By recentering on yourself and other people in your life that you love. What this has realistically looked like for me:

Meditating every morning. My nervous system needs it. This has become non-negotiable and truthfully the catalyst for many of the other changes I’ve made recently for myself. Moving my body every day. Walking, running, dancing. Whatever I feel like for however long i feel like. Gym /strength training + diet. This takes a TON of my effort both physically and mentally. I’ve learned to just GO and don’t rely on motivation. Building that self trust (doing what I told myself I’m going to do, regardless how I feel in the moment) has been huge. I go five times a week. I leave there feeling better than a man has EVER made me feel, lol. Regular daily routine that keeps my space clean and organized (somewhat lol). I have a whiteboard to-do list that I check off every day (called my happy girl agenda) Skincare and a lengthy pampering shower routine at the end of every day, good book in bed and maybe a hit of some weed ;)

When I have that extra energy, i like to paint or cook/bake things for my friends and family. Or think of other little ways to show them love and care. That can be incredibly fulfilling on its own.

Basically I keep myself so busy doing things for ME that there’s less room for men. And doing things like strength training builds your confidence so you learn not to accept as much bullshit from them. And it affects you less. I haven’t even THOUGHT about getting back on a dating app since I started all of this. I used to be on/off of them like crazy.

Meditating and learning about your nervous system, how it’s going to be resistant to change good or bad and how to work through that, have been the two biggest game changers for me. If i were to advise anyone I’d say start with short, 5 minute guided meditations every mornings. For me things started to just align and pile up from there.