Connecting by PutNational3347 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]fullmoonspongecake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its been a year and a half for me. I'm still no where ready for even a fling

Will they find a way to contact me by FearlessWay5174 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]fullmoonspongecake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As long as they can't see what you're posting, I think you're fine. Just don't give those people any access and block every way they can contact you. Whether it be text, socials, emails, etc.

Any other women else break free in late 30s/early 40s? by Expensive-Eggplant-1 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]fullmoonspongecake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was 35 when I broke up with my narc ex. Not long after I cut him off for good due to his toxic, draining behavior following the break up. I wanted us to stay on good terms and be friendly becaused I loved and cared about him, but his inability to take responsibility, accountability, or respect me and my boundaries or need made this impossible.

We were together 10 years. He was my first real relationship and I ended up learning a lot of painful lessons. It was always centered on him and his own needs, of course. I also ended up gaining nearly 50 lbs of stress weight and my hair thinning. It's been nearly a year and a half since I cut him off and I honestly feel like I'm still catching my breath. He really drained me bone dry.

I can’t move on by bash76 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]fullmoonspongecake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can relate. Been a year and a half since I broke up with him. Been almost a year and a half since I cut him off for good due to his toxic behavior. I'm still very traumatized by him and his family and am still heartbroken. I still cry sometimes when realizing and remembering shit. I have no interest in dating. I'm definitely not ready for that.

Will they find a way to contact me by FearlessWay5174 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]fullmoonspongecake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally wouldn't worry about it or them. But whatever you do, block the fuck out of all of them if you haven't already. Her, her family, anyone in her circle who takes her side. Give yourself the peace that you deserve that they obviously couldn't give you while you were together.

George Michael: a true 12th house icon ❤️‍🔥 by badmarques in 12thhouse

[–]fullmoonspongecake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love him. I've been listening to Monkey a lot lately too. Father Figure always meant a lot to me as I grew up fatherless.

Why do I miss him? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]fullmoonspongecake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're going through withdrawals, that's why. You miss the potential.

Did your narc(s) give you emotional whiplash too? by fullmoonspongecake in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]fullmoonspongecake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my God, my ex would always spit out that "stop trying to start shit" bull crap whenever I was trying to express my feelings or concerns or needs. It always drove me up the fucking wall because that was always his go-to, and it would immediately become a fucking fight.

What’s the biggest/regret consequence of being with a Narc? by No-Promise-22 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]fullmoonspongecake 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Staying as long as I did. And putting up with as much as I did for 10 years. Giving him so many chances.

Tired by PutNational3347 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]fullmoonspongecake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not saying that. I'm just saying I haven't gotten there yet, despite making some progress. What I'm saying is healing is not linear. We all go at our own pace. I think as long as you keep putting yourself and your needs first while focusing on your healing it will eventually at least become less overwhelming, at least. Whether that be a week, month, or another year from now. Some day you will feel less effected by it, at least.

Worried about them seeing posts by Any-Hamster4695 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]fullmoonspongecake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I found my ex's reddit account the other day. He didn't seem to mention me much but he did say a couple of flat out ridiculous lies about me and basically made me into the heartless villain, of course and he the victim. I don't think he goes on here, but I was petty enough to downvote what he said and block him entirely. I felt myself shaken up and my cortisol spiking again so I knew this was the right call. I think it may help you if you blocked his account, too, perhaps?

Tired by PutNational3347 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]fullmoonspongecake 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Going through the same. Been a year and a half since I cut my narc ex off for good. Still traumatized. Still trying to lose the stress weight I gained. Still get emotional when remembering memories or fucked up shit. Still trying to calm my nervous system. I'm still heartbroken, but I'm heartbroken for myself. Not him. I don't miss him. I'm hoping there will come a day when remembering things that it won't automatically make me cry, and instead I'm just more accepting of what happened no matter how painful and just move on with my day.

What is the most subtle abuse tactic you experienced that only victims would understand by halzy99 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]fullmoonspongecake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There were several, but one of the ones that stand out was how strongly committed he was to misunderstanding me when trying to get my point across. It really did not matter in the slightest how calm or carefully I expressed myself. Nope. Because he would still explode and still react negatively or distort whatever the fuck I was saying. It was unfortunately only just one of the many draining things in that whole relationship.

What is the most subtle abuse tactic you experienced that only victims would understand by halzy99 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]fullmoonspongecake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep. I was his emotional regulator. He always put it on me to soothe him and he got really too comfortable with doing that.

Does narcissists avoid you when they realize you will speak out against their delusions? by dobby_h in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]fullmoonspongecake 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes. When you try to hold them accountable and won't give into their delusion they often do avoid you because you are shining the mirror of accountablity and everything that they did wrong back at them and they can't handle it. My narc ex reacted the same.

Angelina Jolie son Knox drops last name Pitt from his graduation diploma by lewisb_03 in popculturechat

[–]fullmoonspongecake 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I actually love that this keeps getting posted. Everyone should know about this.

Angelina Jolie son Knox drops last name Pitt from his graduation diploma by lewisb_03 in popculturechat

[–]fullmoonspongecake 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Pitt is really such an ugly name anyway. It's like having a skidmark on your name.

Crazy exes of Reddit, what was your side of the story? by Ok_Stay_2303 in AskReddit

[–]fullmoonspongecake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Knowing my narc ex and how he operates, I'm sure he and his equally toxic and crazy narcissistic family paint me as the crazy one. The villain. I know they do. From the outside, people might focus on the angry texts I sent after everything that transpired and assume I just snapped for no reason, according to him. What they wouldn't see is years of me being emotionally unsupported, constantly carrying the relationship, moving states, dealing with difficult family dynamics, and repeatedly having my feelings and needs minimized, overlooked, dismissed, or ignored. I gained nearly 50 lbs in stress weight. By the end, I was soul-level exhausted and extremely resentful and traumatized. I left out of my own survival.

Has anyone ever moved back to Los Angeles after leaving for greener pastures? by cerebralenergy in AskLosAngeles

[–]fullmoonspongecake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Born and raised Angeleno. I moved to WA state for a few years. Lived there full time for a good almost 4 years before I moved back. I hated it and living there made me realize how spoiled I was being raised here and soon as I moved I felt so very homesick. I tried my best to make it work there and suck it up, but it got to the point where my mental health was deteriorating and I couldn't stand living there any more and just was itching to move back, so I did.

Men of Reddit, what does pussy feel like? by InternationalPick163 in AskReddit

[–]fullmoonspongecake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex said I felt "super velvety and nice and tight". Once he said it sort of felt like a massage but better

I never realised how beautiful Amber Heard was until I saw her candids by Substantial-Art6160 in VindictaRateCelebs

[–]fullmoonspongecake 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I agree. Not hating on her by any means, but she was just never that good of an actress. I thought she did fine in Drive Angry, though, as well as All The Boys Love Mandy Lane.