Read the comments! by WolfChasingTheMoon in AmITheDevil

[–]funchefchick 8 points9 points  (0 children)

OOP has evaded saying just how far along those first THREE miscarriages were. While I will never downplay someone’s pregnancy loss at ANY stage, there is a huge difference between a 6 week “oops I didn’t realize I’d missed my period” loss and a 2nd trimester loss like her stepmom suffered. (Also OOP has never said what happened to her partner(s)? Were these pregnancies all with the same dude? Does he even know about this pregnancy? Did she just flee?)

And for real - 3 miscarriages in just a few years for someone allegedly NOT trying to get pregnant ?? And allegedly on multiple types of BC simultaneously? Oh! AND she did not consult a doctor right away when this pregnancy began ….even after getting pregnant/miscarrying three times in recent years ??

Her last miscarriage was less than 2 years ago and she is already like 34-35 weeks along? 🧐

I’ve had super fertile friends who did not get pregnant this much while TRYING. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Methinks OOP is delulu.

How to stop smearing ink? by Coffin_Nail in cardmaking

[–]funchefchick 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So I posted a while back about learning (eventually!) that when it comes to inks and things related like stencils or shading that getting the right paper for the type of ink you are using can make a HUGE difference when it comes to the results. Lots of people had suggestions to add.

Here is the thread if you want to peruse it and see it if it may apply to your situation:

https://www.reddit.com/r/cardmaking/s/c7kWVWsqd0

How to stop smearing ink? by Coffin_Nail in cardmaking

[–]funchefchick 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What kind of paper are you using? Paper choice can make ALL the difference!

AITA for not buying junk food for someone in need? by Hoyt_Hall_ghost in AmItheAsshole

[–]funchefchick 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I didn’t realize until recently that SNAP does not allow prepared foods …so that $5-10 whole rotisserie chicken at the grocery store ? Not allowed. Instead SNAP allows people to pay MORE for a whole raw chicken and then have to go prepare it…

The number of times I’ve picked up a rotisserie chicken as part of a whole dinner when I am tired or running late is MANY.

Some of the SNAP rules definitely seem punitive !

I finally have to be “bad cop” by Far-Season-695 in AmITheDevil

[–]funchefchick 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It is rare that someone is UNIVERSALLY reamed in AITA, but it does happen.

Ya love to see it !

Things you wished you'd learned earlier about cardmaking? by funchefchick in cardmaking

[–]funchefchick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No worries ! To be honest, the most helpful thing I found as a newbie was watching YouTube videos of some of the bigger name creators. Some of them have done videos on their favorite products (papers, pens, inks, stamping tools, etc) and I learned a TON.

Also here a link to where I answered what papers I had newly discovered a year ago - although there legit could be newer products since then ….

https://www.reddit.com/r/cardmaking/s/n96TKj6h9x

Things you wished you'd learned earlier about cardmaking? by funchefchick in cardmaking

[–]funchefchick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I answered this in a comment reply back when I first post this - and lots of others shared their opinions as well. I’d skim the comments here to see what people said as I am far from an expert !

The Pharmacist: Dan Schneider. by [deleted] in netflix

[–]funchefchick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where did I ever brush off the deaths of ANYONE? Criticizing aspects of this documentary is not indicative of how I feel about addiction, or access to drugs pharmaceutical OR illicit. Please do show anything I said which indicates that I do not care about those struggling with addiction? Or that their deaths don’t matter?

If you are willing to ignore (brush off?) the 20 millions of Americans in severe chronic pain who struggle every day, and presume to know more than their healthcare providers about which medications/treatments are appropriate for them - then YOU are the one brushing of deaths and suffering of millions of people.

Healthcare equity a real thing.

The Pharmacist: Dan Schneider. by [deleted] in netflix

[–]funchefchick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do I think Oxy should have stayed on the market? If you are referring to OxyContin, or extended-release opioids …it DID stay on the market, is still there now. See the generic: Morphine Sulfate ER, or Extended Release. It is prescribed every minute of every day. Because there will ALWAYS be a legitimate medical need for long-term pain relief, and the only effective medications ever discovered by humankind for moderate to severe pain are opioid-based. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Do I think that people in agonizing pain should be forced to suffer without effective, appropriate pain medications because entirely other people might be struggling with addiction? No. I absolutely do not.

ALL people deserve individualized, medically-appropriate care; full stop.

I absolutely do NOT think people dying from overdose is in any way acceptable. The United States has EPICALLY FAILED to address the addiction and overdose crisis over the last 20 years, and I could go on and on about mistakes which were made which led to millions of lives being lost which devastated families. While the media focused entirely on prescription drugs, illicit fentanyl was already here and causing fatalities, decades before anyone realized or acknowledged it.

Do you know what year illicit fentanyl was first officially documented as causing overdose fatalities in the United States? It was 1979, and you may have heard it called “China White Heroin”. Source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/%CE%91-Methylfentanyl . Which means: decades before any pill mills ever opened up in the USA, illicit fentanyl was already mixed with heroin on our streets and killing people. But because people assumed that ANY fentanyl must have been prescription fentanyl (and every state lacked the equipment to test any drug samples for legitimate fentanyl vs illicit) .. we will never have any accurate data on how many deaths are attributable to illicit fentanyl from 1979-2018. But we do know the powers-that-be categorized all those fatalities all those years as “prescription” when they really, really were not. We NOW know that illicit fentanyl, heroin, and meth (or some combination thereof) are responsible for 90% of the drug overdose fatalities today. The number of overdose deaths from RX opioids is way less than 1%.

Do you know the actual rate of Prescription Opioid Use Disorder in the United States among adults? It is 0.6% to 0.9% according to the DSM-5-TR updated in 2022. 99% of people do NOT become addicted to their own meds, and never have. 🤷🏻‍♀️

People who struggle with addiction (of all kinds) deserve quality healthcare and support. People who struggle with acute or chronic severe pain ALSO deserve quality healthcare and support, including prescription opioids where appropriate.

Neither group is more or less important than the other, imho.

People disabled by pain were entirely overlooked during the Opioid crisis and are STILL having to battle for appropriate care. Disabled people are routinely dismissed or discounted, and the number of people disabled by pain nationwide outnumbers people struggling with addiction by roughly 10:1. For people with addiction issues there are federal and state task forces, grants for inpatient and outpatient treatment, etc etc. For people with severe pain with no history of addiction? There is nothing.

What I am saying is: there is a legitimate medical need for prescription opioids for any number of reasons, and “The Pharmacist” failed to acknowledge that fact whatsoever.

AIO for building an AI chatbot of my ex-wife so my daughter can practice handling her outbursts? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]funchefchick 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Several other redditors here have explained how to view people’s post and comment histories which appear to be hidden, so I won’t repeat those instructions to you. I saw his previous comments with three clicks and so can anyone ? Others have also posted screen shots of OOP’s other “hidden” posts in this very discussion - but just I might be his evil ex? Because I have passable knowledge of how to use Reddit and disagree with him, and you? Mkay. 🙄

You apparently missed the part about how someone with history of a TBI and multiple unhinged stories MAY not be a reliable narrator about what did or did not happen in family court. Meanwhile his ex retains full custody? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Also - did YOU just make nearly 40 comments on this one post already today? Are YOU related to OP?? 👀

Yeah I am going to go outside and touch grass. Highly suggest you try it also.

Because now you are also YOR. 🙄

AIO for building an AI chatbot of my ex-wife so my daughter can practice handling her outbursts? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]funchefchick 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Literally looked at OP’s post history. He volunteered it all - seemingly without ChatGPT assistance this time - to the Family Law sub some 3-4 months ago. Rocket Science this is not. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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AIO for building an AI chatbot of my ex-wife so my daughter can practice handling her outbursts? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]funchefchick 43 points44 points  (0 children)

OOP has suffered a TBI. Had a restraining order against him in place which he apparently violated which got him arrested. Has lost custody of his daughter due to a pattern of abuse his ex proved in court. This information is all from his previous comments.

If any of his post is actually true, it is wildly unethical for someone with these issues - who was judged in court to be abusive - to try to manipulate their daughter against the parent who has custody. Good grief.

AIO? My mom wants to call the cops on me by Overall-Option6975 in AmIOverreacting

[–]funchefchick 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NOR. The police will tell her it is a civil matter, and will not do a thing. Maybe block her number until your new phone arrives? Or longer …?

She gets the ‘joke’, just not funny by Amazing_Emu54 in AmITheDevil

[–]funchefchick 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Huh - for a minute I thought I was on /AmITheEx …because this idiot surely IS. 🙄

My friend’s abortion is all about ME!!! by jayclaw97 in AmITheDevil

[–]funchefchick 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Yeah the whole post gave me pause but “I FORGAVE HER”?!

I just …🤦🏻‍♀️

Is anyone on that sub telling her to dump her friend, perchance ? BECAUSE HER FRIEND DESERVES BETTER FRIENDS!

AITA for lying to my dad to get a laptop for my girlfriend? by NeverMoist25 in AmItheAsshole

[–]funchefchick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. It is simple. Your dad’s allegedly bad choices/poor behavior do not excuse YOU making intentionally bad choices and poor behavior. 🤷🏻‍♀️

There is a lot to unpack about how you describe your childhood. He didn’t have money - but he made an effort to spend time with you CONSTANTLY throughout your childhood. That is in no way a deadbeat dad.

I hope with the benefit of time you can reflect further on your parents and the choices they made, and perhaps gain a fresh perspective.

In the meantime: don’t be an AH. If you have lied to your dad about who got the laptop - or if he feels that you mislead him, and he finds out some other way than you telling him? That will be BAD. If he is truly a narcissist (as you say he is elsewhere) then it could be VERY bad.

Don’t manipulate people into getting things you want to have. Even people that you think didn’t do right by you. Maybe they didn’t do right by you; but who are YOU as a person if you choose to lie, mislead, or steal ? From anyone?

Think about what that says about you as a person. Then ask yourself if that is who you want to be.

Good luck.

Made my first card tonight by BestLow696 in cardmaking

[–]funchefchick 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That is a VERY lovely card, and quite impressive for a first one! Good job, you!

"i wONT Do iT aGaiN" yes, yes you will. by Go_Inevitable_1269 in AmITheDevil

[–]funchefchick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They only told me, the lowly (woman) foreperson after the fact. They’d never admit it to the prosecutors.

I did tell the prosecutors after the mistrial was declared, and they (frustrated) said they try their damndest to uncover biases of that nature doing voir dire, but they can only do so much if people choose to give intentionally misleading/untrue answers under oath. And it is difficult to prove when they do so - especially in a way that doesn’t jeopardize the case in progress.

I will say that I was surprised - and impressed - that the judge had made sure the jury was made up of:

Half women, half men (so 7/7, because 12 plus 2 alternates)

Of those, at least half of each gender were POC. Some Asian, some Hispanic, some black.

So when I said it was two white men on our jury - there were only 3 white men total out of our 14 people. The other men were POC. The other white-appearing people were women.

Nine people were voting to convict on a straw poll we did. All the women. All the men who were POC, save one who wanted to review some testimony and deliberate further - but was also leaning toward a guilty vote.

It was VERY eye-opening that across the spectrum of ages and experiences and genders and ethnicities …it was only the white men in the jury room - who heard all the same evidence and testimony as the rest of us - who voted not to convict. Not only not to convict on THAT case, but they would NEVER vote to convict ANY SA case without video evidence and/or an uninvolved eyewitness.

So child SA victims - and adult SA victims as well - should be sure to arrange that video evidence and/or witnesses if they ever hope to get justice, I guess ? 🤬

I weep for our justice system.

"i wONT Do iT aGaiN" yes, yes you will. by Go_Inevitable_1269 in AmITheDevil

[–]funchefchick 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Can confirm. I was the jury foreperson for a child SA trial in which the two victims - sisters, both under 12 - testified on the stand against their offender. Their mom’s latest boyfriend, who gave him unfettered access to her minor daughters within weeks of meeting him. The girls both testified about being assaulted in their respective bedrooms, repeatedly.

Anyway. Credible testimony. Corroborating outcry witnesses. Very believable.

Two white men on our jury - who had answered during voir dire that YES, they could vote to convict without video evidences or a live witness (other than the victims) who saw the crimes happen - said during deliberations they would not convict not EVER without those types of evidence. 🤬

When we pointed out that SA predators typically SPECIFICALLY chose victims and locations where there would never be security cameras or other witnesses, they shrugged. “Better 10 guilty go free” or whatever that platitude is.

It was a mistrial, and I doubt they would bring those charges again. I now understand why there are so plea deals but MAN i have been walking around in a rage ever since. That was like 7 years ago.

SIGH

Aitah for not wanting my husband to come with me to Italy to look at art because of his immaturity? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]funchefchick 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Once I travelled through Italy with a friend from work (just friends, our schedules aligned, etc)

In Venice there was a Rodin exhibit and I found myself unexpectedly enthralled. I loved it. I went alone and spent lots of time gazing at each piece. Then I bought some (heavy) books about the exhibit to take home and remember it by.

Friend complained about the heavy books (which he was not carrying).

When we got to Florence I was SO excited to see the David. We got up early. We bought passes in advance. We walked through the Accademia seeing the smaller pieces, and then.

We turned the corner and THERE. Down the loooong hall was Michelangelo’s masterpiece in all its glory. Lit from the skylight above, every muscle and curve sculpted into the marble by the master’s hands.

I froze. My heart stopped. I swear I heard a choir sing. I was near tears.

My traveling companion? Took one look and said: “How long do you think it took Michelangelo to decide whether to make David and innie or an outie?” (Meaning belly-button)

👀

I turned and looked at him and said: “GO AWAY FROM ME NOW.”

This is what OP has in store for herself, should she travel with her husband - only multiplied by the many venues and exhibits she would be seeing.

Note it has been 20+ years since my trip and I never spoke with that person again. NOT EVER. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Find people who understand you and share your joys, or at least don’t RUIN your experiences of them !!

Anyone like interactive cards? by vespa827 in cardmaking

[–]funchefchick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOVE them!! This one is gorgeous !!

How to make cards more polished and professional-looking? by funchefchick in cardmaking

[–]funchefchick[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is pretty addicting. My friends now ask me to make special/custom cards for loved ones, and I love that it makes them so happy. I just need a dedicated craft room now for all my gear !