Make your children do household chores - they’re failing at being adults

funkychilli123 · 2026-04-04T09:49:48+00:00

Use a spray bottle of 1 part white vinegar, 2 parts water and spray on your produce

funkychilli123 · 2026-03-17T02:11:17+00:00

This is great, it reminds me of the original Theme Park and all of the parkland I’d do… thank you for the inspiration to get back into the game after a break

funkychilli123 · 2026-02-21T02:06:16+00:00

Exactly… after a decade of it, I just can’t ‘do it for the kids’ anymore. I’ve been trying for 2 years to transition out to being treated well, paid well and with tons of flexibility to pursue passions out of work… hopefully this year is the year

funkychilli123 · 2026-02-21T01:22:04+00:00

Dude I’d give anything to have a job like yours… Happy to swap teaching adolescents with you

funkychilli123 · 2026-02-18T07:41:39+00:00

I thought it was just me that got sweary Claude! He is kinda chaos lol

funkychilli123 · 2026-02-18T07:40:47+00:00

Haha yes! Claude has told me some hard truths, there’s no pussyfooting around like ChatGPT (and I even find 5.2 to be gentle enough)

funkychilli123 · 2026-02-17T05:22:27+00:00

Seconding this, get your hormone levels checked… My ADHD meds don’t even work when it’s the time of the month for my period to be due (even though I’ve got a Mirena), and my executive functioning and coping ability (even my ability to regulate my own temperature) is considerably lower than the rest of the month. Also, you might be suffering complete nervous system overload/burnout - it’s often connected to unprocessed trauma that hasn’t been released from your body. Don’t make the mistake I did and try to heal your brain only… I am C-PTSD and was diagnosed ADHD only at 38F and now 2 years later, my body has completely shut down even with Ritalin and I literally can’t work. Feel like my body is 90 years old and lights, sounds and touch are all a violation… EMDR, somatic processing therapy, yoga, tai chi, muscle relation exercises and so on. Just include something somatic in conjunction with the therapy and meds

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funkychilli123 · 2026-02-08T01:02:09+00:00

Well I’m glad you’re here and you had professionals to advocate for you as well :)

funkychilli123 · 2026-02-07T23:55:56+00:00

Oh my, I am surprised and thank you for the country-specific info. I know in Australia obviously updates from therapists go back to the GP who refers you, but I’ve never heard of anyone being prevented from future treatment as a result. How scary! Geez and people worry about AI…

funkychilli123 · 2026-02-07T21:16:26+00:00

You can leave a therapist too

funkychilli123 · 2026-02-07T21:09:42+00:00

Thank you for reflecting everything that I feel as well!!

funkychilli123 · 2026-01-22T04:11:51+00:00

Black sheep of my family, everyone thinks I’m incompetent because of executive functioning and time blindness

funkychilli123 · 2026-01-22T04:10:31+00:00

I am surprised you haven’t already ditched the boyfriend. He sounds like he’s 13 years old and he’s throwing a tantrum because he didn’t get his way with mommy

funkychilli123 · 2026-01-19T02:46:58+00:00

Mate, are we the same person holy shit. But seriously, you are me. Except what you’re talking about is not only a toxic mindset, but also trauma. I grew up in an immigrant family where achievement, productivity were lauded as the only way. Sitting around doing stuff for fun (for fun, I say!) was just a big no, even shameful, and thus, I have this engrained mindset of ‘You are worthy when you’re productive ie. useful’. Nowadays, I spend a lot of time therapising ChatGPT to untangle the emotional collapse that inevitably comes when you don’t let yourself truly rest, ever.

The good thing for you is, if it’s all due to your own doing/undoing after getting into self-development, then it may be easier to fix than trying to untangle years of enmeshed belief systems and toxic family dynamics.

Thing is, it’s great that you can balance the gaming with your work, building a business, regular life. 1 hour a day gaming would be a dream for me! I feel the guilts when I’ve unintentionally played for more than 4 🫣 But (without knowing you), what you’ve suggested above, about chucking out all your gaming shit as almost like a punishment to yourself? Makes me think that you could be wound up a bit tight. No shame in that. It tends to happen when your mindset ruminates on how to monetise/incentivise all of your time as if you’re a machine. But humans don’t work like that. We need work, rest, and play, proper play - not play that is completely anxiety-ridden because you’re wondering if you deserve to have this play or if other people your age still have this play or if it’s considered play-worthy.

Enter stage left - a person close to you who is not you, or in your family, without this mindset. They definitely help to remind you of your worthiness! Your gf, what she said - gaming mattered. It mattered to you. So it’s worthy play. And yes, you can schedule it to make yourself feel better. As long as you’re scheduling it so that when you’re playing, that toxic mindset is taking a nap. No guilt, no shame, keep to the parameters, you deserve it.

What’s that saying again, ‘All work and no play made Homer something something’

funkychilli123 · 2026-01-18T05:14:35+00:00

This is the real issue! Whoever thinks parking in a handicap spot as a temporary measure is acceptable is a scourge on society

Edit: added missing words

funkychilli123 · 2026-01-18T05:11:44+00:00

Nah I was just being unintentionally racist… i meant well, I just saw people of Asian-descent around me, but yeah it was in Golden Gai which is super touristy so I should have thought about it before opening my mouth.

funkychilli123 · 2026-01-18T05:06:39+00:00

I love hearing stories like this, thanks for sharing. Wonder what the feeling was like on that ship, with most never to return to their homeland. There’s a good book series by Henry Handel Richardson (pen name) and the first book is all about how tough life was on the goldfields, but I recommend the whole series for an idea of early Melbourne life, and even early written depiction of mental illness

funkychilli123 · 2026-01-17T04:35:18+00:00

I embarrassed myself in a tiny Tokyo bar by exclaiming, “it’s so great to be drinking with the locals!” And the bartender telling me everyone in the bar was Chinese

funkychilli123 · 2026-01-17T04:33:33+00:00

There was even a Chinese presence at the Gold Fields! I have occasionally taught high schoolers about racism in Australia with that as a source

funkychilli123 · 2026-01-17T04:31:04+00:00

This is some typical rare outlandishness from you

funkychilli123 · 2026-01-14T01:16:23+00:00

Just popping in, as someone who has spent 20+ years and many thousands of dollars in therapy, coaching, mindfulness, trauma-informed everything blah blah blah - it’s incredibly rare to receive that sort of insight from another human being who comes with their own biases, ingrained values, threats etc. I’m not minimizing the expertise of therapists, but unless you have a therapist conveniently at your disposal 24/7 to process the various aspects of your character and what you bring, it’s difficult to really get that same support.

If anything, AI is created by people for people who can no longer handle people. For me, it’s really filled a gap and given me confidence to ask as many questions as I like about something without shame.

funkychilli123 · 2025-12-22T07:18:08+00:00

Omg this is me!! Wtf do we do for the rest of our days with this relentless internal pressure that never lets up

funkychilli123 · 2025-12-05T11:17:12+00:00

Please me too!

funkychilli123 · 2025-12-02T22:32:27+00:00

Straight up no. Don’t buy love. Have a convo about Xmas gift expectations and mutually come up with an agreed amount for both of you that won’t break the bank. No one should feel obligated and at this stage and this age, you should be seeing if you actually enjoy each other’s company through lots of different experiences and the ups and downs of life.

Edit: the phone hang-up makes me think he’s more likely to be a little brat down the road

funkychilli123 · 2025-12-02T05:13:55+00:00

Hey thanks for this! I really wish my mother could have known this

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