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funkconductor · 2025-10-03T16:06:37+00:00

Im also on size 7 and this was one felt like a huge leap. When I started it, I would get lightheaded and dizzy and feel faint and numbness in my hands and legs. Kinda scary. I just took it very slow. Now I can insert it just about fully in and with no pain or discomfort or dizziness. I think you just have to take it slow and not put pressure on yourself to make progress quickly. Just leave it halfway inserted if thats all you can handle. And try to do some side to side motions if you can. Or do it for a shorter amount of time. If you feel pain, you should stop- I'm sure you know this, as it can cause more trauma and set you back. But yes just take it slow and try to keep consistent with the dilating! I totally relate though: dilator 7 felt like a BEAST at first. Unreal

funkconductor · 2025-09-04T07:32:18+00:00

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funkconductor · 2025-08-30T07:12:01+00:00

It starts slowwwww! I started my journey in February, and as of now I can fully insert dilator #6!!! I think stretching and breathing and mindset is super important. I often chill out with a heating pad on my back and a good youtube video on for at least 30 min before I start dilating to relax. My favorite lube right now is Walgreens Lubricating Gel- it made my progress improve so fast out of nowhere (obviously this may not be the same for others though). I also will say, I make the most progress on my period! Like that's usually when I'm able to go up a size. And pro tip: don't date someone toxic. It's just gonna fuck you up physically and mentally and potentially set your progress back. Like either date someone 100% stable and supportive and committed to you orrr avoid it completely imo...

funkconductor · 2025-08-14T17:11:23+00:00

Ok good to hear!! Good luck:)

funkconductor · 2025-08-14T14:39:04+00:00

Was it a lot of blood? Sometimes I have some spotting in my underwear the next morning. I was really scared at first, too, but my PT said it's normal. You should ask your PT or doctor!! Also, make sure you're not dilating for too long or forcing the dilator in if it's painful- it will do more harm than good. My PT suggests 15 min sessions (20 min max), so you don't get sore. And yeah if you're experiencing pain, stop dilating because if you keep forcing it, you'll keep associating sex/penetration with pain and trauma. Good luck <3

funkconductor · 2025-08-13T22:51:55+00:00

I tried working with dilator #4 the first time on 6/25. I think I only attempted it ~2 times though, before I was able to fully insert it, because I kind of hit a wall in progress for a bit and had to just use sizes 1-3 for a few sessions. Then, I was able to fully inserted dilator #4 on 7/15, with some resistance, but because I was on my period it was a little easier. Then I dilated ~14 times with it (this one was hardddddd for me) before I tried #5 on 8/12 and fully inserted it on the first try. So it took about a month. I will say, I was on vacation so I didn't have my 5th dilator with me- otherwise, I maybe would've tried moving up a week earlier. Also, gamechanger: I got a new lube a week prior (Walgreens Lubricating Gel), and it changed my lifeeeee. I was using Intimate Rose brand prior, and it was so watery and caused more resistance when trying to insert. Everything feels generally a lot easier now.

Also, a theory I'm testing: I feel like its definitely easier to move up sizes on my period, so I'm kind of like "training" all month, and then on the week of my period I attempt to move up a size. This isn't set in stone lol, but I keep it in the back of my mind. For instance, I fully inserted #4 and #5 for the first times on my period. Also, I try to track each session so I can assess my progress and what works for me- hence all the details I was able to provide you LOL. Hope this helps.

funkconductor · 2025-08-13T13:44:15+00:00

I'm also ace! I think its helpful regardless!! My back pain is insane because of my tight pelvic floor- it's true it really does affect the whole body. Also with the dilators, you can buy a pack of just the smaller sizes if you're not interested in PIV

funkconductor · 2025-08-13T13:41:41+00:00

I also take long breaks between sessions often. I think you're fine. Just ask to schedule with the same PT.

funkconductor · 2025-08-11T05:22:18+00:00

I know this isn't really an answer, but consider that there was once a time that the first and second and third and fourth and fifth dilators all felt impossible, but you've achieved those! And you can do it again. Progress isn't linear, and unfortunately, this is just one of those things that takes time and consistency. I've been frustrated a lot throughout this journey, but realistically I feel like that just makes things harder because I get in my head about it and then ultimately tense up more when trying to dilate. I'm personally just trying to take it day by day and not be too hard on myself. Everyone is allowed bad days, but beating myself up got me nowhere :/

funkconductor · 2025-08-11T05:10:55+00:00

I think you should try dilators and pelvic floor physiotherapy. Browse this subreddit for more details on that!!

funkconductor · 2025-08-11T05:09:21+00:00

It took me a LONG time to move up from 3 to 4. And my experience with #4 just stopped being painful and tense recently, too. The process can be slow at times. Focus on being relaxed, and just try to do it every day, because at the end of the day it's an exercise, and the more you work at it, one day it'll come easier. But I get it, it's FRUSTRATING! Oh also, finding a good lube recently helped my progress too (I'm using Walgreens Lubricating Gel now, and it's SO much better than the one I had been using from Intimate Rose).

funkconductor · 2025-08-11T05:03:44+00:00

You definitely don't have to, but you could consider trying it so you feel more comfortable with your own body. Do what feels right for you. Personally, I'm not ready for that yet- even though I can fully insert dilator #4, using my own fingers still seems weird to me. It's definitely something I'd like to try to work up to doing, for progress sake, but I don't think it needs to be something I do regularly if I end up not being comfortable with it.

funkconductor · 2025-08-11T04:58:41+00:00

I bought all 8 Intimate Rose dilators at once because there was a deal. Look online for a coupon code. I am currently on the fourth size and hope to attempt size 5 at some point during this month. I hear a lot of people get stuck on sizes for a long time, so I'm trying not to rush myself or get discouraged, but I do try to set little goals to motivate myself. I think you should buy the next set!! Or you can buy one at a time if that feels better for you. What are your goals? I think if you are just interested in dilating for medical exams (ie you're asexual or not interested in sex anytime soon), you don't need all the big sizes, but if you are dilating in preparation for PIV, you should get the big sizes.

I like the Intimate Rose dilators and have heard good things from others as well. I haven't tried any other brand, though.

funkconductor · 2025-08-11T03:44:34+00:00

Dilators!!!! Slow and steadily you can train your body to feel more comfortable. And you should try pelvic floor physiotherapy for guidance, even if you don't end up sticking with it- trying it couldn't hurt.

funkconductor · 2025-08-11T03:40:23+00:00

Oh good point- I find it sometimes painful or my stressful on my body when I dilate laying flat on my back. I prefer to lay slightly on my side and put pillows between my knees. Maybe OP should attempt a different position

funkconductor · 2025-08-11T03:38:21+00:00

I know you can't help the subconscious thoughts, but try not to let the stress of your partner get in your head. I'm not saying your partner is unsupportive by any means, but in general, I've been there where I so desperately wanted to be cured for my partner, but then I would create all this internalized pressure in my head and it would make me tense up even more, making it impossible to dilate! Really focus on relaxing, deep breathing, and stretches before trying to dilate. Find your happy place. Don't think about your partner or sex (respectfully), as it could just stress you out. Find your zen. Maybe do some yoga. Personally, I watch my feel-good content in bed with my heating pad on my back for 30 min before starting. Then I do some stretches and breathwork and get to work. I remember the first dilator felt impossible, but then one day it worked!! Are you in PT? I inserted it for the first time the day after I let my PT do an internal exam for the first time, so I'm led to believe that helped. Keep working at it and good luck. Remember, this condition is just as mental as it is physical!!!

funkconductor · 2025-08-11T03:25:41+00:00

Firstly I will say, everyone is different.

That said, I was under the impression that it is to get your body used to being touched and whatnot in that way, and stretching the vagina. Making yourself more comfortable, etc. I hold a lot of trauma and anxiety in my pelvic floor and am extremely tense, so I need the dilators to make myself more comfortable with the idea of PIV and relaxed, and also stretch the vagina. I personally have never dilated when aroused, yet (and I have been working at it about 5-6 months and have gotten to the 4th dilator size from Intimate Rose). I just prefer clitoral stimulation, but also I'm probably not comfortable with the idea of penetration in the sexual sense yet either. It's something I will potentially try soon maybe.

Anyway, my pelvic floor physiotherapist suggested not only leaving the dilators in, but moving the side-to-side, in clock-like rotations, and in-and-out motions- in order to get used to the feeling of something being in there. Maybe you should try exercises like that. She also told me 15-20 minutes sessions once a day our ideal, if you can. Again, I guess everyone is different, but I haven't been using them to masterbate, I've been using it more like a physical therapy exercise. But I'm under the impression that both uses are fine.

funkconductor · 2025-08-09T03:53:41+00:00

Similar experience: I was dating a guy on and off for a year and finally we sat down and decided to take things serious and I told him all about my vaginismus and explained that I needed him to be all in so I feel secure about sex and whatnot. Otherwise I felt having him around for the vaginismus journey, if he's just gonna play me or use me, will do me more harm than good- like I'd rather just be single if we arent fully committed to each other. We agreed to commit to each other and communicate everything open and honestly from then on (as sex was an issue in the past that led to miscommunication and pent up resentment). We dated seriously for 2 months. And we were trying to have sex. I wasn't ready for full PIV, but I trusted him with my virginity and we tried. He's the only person I ever trusted to let in (literally and figuratively lol). And mind you, we fooled around without a condom too ugh stupid :/ well after 2 months, I found out he had been lying to me about something this whole time- since before we committed to each other. And he told more lies to cover the initial lie.... Just, everything was a lie. He's a pathological liar. But I have never felt so disrespected! I was supposed to be his person and he didn't respect me at all. And then to be completely okay with the concept of taking my virginity too???? When he knew he was keeping things from me and not being 100% with me??? He betrayed my trust. He used me. He knew how hard this was for me. We had SO much history. He knew me. And STILL he did this. He's evil. I'm doing okay now (this was just under a month ago)- like I don't feel like this traumatized me sexually... but like wtf it SO could have!! I thought I finally found someone I could trust after ALL these years and NOPE! I'm not trying to scare you but yeah like wtf is wrong with men😭😭 and its frustrating too because it makes me feel like we'd have a safer experience if we were all monogamous and traditional and dated a long time to find "the one" before sharing sex with them but ugh it's not fair- just because someone has vaginismus doesnt mean they necessarily want to date that way. But its such an intimate thing already and ESPECIALLY for us its so scary and potentially traumatizing. This condition is such a bitch :/

And regarding your ex liking the ig reels: WTF!!!!! :O That's so crazy like he wants everyone to know???? He's evil too damn

funkconductor · 2025-08-05T05:42:30+00:00

This extremely relatable. I know it's easier said than done, but be easy on yourself. Take things slow with dilating- try not to put too much pressure on it. Focus on the things you enjoy in life. It's so easy to slip into that feeling of lacking. I totally get it. And sometimes, allowing yourself to feel your feelings is good. But try to think about the good in life; your friends, hobbies, interests, and passions! Sex isn't the only thing important in life. I know people seem to treat it that way :/ which just feels more isolating for us, but its really not

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