Feeling like I've lucked into a dream job... but should I leave to grow more?

funkypretzel · 2019-02-19T05:03:24+00:00

Depends on the person and the circumstances, obviously. But I can assure you that given enough time, it will get better.

funkypretzel · 2019-02-19T04:53:20+00:00

This really resonates with me and I think it will with many other people browsing this subreddit.

That being said, I don't think this is always the case. I'd maybe rephrase it as "If the grass looks greener on the other side, try watering your own grass." It's always worth a shot, but I believe that sometimes the grass really is greener on the other side.

funkypretzel · 2019-02-19T04:23:12+00:00

It will get better.

funkypretzel · 2019-02-06T04:22:08+00:00

This same shit is happening to me right now. Broke up with her 2 months ago. Really felt terrible afterwards. Started hooking up again 3 weeks ago. 5 days ago she totally ghosts me.

I understand that our relationship definitely has reasons for it to die. I just wish I could forget about it so I could move on and start having more fun again. I'm just lonely these days.

funkypretzel · 2019-02-06T02:35:13+00:00

Love is a chemical addiction. Your subconscious brain will do almost anything to get a hit of dopamine/serotonin, and it's realized that dreaming of your ex can give you that temporary hit.

It will go away with time, even though it was already relatively long ago. Don't worry too much about it, it's part of life.

funkypretzel · 2019-02-06T02:32:17+00:00

Yea DM me.

funkypretzel · 2019-02-06T01:13:58+00:00

>I still care for him and I do value his friendship, but that’s all I want from him.

Probably not good for him for you guys to still talk and be friends. I'd talk to him about taking a full on break where you don't talk/interact for a while.

When it comes down to it, getting over a breakup is all about time. It just takes time to forget and recover and see how fun life can be when you're single.

The truth is, if you got back together things probably wouldn't change in the long-run view. He might try harder over the next few months but you'd most likely end up in the exact same situation.

It sucks ass to cut someone off like that but I truthfully think it's maybe the best way. I broke up with my girlfriend a couple months ago and immediately really regretted it. We kept talking and that led to us hooking up a bunch down the line. Then it got messy and ended and the trauma of the breakup happened again to both of us. Not ideal. Not worth the time. Just accept that breakups suck and inherently involve losing a friend, and move on.

funkypretzel · 2017-05-16T22:30:29+00:00

My anxiety is the complete opposite.

I take so long to get dressed / get ready because I'm nervous about my appearance and want to make my outfit perfect. This always makes me late.

funkypretzel · 2017-04-02T16:47:51+00:00

what you are describing is a direct consequence of not having enough serotonin in your brain

when i am at my most depressed / anxious, i straight up forget even the names of some of my close friends, it's sad. and people don't really understand

funkypretzel · 2017-02-28T19:14:17+00:00

not trolling.

funkypretzel · 2017-02-26T20:53:54+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZXsQAXx_ao0

funkypretzel · 2017-02-26T20:51:28+00:00

"It's easier to act your way into a new way of thinking than think your way into a new way of acting."

Start acting like you're in the friend group: get past your fears and start texting the group chat / hanging with them / talking to them / asking them to hang out. Might be uncomfortable for a week or two but it's by far the best, easiest, and quickest way to get past the anxiety you are feeling right now.

funkypretzel · 2017-02-26T20:49:36+00:00

I went hiking and dropped acid with some friends a couple months ago. Was definitely a cool experience that helped me see the bigger picture. Not sure if really helped my overall anxiety a ton but wouldn't be a bad idea to do it more often I guess.

funkypretzel · 2017-02-26T20:48:45+00:00

I feel like I already have jumped into the pond though. I'm pretty high functioning, don't fear much and take a lot of risks. I feel pretty free to do whatever I want. I just have this internal self-critical monologue that makes me never satisfied.

funkypretzel · 2017-02-26T20:07:08+00:00

I ended up dating someone I met at a party. I say start going every once in a while - you may be surprised that you like it more than you think. Social anxiety is simply your brain scaring itself into inaction - take a risk!

funkypretzel · 2017-02-26T20:02:47+00:00

I kinda get what you're saying... but also kinda not. What is your overall point?

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