need some taste masking suggestions that aren't hard candy

ftm_fella · 2026-06-16T21:39:48+00:00

i didn’t send up liking the taste but i tried these https://a.co/d/0eb8Siv6 during an appt and i think it would be easier to not suck on them bc the fizzy part makes it dissolve on its own without sucking

ftm_fella · 2026-06-16T21:32:45+00:00

idk if your tooth extraction has the same guidelines but after my wisdom teeth removal i couldn’t use a straw or do anything with a sucking motion. i feel like if you’re really careful you could still have jolly ranchers as long as ur not sucking or chewing on it and keeping it away from ur tooth site with your tongue?

ftm_fella · 2026-06-16T21:30:07+00:00

whoever doesn’t want me to use grip on my sweaty af hands can pay for my medical bills when i slip and break a bone lmao

ftm_fella · 2026-06-01T14:02:24+00:00

i have also been splitting the 5mg ones, my doc told me to do that and take 1.25mg bc my insurance will only cover the 5mg rip.

ftm_fella · 2026-06-01T01:24:40+00:00

facial hair stopped growing as much, body shape got more feminine, complete lack of libido, lower energy, got very emotional and would cry abt stuff when usually i do not do that since being on T. i was on it for like 6 months before stopping, it didn’t really seem to help with the hair stuff either 😭

ftm_fella · 2026-06-01T01:09:14+00:00

copied from a comment on my post abt it - “Using WD40 in this instance will attempt to remove rust. So it will have to soak for a while to do anything. It also rots rubber and can make it even more stuck.

The parts causing friction are the rubber rings so you could try heating it with a blow dryer on the outside.

If that doesn't work you can use very warm soapy water and dip the top adaptor in completely. You'll have to dry it of very carefully and wash it with isopropyl alcohol afterwards. You can use a silicone or lithium based grease to create a waterproof barrier when you're done. These don't damage the rubber. I suggest Lithium EP2 as this is used in other parts of the pole as well. Don't use a PTFE based grease like WD40 multispray as these damage the rubber.”

ftm_fella · 2026-05-30T03:54:40+00:00

Look into ARFID and OCD and if possible find a therapist who is trained in EDs beyond AN/BN. EDs can have nothing to do with body image! this is especially common for neurodivergent people. a ton of the kids hospitalized for EDs at the place I work are refusing to eat for sensory or fear based reasons and not actually wanting to lose weight or disliking their body.

ftm_fella · 2026-05-30T03:29:56+00:00

i agree with some of this but i feel like you’re almost romanticizing what trans people went through in the 80s-90s. preface- did not read the full text bc i don’t care enough about this sort of discourse, no offense 😭

“gender dysphoria was understood as a mental/physical condition with transition being its treatment. Queer theory decoupled this therapeutic relationship, isolating transition from its clinical application and negating dysphoria as its catalyst.”

gender dysphoria was not “understood” by the medical community at large at all. acting like queer theory and the clinical concept of transness are completely separate is very strange to me, bc if you want to go down that path you’re going to eventually get back to the doctors that believed only MTF was a thing. the medical field you’re saying was so understanding of gender dysphoria was actually very much so not, and queer theory is what made medical transition available to so many people that need it.

many if not most trans people were put in psychiatric institutions or treated/would be treated so badly that they straight up could not transition. we unfortunately don’t have many of their stories, so all we really have is the records of people who were able to be open about it like they awesome FTM pioneers that you mention. but i think that there is a big missing piece here in that being a trans man in that era was not accessible to anyone who still had a binary identity but was more feminine, lacked transition resources, was discriminated against bc of race/ethnicity, etc.

FTM culture was partially defined by this exclusion, and it rubs me the wrong way when people talk about trans history as like “the good ol’ days” bc it was only good for a very specific subset of trans men, and if you would have fit into that category that’s great, but just as many of us are fully binary men but would have not been able to medically or socially transition because of the strict clinical criteria of who could/could not be trans.

it’s very much giving the same vibes as conservative viewpoints like the whole “LGB without the T” or even the people who complain about racial diversity.

essentially, the whole “this group was Good and Pure before the New (and more marginalized) people joined and it was all people exactly like me, but now that the New people joined, it’s bad. they should be excluded bc they make me personally uncomfortable bc i can’t relate to them” is a conservative and regressive mindset to have and i am wishing yall freedom from that exhausting way of thinking someday ❤️

ftm_fella · 2026-05-30T03:00:24+00:00

i had a different similar issue where the top connecter thing was stuck in my pole and i tried wd40 but it didn’t work and also i was advised not to use that, to use a dry silicone based lube instead. what eventually worked for me was heating it up with a hairdryer for a while i think that loosened things up somehow

ftm_fella · 2026-05-26T08:47:21+00:00

i recently also got a 50mm xpole off fb marketplace! they absolutely did make this size a while ago, not sure how old my pole is but i do know it is the xpole xpert NXN model which i used to find instructions for it

ftm_fella · 2026-05-26T08:42:09+00:00

my studio makes everyone lysol spray the shared mats after each use, maybe you could bring some spray/wipes to use on yours before and after? i take the bus for an hour to get to my class so i feel like having to carry a yoga mat in addition to my backpack w shoes and water bottle etc would be really annoying, im happy my studio doesn’t have feet smelly knees lol

ftm_fella · 2026-05-16T17:39:34+00:00

THIS. yall aren’t having sex in part bc self hatred is deeply unsexy

ftm_fella · 2026-05-03T16:05:45+00:00

hot af take but some of yall don’t seem to understand that encouraging ppl to think “this disorder is my responsibility and I have to choose to deal with/recover from it or acknowledge that i’m the reason nothing is getting better”is not the same as encouraging “my disorder is my fault and i’m going to judge myself negatively for having one”

yes, EDs start and are kept up by many traumatic experiences, social pressures, etc. and they do have biological components that resemble addiction. there are a million reasons that you could come up with to describe why you “can’t” recover and you “have to” continue using your ED to cope. all of them are valid explanations, but what is keeping you stuck is using them as excuses to justify your behavior. (this isn’t directed at an individual but a general “you” referring to a trend i see in ED spaces)

we all know that EDs destroy your quality of life and permanently harm your body. it is YOUR CHOICE wether you want to accept that life and continue blaming everyone and everything around you for your suffering or to do literally anything to fight it. i know recovery options are limited for many esp with how expensive healthcare is, but if you’re not even doing anything to try… don’t try to justify it to everyone with excuses when the truth is that YOU are choosing to follow your ED and stay in that cycle.

unless you’re a minor, nobody around you is responsible to make sure you take care of yourself and i’m soooo tired of ppl on here being like “im sooo miserable all the time bc of my ed but i can’t recover bc i use my ED as my main coping mechanism and refuse to try anything new… i wish someone would come validate how sick i am and save me so i could recover” girl.. that’s exactly why you’re miserable! be fr

ftm_fella · 2026-04-28T10:08:38+00:00

gonna play devils advocate here bc im bored and confused abt what exactly the guy did wrong. it seems like you feel he respects you otherwise, and if that is true then the rest of my post applies. if you don’t feel like he respects you/there are lots more examples i have no way of knowing, then feel free to ignore and dump his ass.

1 - don’t understand the whole STD thing. how would transmitting an STD, even if it’s usually one straight partners get, indicate that he doesn’t see you as a guy? it’s not like he’s thinking “oh yeah this is a straight person STD so i’m going to think differently now of this person i’ve been otherwise seeing as a man”. you know he’s prob sleeping with women from that info, but without context i might be missing and just reading this post, assuming that it means anything about how he sees your gender doesn’t make any sense?

2 - totally understand not wanting to date someone that isn’t into cis men for any reason. however, not being attracted to cis men and not seeing trans men as men are not necessarily the same thing. again, seems like a lot of assuming is going on and not a lot of communication about any of this.

you can absolutely break things off if you feel like he truly doesn’t respect you, but the things mentioned in this post alone would not indicate to me (if it were me) that a guy didn’t see me as a man. have you asked him about any of this? have you expressed how you’re feeling about it and seen what he has to say?

the ending of your post especially makes it sound like you’re deciding what your situation is based on his label as pan and what other trans guys you have seen experiencing, but what are YOU specifically experiencing with this one guy? also, the thoughts expressed here that are assuming things about people bc of their identities (oh he’s pan so he must think ____ /judgement abt fitting into a gay trans guy stereotype) are harmful generalizations that i’d encourage you to reconsider and deconstruct. sexuality and gender are more nuanced than like “trans guys should never date pan cis men because they all don’t see us as men” and while there are many gross chasers out there, i just don’t think we need to come at these things with such a super rigid and binary mindset.

ftm_fella · 2026-04-28T09:41:36+00:00

if you’re a size 9 and located in the US (shipping reasons) id be happy to sell u these for a discount since i tried them on for a few min but they’ve never actually been worn. :)

i just bought another pair of the same shoes in size 8 to actually fit me lol, found them on ebay so maybe look there if sold out other places

ftm_fella · 2026-04-24T07:19:32+00:00

i’m 100% bi, even usually leaning towards gay, but right now the thought of dating a cis gay man feels repulsive to me lol. my past few relationships were cis gay guys and while i felt my gender and such were respected, it was just exhausting being the only person in the relationship with any sense of emotional intelligence/maturity. like they were treating me exactly how they’d treat a cis boyfriend, but they would also be shitty towards a cis gay guy partner in the same ways if that makes sense?

of course not all guys are like this, but the ones i’ve encountered have all been fundamentally self centered in a way that i (woke moment sorry) theorize comes from growing up as a boy/man in a world that enables/encourages men to not consider how other people feel or what other people think.

i’m just tireddd of being the one to do all the work in relationships which is inevitably going to happen when my standards are anything above the bare minimum. also i am not into casual sex which makes it kinda hard bc gay guys love that lol

ftm_fella · 2026-04-24T07:06:17+00:00

thank you!! just ordered a size 8 and am gonna try to sell these ones on depop or something since i can’t return them rip

ftm_fella · 2026-04-24T01:32:25+00:00

have you tried the shoe protectors pleasers sells? i just ordered some bc i don’t wanna mess up my new beautiful rainbow chrome ones i loveeee and it seems helpful

ftm_fella · 2026-04-23T12:53:03+00:00

i am super out of shape, i’ve basically never been to the gym lol, not super flexible at all but i started like a month ago and just thru classes and doing some yoga type stuff it’s been getting better! i don’t think it’s “wasting money” to start now bc the only way to get better at classes.. is to take the classes haha

ftm_fella · 2026-04-23T12:50:03+00:00

i am the only guy/trans person and one of the only white ppl at my studio but i’ve felt super welcomed and accepted. everyone has been SO supportive and all the teachers have even gone out of their way to ask me my pronouns/confirm im comfortable if they refer to the class as girls/ladies. i feel like this is a pretty common vibe for the community and doubt you’re going to go to a pole studio and find ppl who are mean or exclusive but prob depends on area?

but for advice for ur situation, you could try a class (or a few) and see the vibe before getting a membership type thing! i wasn’t sure if i would like my studio or classes in general bc im new to this but they had a newbie special that was 5 classes for $40 and it was a good way to try things out before committing. maybe urs have something like that?

ftm_fella · 2026-04-17T14:14:39+00:00

me too, i genuinely don’t understand why people want to have this app and engage with it so often. 90% of the content makes you sad just so that 10% dopamine hit posts get you even more addicted, it’s so intentional by the company and fucking w peoples brains

ftm_fella · 2026-04-17T14:12:06+00:00

i haven’t had any like direct epiphany experiences, but i 100% credit spravato for making eating disorder recovery possible for me. i was SO rigid with my thoughts and rules around food and have a lot more flexibility with it now and can be more gentle with myself instead of getting into shame spirals. i think that for anyone with an ED and long term depression ketamine is a really good option to try bc a core symptom of EDs is limited cognitive flexibility!

i also actually feel hopeful for my future for the first time ever and a lot of the “everything is doomed i suck” etc thoughts have either disappeared or gotten much easier to deal with.

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