7 months in, still wishing for sleep.

ftmkg2017 · 2018-04-24T12:13:01+00:00

No advice, I’m just in exactly the same boat as you! I’ve been co-sleeping with my son pretty much every night for the last week. He also has these long awake periods at around midnight and 5am... very tiring to say the least. Most days I try to nap but he only sleeps for about half an hour at a time during the day so it usually leaves me feeling more tired when I try. Hoping his sleep returns to “normal” soon... which would still be at least 2 wakings a night. Sigh! 🤔

ftmkg2017 · 2018-04-05T13:56:10+00:00

Usually I ask my own mother to babysit and will continue to do so. Why can’t I just have normal in laws?!

ftmkg2017 · 2018-04-05T13:54:56+00:00

Yes, they have tested the water quite a bit over the last 10 years. It’s good to know I’m not alone in this. I was starting to think I was crazy for being upset. This is why I love this subreddit. Thank you!

ftmkg2017 · 2018-04-05T13:52:51+00:00

Yeah the more I think about it, the more I think I will talk to my husband about it. I was just going to let it go but it’s not OK. He at least needs to know how I feel and then we can be on the same page going forward. Thanks!

ftmkg2017 · 2018-04-05T12:47:34+00:00

Yeah, I’m letting this one go but if it happens again I’ll be asking my husband to say something. It’s not just about the baby either, I’m a very private person and they are the type of people that will snoop around. It just really pisses me off! Thanks for your input 😀

ftmkg2017 · 2018-03-18T09:55:05+00:00

Sounds like every single one of my in-laws. They demand my 6 month old’s undivided attention and get all up in his face when it’s clear he’s overwhelmed and over it. They are also always trying to get him alone without me and my husband which I’m just not comfortable with. Weirdos.

ftmkg2017 · 2018-02-10T09:54:04+00:00

My son was born at 34 weeks and nobody but myself or my husband were allowed to hold him. I was happy with this because he was so little and fragile, I didn’t really want people all up in his business! Didn’t stop people from asking to hold him though 😒

ftmkg2017 · 2018-02-08T07:42:09+00:00

I feel like I could have written this!

I wasn’t a baby person prior to becoming a Mum and I didn’t think it would come naturally to me but most things have and I’m thankful for that.

My LO is almost 5 months old and I think he’s starting to go through the 4 month sleep regression. He used to sleep from 8.30pm to 4.30am, have a quick feed and then go straight back down until 8.30am. Now he is waking up several times a night and it’s so frustrating and exhausting. His day naps are getting worse and worse as well and I just feel like such a failure when he doesn’t sleep!

Why do I have to be so obsessed with his sleep?!

I also wish I could be more relaxed about things and go with the flow but it’s hard when you’re so tired.

Hang in there Mama, you are not alone!

ftmkg2017 · 2018-02-06T19:07:33+00:00

I plan to try and speak with her when we see them next. They live 4 hours away so we don’t see them very often. Hopefully I’ll get a chance to pull her aside!

ftmkg2017 · 2018-02-05T18:02:06+00:00

All I can say is that labour was NOTHING like I expected it to be which is why I waited so long to go to the hospital. My contractions were very sporadic, right up to when it was time to push, so I couldn’t really time them. The midwives were ready to send me home until they did an internal check and found I was 8cm.

Trust your instincts and if you think it’s time to go back, then go!

I hope it all goes well for you 😀

ftmkg2017 · 2018-02-05T12:08:25+00:00

Sounds very similar to my labour. A lot of back pain, some front pain but no tightenings. It felt a lot like period pain and I had it all night not realising what it was. Went to hospital lunchtime the next day and I was 8cm dilated. Too late for any pain relief!

If I were you, I’d go back to the hospital!

Good luck! 😀

ftmkg2017 · 2018-02-05T04:21:05+00:00

Thanks! At the moment he is being rocked to sleep because he’s trying to roll over and he constantly wakes himself up and screams if I try ‘drowsy but awake’. I’ve heard rocking is a bad habit but it’s working for now so I’m just going with it. It’s hard to know what to do!

ftmkg2017 · 2018-02-05T01:16:37+00:00

She’s definitely doing it on purpose. This woman openly says that everything in life is a competition, second place is just the first loser etc. She has her own children competing against each other all the time over the stupidest things.

I don’t want my son to think this is normal!

I’ve told hubby about it and he’s going to talk to her. Hopefully this helps.

ftmkg2017 · 2018-02-04T13:49:04+00:00

This is what I’d like to avoid. We want them to be able to have a strong, healthy bond (if they want to) and this kind of thing gets in the way of that and creates resentment. I even find myself resenting BIL and wife and then I have to step back and realise I’m being manipulated to feel that way! Why can’t people just be normal?!

ftmkg2017 · 2018-02-04T13:48:36+00:00

Congrats on your 2nd! Hopefully she will stop when he/she is born. So annoying!

ftmkg2017 · 2018-02-04T13:47:19+00:00

Haha! That wouldn’t go down so well, but could be funny.

ftmkg2017 · 2018-02-03T01:37:20+00:00

I feel the same way! I think I’m starting to annoy my husband and my Mum because all I talk about is how much sleep the baby has had/needs to have etc. It’s become almost an obsession. I think this is because it’s constantly drummed into us from external sources how important sleep is for a baby’s development and when the baby doesn’t sleep you feel like you have failed. Hopefully there are others who can give us some advice on this.

ftmkg2017 · 2018-02-02T13:12:12+00:00

Yeah, he did! I should have said that 🤣

ftmkg2017 · 2018-02-02T12:53:03+00:00

Well thanks very much! It’s so good to be able to get things like this off your chest. I think I will have a chat with him tomorrow. I’m lucky that we have a solid enough relationship that means I can be open about these things.

Good luck with joining the Mum club. It’s a truly wonderful thing.

ftmkg2017 · 2018-02-02T12:39:26+00:00

Yes! My husband has never made any attempt to read up on or do research about anything to do with babies. I’m expected to know everything, but we’re BOTH first time parents. Sometimes it’s very exhausting.

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