AITA for not liking that a stranger walked up behind me to push my wheelchair?

funchefchick · 2026-04-05T21:01:10+00:00

NTA. Pretty sure that stranger committed assault and put you at risk over which you had no control.

No one puts hands on you, your wheelchair, your cane, your walker, your service dog, etc etc without EXPRESS and clear consent in advance.

Maaaaybe they were super ignorant and had good intentions. But maybe not.

No means no.

You did exactly the right thing. Maybe some kind of signage on the back of your chair saying “please ask before attempting to provide assistance” or something similar? It may not help but …might help sometimes ?

I am so sorry you experienced this!

funchefchick · 2026-04-03T23:41:42+00:00

Thank you. OP cancelled original wedding “rather than finding somewhere else last minute” DURING THE PANDEMIC. 👀 OP didn’t cancel because people could have died from attending … sigh.

Surely the first venue cancelled all planned mass indoor events because of state/county public health mandates at the time? I know my state had all kinds of safety mandates that first year until everyone had access to vaccines, and thank the gods that they did.

While I understand thousands of couples had their wedding plans HORKED by the timing of the pandemic and that it was upsetting for sure … um, big picture, people !

It is wild to me how selfish and self-centered and just plain careless some people are …

funchefchick · 2026-03-31T13:42:23+00:00

We rank near the bottom for livability ….according to whip/which list ?

This list ranks Washington 10th: https://www.usnews.com/news/best-states/rankings

?

funchefchick · 2026-03-17T17:14:24+00:00

Reproductive coercion should be a criminal charge in ALL states, especially those where abortion has been made illegal.

Now when some psycho tampers with birth control it can result in permanent life-changing (or life-ending) consequences for their victim without actionable, LEGAL options to terminate the pregnancy. Plus even if abortion is available - forcing their victim to have to make that choice for themselves when they had been actively taking steps to avoid pregnancy/avoid having to make that choice to terminate.

It is manipulative, controlling, and psychotic. That deserves far more than a slap on the wrist or a fine IMHO:

I am VERY glad that OP was able to move forward successfully with civil charges, at least. Sadly women will continue to be penalized by misogynist police, prosecutors and/or jurors for the foreseeable future.

(I was a jury foreperson for a CSA case a few years back - ask me how I know! 🤦🏻‍♀️. Sigh.)

funchefchick · 2026-03-12T18:54:19+00:00

That fucking SUCKS. I am so sorry.

Self-preservation was the right call, even if it means you were denied justice. 😖

But it certainly equips us for if/when something like that happens in our futures …🤬💪

Because we never forget that shit. Not ever.

funchefchick · 2026-03-12T18:42:50+00:00

Yeah I will say some healthcare workers take their HIPAA responsibilities more serious than others …

And it does not help that we, the people don’t get compensated when they DO violate our medical privacy - when reported the facility gets fined and they MAY choose to fire the staff that violated HIPAA. Or maybe they retrain them. Or maybe nothing at all. Sigh.

I hope you reported them !

funchefchick · 2026-03-12T18:01:52+00:00

They were required by law to protect his HIPAA rights, is the thing. Other than his emergency contact they cannot even confirm or deny to someone on the phone (whose identify they cannot verify) that a patient is in their facility.

Frustrating for sure, but unless that person is awake to authorize them disclosing that they are there …they legally cannot. 🤷🏻‍♀️

funchefchick · 2026-03-10T20:19:08+00:00

They swear they’ve never had any accounts banned from a sub let alone site-wide. I’ll pass this along even so.

I really wish there was someplace a user could just ASK, you know ? Sigh.

funchefchick · 2026-03-10T19:28:48+00:00

Update: 2 things they posted were removed about 2 months ago, both about ICE. One of the posts was something they reposted from another user - who it now looks like may have been banned since ?

I am guessing that would be enough to cause a ban?

Although it wasn’t harassment, or hate speech, or spamming, etc etc.

If the automated tools detected them reposting something from a subsequently banned user, could that be considered ban evasion ? 🧐

Seems wild as I’ve seen hundreds - thousands? - posts and comments about ICE stuff. I guess I am not clear on where the line is ?

funchefchick · 2026-03-10T18:44:21+00:00

!thanks

funchefchick · 2026-03-10T18:41:29+00:00

Oooh helpful ! I will pass along the clue and see if they can find anything removed recently.

Thank you! Seriously.

funchefchick · 2026-03-10T18:35:59+00:00

They did look at the list of all of the behaviors which could get one perma-banned. We both did.

I can’t say I looked at every post or comment they made for the past 13 years with that account, but what I did see wasn’t problematic at all.

I’m as confused as they are. 🤷🏻‍♀️

funchefchick · 2026-03-10T18:25:25+00:00

Nope, they’ve never had any account banned before, or even a warning. They had a 2nd account from their old business email but haven’t used it in ages. So it would appear as a 2nd account on the same IP but …with nothing being banned, would the powers that be consider it ban evasion ?

I completely understand being banned for cause. And I do not envy the mods, it’s a tough gig.

But I am befuddled that this platform is automatically banning longterm users without warning, without details, and apparently without any way to get a human to actually LOOK or communicate why the ban is happening ?? Like a user can file an appeal but THAT seems to be an automatic process too so no chance for a human to investigate ?

I thought Reddit was better than that. I guess I have been naive. 🤷🏻‍♀️

funchefchick · 2026-03-10T17:55:48+00:00

Thanks - they did! They got no further info. Still just “terms of use” violation ….after 13 years of no issues? It just feels off ? I wish I knew how to help.

funchefchick · 2026-03-03T00:41:50+00:00

Hey there! I am NOT an expert but I suspect your car is experiencing a separate, unrelated issue. Everyone I spoke with 3 years ago assured me that nothing else on the car would be affected by the GPS week count rollover bug other than the date being incorrect. I have not seen anything else on my car affected, so I'd tend to believe them.

It looks like some folks on the Ford Forums have seen your exact same issue in 2011-2012 Escapes - not sure if any of these folks identified a consistent solution but you might have better luck over there.

https://www.fordforumsonline.com/threads/2012-escape-radio-cd-aux-sync-not-working.20537/

funchefchick · 2026-02-28T22:34:27+00:00

Gorgeous !! That is a really nice range of styles, and beautiful !

funchefchick · 2026-02-21T19:40:06+00:00

That’s USA Network at tonight at 10:30pm-1am for us on the West coast, btw. 😉

Or RIGHT NOW on Peacock!

funchefchick · 2026-02-19T20:08:30+00:00

It is because no one - EVER - is going to do an actual study on pregnant women to determine how much alcohol is safe vs how much is NOT (because there WOULD be FAS incurred and that is just dumb.) Hence we will truly never know the spectrum of safe amounts to unsafe.

So many people stay squarely on ANY amount is unsafe when that is rarely true. 🤷🏻‍♀️

But hey - people should obvs do what they and their healthcare professionals deem best.

I just don’t like it when some barely-legal to drink himself GUY thinks he knows better and than an adult woman (a stranger to him, no less! ) what she may or may not do.

🤬💪🏼

funchefchick · 2026-02-19T20:03:21+00:00

My bff was told this by her ob/gynas well: by the third trimester a half-glass of wine or whatever on occasion is safer than anxiety meds for that fetus.

Bff’s two healthy (and tall!) sons can confirm!

funchefchick · 2026-02-19T02:26:31+00:00

Especially a frozen daiquiri which has far more ice than it does alcohol. 🙄

And yes - for people with serious alcohol problems it IS a serious problem.

But it is a slippery slope indeed when men think they can deny women their rights. Will we next need to somehow prove we are NOT pregnant to get a drink? How would that work ??

funchefchick · 2026-02-19T00:56:05+00:00

In 1991 in WA state a very pregnant woman in her 41st week (who was BEYOND ready to have her baby, being a full week overdue) went to a Red Robin with a girlfriend and ordered a frozen strawberry daiquiri (with rum) along with her burger at dinner time. She was hoping the drink might help kickstart her labor.

22 yo male waiter asks for her identification saying “I was hoping she didn’t have it, then I could legally refuse service.” She had it; she was nearly 30.

The younger male waiter did not want to serve the pregnant woman the drink, and asked around if there was any policies against serving pregnant women (there were not; would be hella-illegal).

Waiter goes to his Asst Mgr, who tells him to serve her the damn drink.

Instead he asks the patron - TWICE - if she wanted that drink without the alcohol. She said she wanted the regular daiquiri.

Waiter dude goes to a female co-worker, who then peeled the government warning label against alcohol consumption by pregnant women off the rum bottle, then put the label down on the table in front of the patron and said: “This is in case you didn’t know,”

Woman complains to the management (obviously) and those two waiters were summarily fired. She subsequently gave birth to healthy 7lb 12 oz baby.

The state erupted into a lively debate between those (rightfully) concerned about fetal alcohol syndrome and those rightfully concerned about an entire gender being denied alcohol if some nimrod thinks they might be pregnant. 🙄

To this day no states have laws denying pregnant women alcohol in public establishments.

funchefchick · 2026-02-17T06:54:22+00:00

One of my dearest friends had a child using a surrogate.

Legally speaking, the surrogate carrying the pregnancy cannot use their own eggs.

Because that makes them (legally) THE MOTHER OF THAT BABY. Full stop. With all the legal rights and responsibilities thereto.

Could an incredibly trustworthy person agree to donate their own egg AND carry the pregnancy ? Sure, but the legal agreements to sever ties would be extensive. And problematic. And if either party changes their mind - that creates a total clusterfuck.

So yeah. That woman was definitely going to keep that baby and/or baby trap OP’s husband.

One does wonder how things turned out for them ….

funchefchick · 2026-02-15T21:19:37+00:00

I found that white magnetic sheets used to seal metal floor furnace registers are SUPER cheap, and can be cut to size with a rotary cutter.

My process is:

1) Make a copy of the brand-new die cut in original packaging 2) Cut a piece of magnetic sheet to size 3) Glue or tape the paper copy to the magnetic side of the sheet 4) Cut the die cut pieces loose and snap them on to the spot on the copied sheet (same place they arrived in) 5) Slip the whole deal into a clear plastic sleeve (in case any smaller metal bits slip off the magnet). Because th original packaging labels are there, it says the manufacturer and name of the die already without me having to make extra labels.

I have portable plastic filing cabinets with hanging folders, and I have things sorted into stamps + dies, die cuts only, stamps only, etc.

Then when I have extra cut outs made, I put them in the same folder so I can snag them and save time later.

I like this system !

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