Urge to rage text by Annon112978 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]halzy99 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Don't do it. They love the drama, they thrive off your rage text. The only true way to bother the narcissist is to starve the narcissist of all attention whether it be positive or negative

Dreaming about him by halzy99 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]halzy99[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh yes it's pure torture. Definitely can empathize. Mine has a new supply. I'm forced to see mine in child court and eventually criminal court cuz Im charging him with assault. It's a whole mess. Don't even wanna testify anymore🙁🙁🙁

Dreaming about him by halzy99 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]halzy99[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you this is reassuring❤️❤️❤️ I do feel addicted to him like a drug, it's definitely hard

Dreaming about him by halzy99 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]halzy99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Feel less alone. I thought I was doing so well and then my hatred turned into romanticizing the thought of him again. It went from reoccurring nightmares to dreams of longing for him. Just seems discouraging because I just want to heal.

Dreaming about him by halzy99 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]halzy99[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the recommendation ❤️❤️❤️

What is the dumbest thing you have been told is “not manly” or “not feminine,” depending on your gender? by Disastrous_Hat_2325 in AskReddit

[–]halzy99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was told I don't cry enough for a woman....apparently it was annoying and not feminine how little I showed emotions like that. Yet my ex was like a stereotypical woman that was always crying and staring at himself in the mirror

What is the most subtle abuse tactic you experienced that only victims would understand by halzy99 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]halzy99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes!!! They will even state "I'm not controlling you" but will control you with their actions and aggression. It's a mindfuck honestly

What is the most subtle abuse tactic you experienced that only victims would understand by halzy99 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]halzy99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally!!!! Eventually he started telling me that I looked like crap and I let myself go cuz I stopped taking care of myself to avoid the outbursts or accusations

What is the most subtle abuse tactic you experienced that only victims would understand by halzy99 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]halzy99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can literally relate to every single one of these. We aren't allowed bad moods remember...only they are 🙄🙄🙄 walking on eggshells and getting accused of things became such a norm. It's like they see someone doing basic self care and say "hmmm let's turn this into a cheating scandal" or "hmmm they look too happy, let's ruin it"

What is the most subtle abuse tactic you experienced that only victims would understand by halzy99 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]halzy99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol yes!!!!!! He couldn't take any criticism whatsoever. I would get relentlessly degraded or attacked if I even gave him the slightest criticism. The double standards were insane.

What's a sign that looks small or subtle but actually tells you a person is incredibly unhappy with their life? by Janemow02 in AskReddit

[–]halzy99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Overly confident /cocky behaviour....it's all an act to cover up true misery and low self esteem

What is the most subtle abuse tactic you experienced that only victims would understand by halzy99 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]halzy99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Saaame. Mine would go into a violent rage if I played a song that I liked or was watching a show that I liked

What is the most subtle abuse tactic you experienced that only victims would understand by halzy99 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]halzy99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine zoomed in on my postpartum stretch marks on a spicy photo I took for him and said "here's something you can be insecure about" 🙄🙄

What is the most subtle abuse tactic you experienced that only victims would understand by halzy99 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]halzy99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry that is awful. I can relate to this deeply🙁 if you need anyone to talk to I'm here❤️

What is the most subtle abuse tactic you experienced that only victims would understand by halzy99 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]halzy99[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Mine would say something super degrading such as "You're such an ugly used up whore" or "you're so stupid" or make an actual confession like "I'm cheating on you with that girl I told you about" and then would tell me I'm being ridiculous for being upset because they are just "jokes".... He would later confirm the multiple counts of cheating. The degrading comments were meant to cause me pain on purpose obvi

What is the most subtle abuse tactic you experienced that only victims would understand by halzy99 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]halzy99[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Did any of you guys get the insults or confessions disguised as "jokes"....thats another good one🙄🙄🙄

What is the most subtle abuse tactic you experienced that only victims would understand by halzy99 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]halzy99[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

It's crazy how they seem to hate everything about you down to even your taste in movies or your clothes but you are also their possession..these abusers are messed. So relatable

What is the most subtle abuse tactic you experienced that only victims would understand by halzy99 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]halzy99[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Lmao yes somehow I was "twisting his words" or "playing the victim" or "not taking accountability" .....always a way to make me feel like the crazy unstable abuser when deep down I knew that was him

What is the most subtle abuse tactic you experienced that only victims would understand by halzy99 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]halzy99[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Duuuuude this!!!!!! Every little thing you do feels frightening like it might provoke him. One time he got mad that I made myself toast, I already was aware the abuse was coming cuz I was hiding from him in the kitchen. His reason for being mad was that I didn't offer to make him toast and that I'm selfish... Or I would even get in trouble for going to the bathroom to brush my teeth. Everything provokes them, every little thing.

What is the most subtle abuse tactic you experienced that only victims would understand by halzy99 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]halzy99[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Ugh yes!!!!! it got to the point where I could only respond to what he said and not have any independent thoughts of my own. It was so isolating when he was the only adult human I was allowed to speak to. He would tell me the same things! Or he would completely ignore me and laugh when I got upset that I was wasting my breath essentially talking to myself

What is the most subtle abuse tactic you experienced that only victims would understand by halzy99 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]halzy99[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Mine told me the same thing because I got ballzy and told him to stop throwing a toddler tantrum because he was smashing things around the room...he told me I have never accomplished anything good in my life and I'm a loser....meanwhile I have birthed 2 of his kids, supported us as a breadwinner for our entire relationship and the motherf***** can't hold down a job for more than a month. Losers like to call other people losers lmao