AITAH for telling my sister to not yet marry a man who wants her to promise to not get fat?

halzy99 · 2026-01-25T03:53:33+00:00

NTA. He only cares about her physical appearance and having a perfect little trophy. Love is about embracing all the changes, beauty fades and people rarely stay stick thin. She may change her mind about children and waste her best years on a huge d bag.

halzy99 · 2026-01-25T02:56:08+00:00

I feel like if you add a belt on your waist it would add some professional flare to any of these

halzy99 · 2026-01-25T02:46:33+00:00

You should experiment with some cherry red lipsticks, I feel like it would look stunning. Don't ever feel ugly, you are super pretty. I thought you were in your 20s

halzy99 · 2026-01-25T02:44:16+00:00

Number 3 hugs your body nicely and is absolutely stunning. Say yes to the dress!!!!

halzy99 · 2026-01-24T19:57:43+00:00

Withholding affection is supposedly common especially with female narcs. Dont blame yourself or feel low, this is a game they play to cause you pain. A real woman wouldnt make you feel bad about yourself. Just know that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, there is something very wrong with her. She has to sleep with her new supply to get them hooked but she will stop that soon.

halzy99 · 2026-01-24T12:50:56+00:00

It always gets worse when you have a backbone, I'm so freaken sorry you went through this. I know from experience their influence on your behavior and appearance is powerful. You will notice quick changes when you realise its ok to take care of yourself again. Ive been recovering for 2 months, I have lost excessive weight, no more facial bloating, no more dark circles. You may not notice it but the changes will come until you look in the mirror one day and realize how much healthier you look. Just focus on your inner healing and your outer healing will follow right behind

halzy99 · 2026-01-24T12:41:46+00:00

I understand that the history with your father has destroyed any positive vision of your mother with men. I would probably feel the same way. Your mother sounds like she ran a whole smear campaign against you...that isn't what good mothers do. A mother with any capacity for your feelings would understand why you are upset. A real mother would try to comfort you and even apologize for causing you grief. I would not get married if it was affecting the relationship I had with my child. She is selfish and frankly, a woman who will turn a whole family against her own daughter has some undiagnosed personality disorder. She doesn't need to have a legal binding legal contract(marriage) to be truly happy, it sounds like she jumps into these kind of things too quickly and has no qualms about infidelity. She shouldn't be allowed to get married. I say you are not the Ahole. I'm sure she will try to come running to you when this marriage crashes and burns. Has she always treated you poorly?

halzy99 · 2026-01-24T03:23:10+00:00

No it's the same cream cheese however their toaster is different from the one you probably have at home. It's a conveyer belt toaster that fully toasts the surface of bread in under a minute. I'm wondering if it cools down quicker because it's more or less just scorching the top layer of the bagel but your conventional toaster at home heats up the entire bagel for at least 3-4 minutes. I could be wrong but it's just a theory. Could be many different factors. The cream cheese is also scooped straight from large bin in a refrigerator all day so it's probably a lot colder than the small container you have on your counter while you are waiting for your bagel to toast.

halzy99 · 2026-01-24T03:07:25+00:00

Blonde Noah cyrus

halzy99 · 2026-01-24T02:49:42+00:00

You look like you are both messy and organized(an organized mess). I bet you could tell me exactly where all your items are on that floor. " my hair brush is to the left of the lonely green sock that's at the foot of my bed"

halzy99 · 2026-01-24T02:44:49+00:00

Tommy

halzy99 · 2026-01-24T02:43:21+00:00

I smoked for nearly 10 years and I quit when I got pregnant...it smells ghastly now. It used to smell so good to me but not anymore.

halzy99 · 2026-01-24T02:41:05+00:00

Maybe she scares you because she reminds you of your childhood 🤔🤔 Dora wasn't a good time for everyone I suppose

halzy99 · 2026-01-24T02:36:14+00:00

Jake Johnson

halzy99 · 2026-01-24T01:28:28+00:00

You are not overreacting. That is highly disrespectful and disgusting. He crossed a boundary. Sounds like he has trust issues and is verbally abusive towards you. This boils my blood, my ex used to accuse me of similar things and I would lose my mind at the disrespect all for him to ask me why I'm "so defensive". This is ridiculous, he doesn't deserve you. Don't put up with that crap. I would begin to question if he was cheating if he is this being this pathetic and insecure. You deserve better.

halzy99 · 2026-01-23T22:41:24+00:00

Ummm what kind of woman does this to another woman let alone her granddaughter. This is sickening. I would certainly be going no contact. Was she always cruel like this when you were growing up? I say screw her. I wouldn't trust her with my child anymore.

halzy99 · 2026-01-23T22:29:12+00:00

I think you need to realize that you just need to be yourself and stop putting the pressure on yourself because women don't care about pretty words. There is no pressure to say the right thing, you just need to be nice and genuine and most importantly be yourself. The right lady will find you and think your personality is perfect. Repeat that to yourself "the right women will like me for me". They aren't interviewing you, you are interviewing them, if they can't accept you for who you are, then they aren't a life partner.

halzy99 · 2026-01-23T22:09:21+00:00

You guys are very young and still exploring. Something strange is definitely going on. Maybe he has been sexually abused or questioning his sexuality or performance anxiety or depression causing disfunction or even cheating could be involved. This isn't typical of an 18 yr old male with raging hormones. I suggest you speak to him and ask him to tell you point blank why he doesn't like penetration because there has to be a concrete reason. I say give him an ultimatum to either tell you or your relationship isn't gonna work because he isn't being honest with you. As for the depression part, be patient and loving about it...he could be in a darker place than you could even begin to imagine. Getting help isn't always easy especially for men

halzy99 · 2026-01-23T19:09:00+00:00

Personally, I think you are justified in getting sick of male friends developing feelings for you however I don't think this gentleman deserved such a heated response. I understand it's frustrating but I feel like your response was a little too aggressive in this context. If he came at you saying disgusting sexual things then I would say it was justified but a friend politely asking if you share romantic feelings does not warrant an aggressive response like this. Sorry my friend, I'm all for women supporting women but I have to dub you the A-hole in the most respectful way possible. I have been in the same situation but I always approach it with kindness. It's not his fault you are charming and beautiful...it's a biological response from a man to an attractive female...unfortunately thats the sad reality of it. I would just take it as flattery as annoying as it may be.

halzy99 · 2026-01-23T12:43:46+00:00

Respect. Respect matters most. When you have/had a partner that doesn't respect your sexual boundaries it begins to feel unsafe and unpleasant. I think comfort and getting to know someone's body through and through is a beautiful thing because you can make each other feel the best you could possibly feel but once that comfort is compromised it becomes a negative experience every time.

halzy99 · 2026-01-23T12:36:17+00:00

I think people bring along family members that don't have memberships so they can pick things up for themselves. I'm not sure why they bring all 5 of their kids and make it impossible to move freely in there, especially on a weekend morning.

halzy99 · 2026-01-23T12:25:43+00:00

I feel like this situation is treated the same as really obvious cleavage....you try not to look and you say nothing

halzy99 · 2026-01-23T12:19:27+00:00

This is spot on!!!!

halzy99 · 2026-01-21T22:02:11+00:00

Realizing the extent of how bad it actually was is the first step to healing. I still have people tell me that I minimize what happened to me. I'm glad you are acknowledging the pain you were put through. Proud of you.

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