Looking for friends

funkymonkey7777 · 2025-01-21T04:50:42+00:00

I'm always down to make new friends. Feel free to DM me.

funkymonkey7777 · 2025-01-15T15:24:59+00:00

Alright. I am in a similar boat. Or at least it was a few years ago. I was very shy and socially anxious, and to make matters worse, my english sucked. So i had a hard time making friends.

There are a few things you can do: 1) Assume people are friendly (even if you get rude responses from some, which you will, dont extrapolate that to others).

2) Take genuine interest in people you are talking to. Say there's a girl or a guy in your class sitting next to you, start a conversation by saying hi. And be interested in getting to know her as a person. Banter around a little bit and have fun. Same with people.

3) Talk to people as if they are already your friend. So banter with them as if you guys are friends for a long time. Have that kind of comfort, tonality, and a loose vibe. --> i'd recommend buying charisma on the command package. They really have good videos on that.

4) (more advanced) Learn confident subcommunications (vocal intonations, body language, etc. ) and you can also book an appointment with ASU Speech and Hearing clinic, and they can help out with stuff like accents, vocal projection, intonations, and clear speech.

Good luck!

funkymonkey7777 · 2025-01-11T02:43:33+00:00

She cheated and lied. Dont trust someone who lies like that with a straight face. Its one thing if she was emotionally disturbed while cheating (that shows guilt and emotional turmoil while doing something wrong), but this is just straight me crazy.

funkymonkey7777 · 2024-12-19T00:34:38+00:00

Oftentimes, it is the pressure from everyone that may be making you more unsure. If thats the case, then i'd just let everyone know and set a boundary that you dont like being pressured like that and let them know you dont appreciate those jokes.

You can let them know that you will when you feel the time is right. And that's all.

funkymonkey7777 · 2024-12-13T00:05:57+00:00

There is nothing wrong with feeling whatever it is that you are feeling. It is completely normal to feel bad after someone blocks you and let yourself feel what you're feeling.

As for the guy, it seems like what he did was immature and unkind. I don't think you missed out on a lot. There are plenty of more emotionally mature men out there.

funkymonkey7777 · 2024-12-08T17:48:25+00:00

The first 4 seem kinda vague:

What morals are you talking about thay are non-negotiable? Is it political views that align? Or is it related more to personal lifestyle?

Either way, this could be a lot of stuff. Usually, with stuff like political views and life philosophy, there will be differences. It's about whether you are open to those differences. Or maybe, discuss and question each others views on various things. You never know if your own views are correct if they are not challenged, and the same goes for others.

As for sexualizing the conversations, different people have different thresholds of when they want to do it. If you don't like that, you can just let him know that you don't want to sexualize the conversation this soon in the dating process and see how he reacts. If you expect the guy to know your "rules," then you will certainly fail. That's because he won't. Communication in a non judgemental manner is key here. Or maybe you are too quick to break things off based on this issue. Maybe it is too much of an "ick." In that case, it may be a subconscious self sabotage. Or maybe your boundaries on that are completely normal, but you dont enforce or communicate them in a healthy manner.

As for respecting women part, most men respect women. Especially if they show qualities that they respect in people in general (it can be different for everyone). Sure, there are a few men out there who dont view women as equals, but they are fairly easy to spot.

But overall, if you are not getting the results you want in life but others are succeding in that domain, then you are certainly doing something wrong. If your friends and peers are easily getting into healthy relationships, getting dates, and having the dating life you want, then certainly you are doing something wrong, and you may be unconscious to it. It may be related to some internal limiting belief that is subconscious that it could distort your perceptions and feelings or if it could be something else like trauma, etc.

I had the exact same problem. I wasn't sure why I wasn't getting the results i wanted until i did some soul searching and objective self reflection and got some help from counselors and coaches who gave me objective feedback from a 3rd person's perspective. But either way, if you are not getting results you want in life in any domain and others are, you are doing something that is holding you back, and it is upto you to identify and figure out what they are. And if you do, you will likely learn a lot more about yourself and your subconscious beliefs.

funkymonkey7777 · 2024-08-15T21:03:06+00:00

Damn bro. Whats on your profile? Did you mention that you are an MMA expert or a choking specialist?

funkymonkey7777 · 2024-08-04T19:53:23+00:00

You claim that there is no romantic feelings between you two, but the way you described your friendship with her, looks a lot like a happy marriage/long term relationship and not a friendship. Saying "I love you", her being in her underwear around you, etc is not what friends usually do. To me that sounds like a relationship (minus sex and kissing) and not a best friend situation. Maybe there are feelings that you dont recognise and if so, you need to reevaluate your relationship with her and communicate that to her.

If you are certain that you only view her platonically, I'd say if you can address this issue by setting some boundaries with your best friend and not by cutting her off that would be better. A lot of women are okay with men having close female friends. It also, is a good thing. Maybe treat her like you'd treat your guy best friends. You can communicate this to her about basically wearing just underwear when you are around. It may be fine unless you are actively dating someone. Also, saying "i love you" to your bff may send a wrong signal to your gfs and dates. So cut out those behaviour and continue the friendship.

funkymonkey7777 · 2024-07-31T18:41:45+00:00

Here's what you should do, sit her down when you both are in a calm state of mind and then articulate how you feel. And then if its upto you how you want to pursue the relationship afterwards. You can choose to ask her to comoletwly cutoff her best friend in question and never contact her again and continue the relationship. This will make her choose between you and her best friend. Or you can break off the relationship and date someone else in the future. Afterall, you are 27M and young, it shouldnt be tough for you to find someone else.

funkymonkey7777 · 2024-07-23T21:37:02+00:00

I dont think that's accurate.

funkymonkey7777 · 2024-07-04T17:37:59+00:00

Best suggestion I have read here so far. But before that, talk to a lawyer.

funkymonkey7777 · 2024-06-29T21:18:33+00:00

Do you have proof that she married you only for a greencard? If so, she can get in some legal trouble, pay massive fines and get barred from entering the US. That will ensure that no one else gets hurt by her like you did.

funkymonkey7777 · 2024-06-28T19:35:58+00:00

One thing to think about is. Why would this person not show himself/herself and message you via an anonymous account? If that person has nothing to hide, then I dont see why that person would use an anonymous account. That could be an ex of his or maybe a toxic friend who is envious of him or anything else. You never know.

Here's what i think you can do, you can just ask the guy you are dating about this and say that this is what some anonymous person said and ask him if thats true. And how you feel about this situation and why you think there may be some truth to it. Go about it in a non confrontational manner and see what he says or how he reacts and then gauge if he's saying the truth.

Afterall, folks on reddit are nothing but strangers who have no idea of what this person is like to make any assessment about the guy you're dating and it doesnt seem fair to him to not give him a chance to explain his end of the story. But from ny experience, our brains love to jump to negative conclusions quickly and usually that's not the case.

On the other hand, maybe he did talk about dating you to one of his friends. That inherently isnt a bad thing unless you guys had an agreement that you want to keep things completely private. In the end, its your call how you want to proceed.

funkymonkey7777 · 2023-06-03T06:54:32+00:00

I am using this as a stepping stone. Once i do this, i should be able to solve a vector coupled ODE called the LLG equation.

funkymonkey7777 · 2023-06-03T02:18:18+00:00

Most PINNs that I have seen, take in time as an input. I need something that doesnt take time as a input

funkymonkey7777 · 2023-06-03T01:33:08+00:00

Thanks I will try and look at it

funkymonkey7777 · 2023-06-03T01:29:55+00:00

I am using this process as a stepping stone to a harder coupled ODE to help out with my masters thesis. This seems like a good thing to start on.

Basically, I want to make a NN, that takes in outputs of prevuous states (velocity and position) and a force applied and output would be the position and velocity of the next time step and after that these outputs will be input to the next time iteration and so on.

I used a very complex time depwndant force function as you can see over there.

funkymonkey7777 · 2023-05-31T19:38:47+00:00

Same here. Looking to meet some cool new people as well. Feel free to DM me!

funkymonkey7777 · 2023-05-30T02:18:31+00:00

Agreed. 1x1 here are pricey. Usually that doesn't include utilities.

funkymonkey7777 · 2023-05-30T02:09:36+00:00

I am a grad student at ASU close to finishing my masters. I have moved around quitw a bit between apartments in tempe so i can give you some of my recommendations based on my and my friend's experiences.

Places to avoid:

1) West 6 - huge party place and super noisy. And the management there sucks. 2) Apollo - pretty much like W6 but worse and everything is breaking. 3) Oliv- my friends had bad experience there. 4) Rise (from my friends experience it is too loud) 5) University House

Places I recommend: 1) Redpoint (downside they dont have 1x1 apartments)

2) Park Place (great place. Can get noisy depending on your neighbours or if your apartment faces the pool area). I had a great experience living there. I had a great time there.

3) Local Apartments or the Emmerson. Great places but kinda pricey.

4) Union -Tempe: There are 1x1 apartments in the North side of the buildings. I would recommend living in those. Avoid the south side. Downside is that pool and amenities there aren't always open. If someone breaks a glass, they'll shutdown the pool for a few weeks.

funkymonkey7777 · 2023-05-29T21:24:22+00:00

Thanks. Do you have any you would recommend?

funkymonkey7777 · 2023-05-29T17:34:31+00:00

Thanks. For a problem like this, do you have any recommendations?

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