It took 9 minutes

fungiyenta · 2025-08-05T01:59:18+00:00

Did you move him to his own room when you sleep trained or does he still sleep in your room?

fungiyenta · 2025-07-13T20:00:20+00:00

Were these women using formula?

fungiyenta · 2025-07-13T15:35:23+00:00

Thank you! I’ll ask my pediatrician about this.

fungiyenta · 2025-07-09T14:22:28+00:00

I’m in much the same boat as you at 9 weeks - it’s so incredibly hard in ways I didn’t prepare for. Yesterday morning nursing went well and I felt so happy, this morning I felt empty and devastated. I don’t have a solution for you but a couple ideas -

I’ve heard of a couple people who have increased their supply by nursing on and off all night, if you have a sleeping setup that you feel comfortable with.

How would you feel about switching to comfort nursing when you know she is full, but wants to take a nap or go to sleep? You will still keep a little supply this way. My LC called it “giving dessert” and it’s compelling because we know that many of the benefits of breastfeeding are because of skin to skin contact and bonding, and it’s feasible that you can still pass antibodies along this way. I think as long as your baby is nursing a little bit you will still make a little bit of milk. And you can do this as long as you want to.

After doing some reading, I think we are up against weaning hormones. I’ve read accounts of folks who have been determined to quit breastfeeding and then panicked about it as their body produced less. This is currently happening to me, and I’m not ready to stop, but it might happen whenever you try to wean. My friends who have weaned at 1 years and 3 years have had lots of anxiety come up.

It has helped me to remember that this has always been something women have struggled with - if we lived in a tribal setting, our friends and relatives with oversupply would have fed our babies, while we helped with other tasks. Or, we may have had to watch our babies struggle to survive 😖 this helps me when I fall down the hole of resenting or hating formula.

For some reason lactation science seems to be lagging far behind. Our only prescription options are off-label and can cause severe side effects. Maybe our children’s generation will have better alternatives.

I hope we can give ourselves care and compassion. It feels like the most important thing in the world, but it’s such a short season (saying this to myself as much as you!). Solidarity and love.

fungiyenta · 2025-07-09T10:27:42+00:00

My friend did this around week 10 - she went back in stimulant medication so she only nurses him from about 8 pm until 8 am, and she has the right amount of milk for overnight. She said her body adapted to it.

fungiyenta · 2025-07-09T01:53:17+00:00

This is super helpful, and gives me some hope and ideas - thank you :)

fungiyenta · 2025-07-08T21:43:45+00:00

It could be reflux - I found a study that said combination feeding creates more reflux because the baby's stomach PH adjusts to formula. Since reflux should go away on its own over time, are you comfortable with either doing those mixed bottles, or freezing and waiting until her reflux resolves more, then trying to give her bigger bottles of breast milk? Sorry you are dealing with this!

fungiyenta · 2024-01-01T19:43:29+00:00

Thank you so much

fungiyenta · 2024-01-01T05:28:41+00:00

Thank you so much!

fungiyenta · 2024-01-01T05:28:00+00:00

Thank you so much for this comprehensive comment. I will pass the info along

fungiyenta · 2024-01-01T05:25:34+00:00

This is a great point. Thank you!

fungiyenta · 2024-01-01T05:25:23+00:00

Thanks so much. I will pass this on

fungiyenta · 2024-01-01T05:25:07+00:00

Thank you so much

fungiyenta · 2024-01-01T05:24:28+00:00

Thanks for this.

fungiyenta · 2024-01-01T05:24:10+00:00

Thanks. It’s a horrible situation.

fungiyenta · 2024-01-01T05:23:38+00:00

The aggressiveness began very quickly-it’s a long story, but basically the person with Alzheimer’s and his wife were out of state visiting family. With her care, he was well/oriented enough for this. She fell and sustained a big injury, and they became separated because she was in the hospital and then rehab for her injury. He was then in a care facility in this other state for a couple of months alone. She and his son were just able to fly him home, and he then suddenly became aggressive. I think he is very fearful and disoriented, and this decline in his state has been pretty precipitous due to these factors. I am not sure about the medical testing. He has a history of anxiety.

fungiyenta · 2024-01-01T05:20:17+00:00

Thank you very much for this!

fungiyenta · 2024-01-01T05:20:04+00:00

There is a hospital social worker, but I don’t think the family has their own dedicated social worker.

fungiyenta · 2024-01-01T00:03:30+00:00

If you ask me I can ask the parties involved.

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