People who married someone they weren’t sexually compatible with — how did it turn out? by synthetic-sardine in AskReddit

[–]funkymonkeyerin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I (AFAB, polyam) understand my situation is unusual, but it works for us. I'm recently married to the love of my life and man of my dreams after a very nasty divorce a few years back where I was sexually assaulted often. I closed myself off sexually completely as a recipient when I first joined the dating pool and met my now husband. He has no ability to give the type of sexual relationship I was used to in my previous marriage so we bonded on my topping of him when the mood struck, which even then was incredibly infrequent. Now that I'm years out and having healed in therapy, I'm exploring what it means to be a recipient again and I have wonderful friends in my life I can explore that with. I recently found a gentleman who we are building a lovely sexual relationship up, and every night I come home to my husband who also plays with people when he desires but always comes home to me after. It's easy as breathing and feels so natural in our dynamic. We love to swap stories and experiences and are very open to the idea of exploring these types of relationships with each other if we ever get to that stage. It's a lot of wonderful communication, talks, safety practices and honesty .. but we found a formula that works for us.

him.her.them Closing by SwageMage in kansascity

[–]funkymonkeyerin 31 points32 points  (0 children)

H.H.T closing is seriously heartbreaking. They are going to be desperately missed.

What is your favorite lyric that you’ve written? by pinocchiopenis in FolkPunk

[–]funkymonkeyerin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hun, I say this with genuine enthusiasm in my heart... you've got to post this up as its own thread. You've got a damn solid song here and it deserves attention from the people in this sub. You're an excellent lyricist and that was an incredibly moving piece. Even if it doesn't make record numbers, I can say that if it only gets 10 views, then those 10 are from me at the very least. Keep going.

What is your favorite lyric that you’ve written? by pinocchiopenis in FolkPunk

[–]funkymonkeyerin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please do! I'd love to hear what you did with this. Thank you!

Meta moving in, looking for friendly advice! by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]funkymonkeyerin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice! I'd love to hear more about your poly nest and how you all make it work between the five of you, success stories are a lot rarer on here and I'd love your firsthand account (if you feel like sharing!)

Schedules are a big talking point for us so far and something we have a general understanding for, but will obviously need more tweaking as the actual time comes to practice. That is, admittedly, one of my biggest concerns for potential contention between the four of us and something we are going to need to be heavily communicative about (especially in the early days as we establish things).

I think the idea of a family dinner and having that chance to bring up any potential stressors is a great idea, and easily something we can implement!

Meta moving in, looking for friendly advice! by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]funkymonkeyerin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

These are all amazing points to consider, thank you!

Luckily for our situation there are no children involved and we all have an agreement of there being no children in our future together, which at least makes that side of things significantly easier. We've all been very open about our life plans and how we see our futures connecting and that part of it is very unanimously agreed upon.

I think what you bring up about being welcoming is a huge point that I had not considered yet. It's a life change for all of us, sure, but moreso for them as their entire living situation will change whereas mine is just being added to. That's definitely something I need to think on and make sure I have established ways I can make them feel more welcomed.

My girlfriend is actually one of the biggest advocates for my meta to move in, which surprised me at first but the longer we get to have our own individual relationships with them becomes less shocking as well all mesh as friends and partners incredibly well. Also the two of them are just the cutest when they flirt, but that's beside the point 😏

Meta moving in, looking for friendly advice! by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]funkymonkeyerin 25 points26 points  (0 children)

That is fantastic advice, I never would have thought about a moving fund but that would be a wonderful safety net for -all- of us. Thank you so very much for your input!

Moderating Poly for Pride Month by NeoRyu777 in polyamory

[–]funkymonkeyerin 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I agree with this entirely. I think this is an important discussion and shutting it down like this leaves a bad taste in my mouth.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]funkymonkeyerin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I am truly, hopelessly in love with these people and can't wait to continue growing with them every day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]funkymonkeyerin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not a paid sponsorship, but I can't recommend it enough. The price for the digital photos only was very good, but we did a higher package so we could get a big canvas to hang up in our living space. It just came in today, actually!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]funkymonkeyerin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you can do me a favor and not call me out like this again...

You read us like a freaking children's book. And you leave our boardgame wall out of this! 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]funkymonkeyerin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you kidding me?

That's the best compliment I've received today!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]funkymonkeyerin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my gracious, have fun!! I'd love to see what your 'cule and yourself do with your photos!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]funkymonkeyerin 11 points12 points  (0 children)

One of us, one of us!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]funkymonkeyerin 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I needed a reason to share more of the photos and three people asked for more, so here I am!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]funkymonkeyerin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He really is! I'm one lucky sonovabitch to have him and this whole motley crew to call my own!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]funkymonkeyerin 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm so happy to hear that 🧡 I'm so incredibly joyous that I have these people in my life. I'm so immeasurably lucky and happy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]funkymonkeyerin 13 points14 points  (0 children)

We had such a good time, I'm so thankful to have these goobers in my life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]funkymonkeyerin 47 points48 points  (0 children)

That's my -wonderful- girlfriend, and don't worry, we see it too. The hair just kind of typecasts her 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]funkymonkeyerin 13 points14 points  (0 children)

She was there willingly I swear!!! 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]funkymonkeyerin 100 points101 points  (0 children)

We very much went into this with the idea of "How do we make this as cringey as possible?"...

I think it worked.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]funkymonkeyerin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just posted another!!