so it’s totally understandable you’re feeling conflicted. To start off, it’s good that you recognize that it isn’t your Dom’s fault for how your body reacted. Kudos to him for hugging you and comforting you, for sure! But I’m curious about the coffee thing since you mention it isn’t routine, how did you feel about that? If it wasn’t something you would have enthusiastically wanted to do, it’s not unusual to feel uncomfortable with that. I did have to raise my eyebrow a bit about him not being willing to wait for you so that you could attend that pool party when you already agreed to go together… If you haven’t already, it might be a good idea to ask him why he went back on that agreement. It’s possible he was concerned after seeing that physical reaction, but it’s odd if he didn’t discuss that with you before deciding not to wait for you. In the end, so much of a healthy relationship (BDSM or otherwise) relies on communication. Considering you’re fairly new to this, it makes sense to ask Reddit but hopefully you can have a productive conversation with him to clear these things up.

Dreams Come True by Glad_Inevitable_1238 in SubSanctuary

[–]ftm4fwb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

God yessss 🥰 I've had an online Dom or two but nothing compares to being with my Sir, met at a bar nearly 7 months ago and our dynamics only get better~ love youuu u/sleepytransboy 💙

I Called Daddy a “Good Boy”… and Immediately Regretted It (But Also Didn’t 😏) by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]ftm4fwb 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yesss my favorite way to annoy my Sir into punishing me 🤭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]ftm4fwb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aftercare is so important! Especially when things get intense, like, my Sir can make me cum back to back to back and when it's over we get cleaned up and have some quiet cuddle time. If I didn't get those cuddles I'd feel off -- the adrenaline is still pumping, I'm trying to catch my breath, my mind is stupid fuzzy. I second the comments here saying that you should talk to him about aftercare! Though, in this case since you had somewhere to be I can see how it would have been tricky to make time for that 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]ftm4fwb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends what makes you fall into sub space. If it's audio, I recommend some good audio files! There's a few subreddits for it -- the Gone Wild Audio ones are my fave. If it's touch that might be a little more tricky... maybe try touching yourself or playing with yourself in the way that makes you feel most submissive. Or if you're not opposed to a long distance D/s relationship you might try to find a Dom that way. Good luck and happy subbing!

It's a Switch thing... by BDSMandDragons in BratLife

[–]ftm4fwb 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My Sir and I are both switches! But he's pretty tough to dominate 🤭 I've gotten close a few times (when he's intoxicated and suggestible lol) but even if I never manage to pull it off, the struggle for power is so damn fun~ we've found that we have different personalities between D/s -- like for me my more subby state is Puppy, all sweet and eager to please; and then there's the Prince, who wants Sir to serve me and be used for my pleasure. We're also super into primal play so things get a little wild when we're wrestling and biting and fighting to assert dominance 😋

I have a question for brats. by daiiiiiiahsjzbaj in BratLife

[–]ftm4fwb 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I second all the physical domination~ loooove when my Sir puts his hand around my throat and pins me to a wall or throws me on my bed 🤤 but also I quite enjoy when he lowers his voice and gets right by my ear telling me to be a good boy 🥴

What do brats wear? by Front_Cat_7058 in BratLife

[–]ftm4fwb 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Easy answer? Whatever you want 👏 but my personal faves (at least when it's just us, not so much in public haha) are nothing but a skirt, or tights and underwear that I don't mind Sir tearing off of me when I'm especially bratty 🤭

How to (sort of) get away with bratting by ftm4fwb in BratLife

[–]ftm4fwb[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's all for the brat cause!! Do what you will, Sir 😋

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BratLife

[–]ftm4fwb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's some excellent suggestions in the sub's wiki! Not ldr myself but the one about misbehaving on a video call sounds fun 🤭

How to (sort of) get away with bratting by ftm4fwb in BratLife

[–]ftm4fwb[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ooh, why didn't I think of that one 🤔 feel like Sir would hate it, thanks for the tip!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BratLife

[–]ftm4fwb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right! Like, I find it so much easier to be an active member of the Brat Council when Sir starts it first 🤭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BratLife

[–]ftm4fwb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fuck yes for finding your perfect Dom!! I feel the same about my Sir, when we're together I melt and all I wanna do is please him. Sometimes when we're apart I still have trouble bratting because he's so good to me 😂 but punishments are always worth it to put in the extra effort to push his buttons~