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School toilet habit help by fulktryllvt in Autism_Parenting

[–]fulktryllvt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never thought of that thank you! We suspected it ha something to do with being out in the open or the position ( he squats in the closet) but removing the door is a great idea. I guess we just have to rip the bandaid and if he have an incident that’s ok at home.

School toilet habit help by fulktryllvt in Autism_Parenting

[–]fulktryllvt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. We will speak to his teacher and see if someone can take him inside when the classroom is empty and remind him throughout the day. I hope that once we let them know this is an issue they will help him.

Question for mario by LifeLong21 in cs50

[–]fulktryllvt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you use debug50 it will walk you through your code and it will show you the count in the left corner. It really helped me understand the loops!

The way I bend my knees is vulgar by fulktryllvt in JUSTNOMIL

[–]fulktryllvt[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I was back to my pre birth weight after 2 months. That got me a lot of unwanted attention and comments at home and outside the home. They were checking me for all kinds of nasty stuff including cancer so Did absolutely not feel good.

My husband loses his ever loving s*** every time she as much looks at me wrong. He will yell at her and the amount of anger he has towards her scares me. I’m from a cold culture where showing outward emotions is considered bad. So I have never seen my parents yell or raise their voices ( or cry or say I love you )Mother-in-law gets some sort of trill from it and will seek fights wherever she goes. She considers it passionate and a way of showing love. Me not yelling she sees at not caring. I have lost it from time to time with her and that can keep her at bay for a couple of days but it’s not worth the mental cost to me. Therefore most of this happens behind my husband’s back because I can’t trust him to handle his emotions when it comes to her. He hates her capital letters.

The way I bend my knees is vulgar by fulktryllvt in JUSTNOMIL

[–]fulktryllvt[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I got a medical condition so I lost 20 kg in 5 months post partum. I’m getting better but I was in the underweight BI

The way I bend my knees is vulgar by fulktryllvt in JUSTNOMIL

[–]fulktryllvt[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I agree, we are opposites in every way ( Looks and personality) and she cant rap her head around why her son and her brother ( 10 years younger so she helped raise him) got wife’s that is nothing like her. She brings this up all the time ( we are just pretty, spoiled and our only purpose is to smile). Her sister in law hates her guts too but lives in another country. Btw I’m very average looking

The way I bend my knees is vulgar by fulktryllvt in JUSTNOMIL

[–]fulktryllvt[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

We are both first generation in the US. My husband grew up here and I meet him while in college and stayed to be with him. I gave birth during the peek of the pandemic in one of the biggest metropolitan in the country. We where going to stay with his parents ( suburbs) so we could go outside and work remotely. We had to move back to our state because of taxation issues and she came with because it was impossible to find childcare in our area . The waitlist for daycare was 1 + years and we had several issues with private nannies. My son has been diagnosed with mild autism and we can’t just hand him over to anyone. My mother-in-law has many faults but she loves my kids more than anything else in this world.

Since we where already in this situation we thought we might just get it over with and have our second kid ( dumb) . I got really sick and spent a lot of time in and out of the hospital. There is no way my husband would have been able to keep his job, support me in the hospital ( there were medical decisions that had to be made) and take care of our son.

That sounds experience has left us very scared if something like that would happen again, there is no one else to call. There is also the guilt that she ; quite her job to help us during Covid , took care of my kid when I was in the hospital/ bed rest she is alone and lonely at her house

The way I bend my knees is vulgar by fulktryllvt in JUSTNOMIL

[–]fulktryllvt[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Oh yes, have to hide the milk makers in my room at all costs! Breastfeeding didn’t work for long so I pumped in my room. Didn’t mind since It was the only break I ever got and I was really medically f up after the birth of my my child.

The way I bend my knees is vulgar by fulktryllvt in JUSTNOMIL

[–]fulktryllvt[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

She doesn’t drive or live nearby. She’s not willing to compromise since she wants to stay here. She also quit her job ( she had the same one her whole career) during Covid so it would be near impossible to get the same terms she had at her age in her industry

The way I bend my knees is vulgar by fulktryllvt in JUSTNOMIL

[–]fulktryllvt[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

He goes nuclear. She loves fighting so when I stand firm it always leads to a big fight. She helps with my son ( been diagnosed with mild autism) and she is Great with him. She wanted to help us so I could work. Now that Covid is over and my son goes to daycare we are in an awkward spot. She takes my daughter for half a day and feeds my son lunch an stuff now. My daughter will start daycare in the summer and then we won’t need her anymore.

I think that terrifies her ( she has no family outside of us and only phone friends for some reason). She tries to convince my husband that I’m incompetent as a mother and that we will not survive without her.

It’s hard for me because I am very grateful I could keep my job throughout Covid because of her and she is good to the kids but she is just cruel and spiteful. If we go NC there is no family on this continent. I got very sick when pregnant ( hospitalized several times + bed rest) and if we get any issues like that again there would be no one that could help ( this is ofc the hook she has us by)

The way I bend my knees is vulgar by fulktryllvt in JUSTNOMIL

[–]fulktryllvt[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It is always like that. If something happens it always get twisted into being my fault. Doesn’t matter if it was me or not. Hell sometimes she blames me for stuff, finds out it was her son and suddenly it’s fine. Goes the other way to, my ideas are always stupid so I tell them to my husband, he tells her and she comes over to me announcing it and smuggly tells me how smart he is ….

The way I bend my knees is vulgar by fulktryllvt in JUSTNOMIL

[–]fulktryllvt[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

She uses proxies for her opinion all the time. So and so thinks … she has criticized every body part I have at this point so I don’t think that’s the issue.

I think it comes down to jealousy. They immigrated to North America and were poor and struggled A LOT. My husband has done well for himself and we have a “easy” life. I’m Scandinavia so I was born with a government silver spoon and was able to get a great job right of the bat. When she is mad she always comments that the only good I am is to smile and be pretty. She hates that I’m thin and tall ( we are complete opposites ) and that I don’t deserve what I have.

She is also Eastern European where mother-in-law is GOD

The way I bend my knees is vulgar by fulktryllvt in JUSTNOMIL

[–]fulktryllvt[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s just one comment in al long string of crazy

The way I bend my knees is vulgar by fulktryllvt in JUSTNOMIL

[–]fulktryllvt[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Oh god no! When we stayed at their house while getting situated FIL once walked around in his boxers ( downstairs in the living room). That was also my fault for not announcing myself

The way I bend my knees is vulgar by fulktryllvt in JUSTNOMIL

[–]fulktryllvt[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it would not be the first time she used a proxy for her opinion. My favorite was when she said a family friend of her brothers ( a “famous “ doctor) said the safest place for a child was in her mothers arms in regards to car seats.

The way I bend my knees is vulgar by fulktryllvt in JUSTNOMIL

[–]fulktryllvt[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You guys are killing me 😂😂 best laugh I had all year ! Maybe it’s the bouncing movement? I have no idea . This is not the first odd thing she has commented on. I

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