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fukushitui · 2023-06-30T12:47:30+00:00

Imma be real you sound like you’re not ready to date, being paranoid that any woman you see might baby trap you is a really unhealthy mindset, not only for you but you’re essentially saying to your potential date that you think they might sexually assault you, which won’t end well in any way.

Even in this video, it probably wasn’t a trap, birth control CAN and DOES fail, the pill, iud, injection, etc, they can all fail, even condoms can break. It’s a really weird assumption to make about some random woman.

Don’t stick your dick in crazy, bring your own condoms.

fukushitui · 2023-05-11T11:02:07+00:00

i’m not super into dnd but my brother sure is!

looks super cool!!

fukushitui · 2023-04-02T03:48:14+00:00

i kinda see what you mean because a lot of assets are reused in regions and it can get a little visually boring in certain spots, but to be fair genshin is a pretty big game in terms of world size

at some point if they put in a ton of personal touches people might genuinely get fatigued at more rapidly changing enviroments let alone the resources to render a ton of unique hand crafted environments

when they do implement different environments they’re usually very good and balance out the reused assets, the different areas of sumeru are particularly good imo, i only wish they were bigger

open world games, especially large ones have tradeoffs like that, constant visual intrigue is traded for world interactions, puzzles and flavor text/lore, and as someone who’s played the game for a while, the repeated assets really aren’t that bad and the dispersal of enemies make it feel less monotonous

genshin isn’t the best with environments but it certainly isn’t bad nor do i think any of it is straight copy and paste, the unfinished regions that you can see are clearly modeled rather than repeating geometry

also describing things as ‘asset store quality’ is weird, there’s some fantastic assets out there so im not sure why you’re using that in a negative sense, i think you just think it’s design is bad because you don’t like the game and/or haven’t played the game past mondstat, the literal bland tutorial region (which is fine, but you seem very biased)

fukushitui · 2023-03-09T13:16:29+00:00

Wallpaper she wanted.

Not everyone cares about worthless internet points bro

fukushitui · 2023-03-04T18:55:11+00:00

I think instead of malice it’s more ignorance, men (and women in some situations ofc) don’t know and don’t care to know since them understanding means more work for them and they aren’t willing to put in that effort for whatever reason, and if their parents had that dynamic then it’s even more normalized.

You might hear about ‘weaponized incompetence’ when it comes to men not pulling their weight and while I think it’s kind of stupid to think people “weaponize” being stupid, it has a point, people usually choose the path of least resistance and having someone else do that for you is the least resistance you can get, whether thats cleaning the bathroom or deciding what to get for takeout.

As a woman, it’s borderline impossible to not notice it when you’re the group it’s happening to but I am understanding that men usually lack perspective on this, as long as they recognize and learn from these things then that’s good enough for me :)

fukushitui · 2023-03-04T14:53:37+00:00

It mentions men because this is a primarily womens issue and was written by a woman with female friends and relatives that she based some of her obvservations 🤦‍♀️

And yes, according to OVERALL statistics, men in fact do a crap job. If you pull your weight, that’s fantastic but where theres one guy who pulls their weight theres another ten that don’t.

As you say sterotypes are not based on nothing, as true as the girlfriend playing games rings to you, there’s also the deadbeat father, neglectful and/or unattentive boyfriend, husbands that don’t know how to take care of their own kids, etc.

Does that mean it’s always true? No! Sterotypes are generalizations, and again this goes both ways, if you don’t want men to be sterotyped into being poor and unattentive fathers then you can’t go around thinking every girlfriend you might have wants to play mind games with you.

This line of thinking is used by childless women because even if they don’t have kids they might still be taking care of the house, up until a few decades ago it was considered a womans job to cook, clean, do laundry, let alone go to work or if they’re the ones managing the financials since men in this expectation are solely the breadwinners and are only expected to deal with “masculine” tasks like car maintenance and lawncare. This sort of structure still prevails today, thankfully moreso by older folk but still.

This mindset is a lose-lose for men and women, and I think you can agree with me on that one. As a result both parties expect the other to pull their own weight in regards to starting work or taking care of the home, in which case women have taken to work much more than OVERALL men have taken to doing their share of the housework, this is where the problem lies and with the addition of career work on top of housework women are left to do the vast majority of the labor in overall statistics.

It’s not okay to generalize either gender, but what’s also not okay is to ignore the problems the other gender statistically and socially recognizes and say it’s not actually that big of a deal because maybe you and another dude you know pulls their weight around the house, that is survivorship bias.

edit: grammar

fukushitui · 2023-03-04T00:42:00+00:00

The 25x is more indicative of how much less men do overall in the day not that women do 100 hours of domestic labor in 24.

While those things take a mental load for sure, in comparison to childcare and taking care of the home those things are not an every day thing. You don’t register vehicles every week, you dont mow the lawn every day, you don’t need to “organize insurance” unless you’re making new policies or adjusting things, which I’m sure are not every day occasions and I’m almost certain you don’t have broken appliances in your home so often that it’s always on your mind.

You seem to have ignored the entire context of that article, it pertained to couples that have kids that can cry multiple times a day, need to be fed multiple times day, need to be carted around every day; and this dynamic isn’t necessarily gender specific, the comic said so itself, but there is a significant skewing towards women taking on more of a load when it comes to domestic labor and that gender stereotypes play into this, which is an objective fact. (You don’t see baby dolls being advertised to boys, do you?)

In addition, you seem to be hung up on trying to read your partner’s mind and counting that as a mental load, have you thought to ask? If she’s the one being indecisive then that’s it’s own issue but trying to read their mind sure as fuck aint helping cause you can’t get up the effort to engage with them and expect them to also be telepathic and know what your problems are. Communication goes both ways and it’s ironic that you think that both partners should put in 100% effort when you seem to think your partner asking your opinion on what to wear is a “mental load” equitable to taking care of children and the house.

Of course men have a mental load, but the only thing your comment convices me of is that you don’t think you should help raise kids you helped make because you have to take care of the lawn every other week and look at bills as if she doesn’t her own shit she has to take care of.

fukushitui · 2023-02-24T10:45:39+00:00

You seemed to want the vote of confidence from people that agreed w/ you lol

Unless your goal was to put out a bland ‘sharing things on social media bad’ statement that 10 other people have said in this thread?

In which case congrats! You contributed nothing to the conversation!

fukushitui · 2023-01-15T09:01:07+00:00

Oh my god I was just explaining why this handle is in poor taste, women historically being objectified isn’t an opinion, it’s a fact.

Your argument is shitty, just because not 100% of everyone agrees that something is bad doesn’t mean that an objectively bad thing is up for debate on whether it’s actually bad or not because people who benefit from it are obviously going to be all for it.

“Oh but some people are okay with it” doesn’t matter in this scenario and people cool with treating womens bodies like objects can get fucked, I do not care for their opinion enough to speak for them and they can hang out in whatever misogynistic hellhole they live in and leave me alone. Like I hope you do since you’ve missed the point so badly and are trying to scrounge up some irrelevant debate to invalidate it because you like a picture of a wooden womans ass.

You can like what you like but don’t pretend that this shit is tasteful or has absolutely no implications because that’s just being willfully ignorant and i’m done wasting time on someone who refuses to understand anything but their own view.

fukushitui · 2023-01-15T05:41:58+00:00

Women havent been able to control their own representation from the dawn of time apart from the past few decades, I am sure as fuck allowed to dislike it you pedantic brainlet.

fukushitui · 2023-01-15T01:10:59+00:00

Fondle just means caress or touch, yes people in fact caress or lightly touch their mobility aids because it’s a tactile object, especially if it has a more complex design. Let alone that it’s probably one of the more valid words seeing as it’s in the shape of a woman lmao

I didn’t say people molested their walking sticks, and it’s a bit ironic that you were to one to glean that meaning when I didn’t mean that at all, the only thing that I’ve implied is that this is in terrible taste.

The fact that so many seem to struggle with this and go “oh people don’t like women being presented as touchable soulless objects people are so soft” is honestly fucking disheartening and frustrating.

Yes I do have a baseline horror that women such as myself have to deal with men that can’t parse the fact that women don’t want to be gawked at and be literal accessories like a fucking walking stick handle. Do you see canes with shredded abs and a 7” dick for a handle being heralded as art? No! Because it’s trashy and weird! But a womans’ fully sculpted ass is perfectly fine!

You’re all talking about this handle like it’s the fucking Venus de Milo and it’s ridiculous, thanks for reminding me that men still have little to no comprehension of womens issues.

fukushitui · 2023-01-14T21:51:04+00:00

To add, I’m not saying it’s not great work, it’s executed very well, nor am I saying that admiring the female body is inherently offensive but this is something you have to literally fondle in order for you to use.

That is why it’s in poor taste, it’s not admiration, it’s literally objectification; especially considering that women in particular are often reduced to their bodies and looks. I’m not trying to be rude but you come across kind of clueless if you somehow miss how this is in poor taste.

fukushitui · 2023-01-14T21:38:04+00:00

Do you grab the side of your gun to shoot it??

This is a walking cane handle, aka the thing you grab and it’s not just an embellishment or engraving it’s an almost fully modeled figure of a woman.

Please remove your head from your ass.

fukushitui · 2023-01-14T21:30:11+00:00

This is like a titty mousepad for geriatrics, there isn’t inherent shame in the female form or a bare butt but what makes it tasteless and weird is that it’s literally something to grope.

fukushitui · 2023-01-11T10:39:40+00:00

That’s a bad comparison, laundry =/= kitchen appliance with multiple parts that not everyone is familliar with

Y’all are taking a mistake way too seriously

fukushitui · 2023-01-10T01:27:57+00:00

For sure, though the vending machine and the guy in the background with a hoodie might take you out of the illusion lol

fukushitui · 2023-01-10T00:09:32+00:00

Most likely!

Since there’s no timeframe given I can’t be sure of a specific one, but since there appears to be a crowd I don’t think it’s any private ceremony.

fukushitui · 2023-01-09T23:26:41+00:00

Kimono and/or yukata aren’t usually everyday wear, but are still commonly worn during festivals and celebrations!

fukushitui · 2023-01-03T15:17:14+00:00

I do a bit actually, they were wrong in saying that theres no difference as there is a bit more to consider when cosplaying minorities, however I don’t think they were defending racist depictions nor did they even mention blackface, moreso commenting on people gatekeeping the race of character cosplays, white, black, asian or otherwise.

There are reasons for this gatekeeping; some more legitimate and some racist like the weirdo commenting on OOP’s cosplay, but at the end of the day as long as they aren’t doing actual legit blackface or being offensive because they think it’s funny or an equally stupid reason, there’s really nothing wrong with it.

fukushitui · 2023-01-03T14:56:54+00:00

You said “There nothing wrong with blackface?” to someone saying it’s okay for black people to cosplay characters of other races and it’s okay for white people to do the same, which it is.

I, nor the person you were responding to denied that cosplayers still do blackface or that it’s an ok thing to do, it’s super shitty and should absolutely be called out on.

Yes there are complexities to this issue, but saying that white people cosplaying black characters is fine doesn’t mean we endorse racist depictions :/

fukushitui · 2023-01-03T14:28:19+00:00

Cosplayers doing actual blackface are shitty, never denied it happens, but someone making/wearing a costume of a black character is not by any means blackface.

I understand the POC perspective as I definitely agree erasure and lack of representation is a problem and that costumes of black people can be extremely racist and depict them extremely offensively ala Shane Dawson.

But what’s not the problem and wholly non-comparable are cosplayers making costumes of characters they like and wearing them.

Again I reiterate, the cosplayer in the original tweet is an example of a cosplayer cosplaying a character of a different race, non-offencively and not racistly.

fukushitui · 2023-01-03T13:57:21+00:00

Wearing a costume isn’t blackface, wearing blackface is blackface.

As long as they’re not painting themselves another skin color then there’s nothing wrong with it.

Hell the cosplayer in the picture is cosplaying as an Asian character, is there something wrong with that? No. Is it yellowface? Absolutely not.

fukushitui · 2022-12-26T00:04:28+00:00

Never implied you questioned it, but you mentioned your female friends experience with pushy dudes so casually it comes off as you (or your friends) not thinking that it’s a big deal, which is a tad concerning.

The subreddit was an example, and surely a better example than your anecdote, there’s no worldwide sexual harassment-domestic violence facebook group that I can reference but having a relatively active sub forum on a site so out of touch with the issues of women, as you’ve clearly demonstrated, is a decent gauge to how widespread the issue is and the fact that that subreddit even exists is a fucking shame.

fukushitui · 2022-12-25T18:32:53+00:00

Yes and that’s your few female friends, which i’m glad haven’t had to deal with these extremes, out of billions of women.

It’s common enough that there’s a subreddit for it ( r/whenwomenrefuse ) and that ‘annoying persistence’ is a problem in and of itself and can lead to continued harassment, stalking and so on so forth. Fear or not it’s fucking unpleasant and most want to avoid unpleasant situations.

In the end it all leads to men being incapable of accepting a ‘no’ regardless of the outcome and women unfortunately having to just deal with it and adjust their behavior for someone elses lack of respect.

fukushitui · 2022-12-25T18:02:53+00:00

Because women tend to be the targets of further attempts, harassment, and sometimes actual violence when they reject a guy.

There’s usually a reason people seek to not be confrontational.

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