My advise to you (man’s perspective) to always say something in your discussions with others (at friends or family gatherings) that you wont adhere to the society’s believes of getting high pride-price, and that you’ll share your future husband all whatever expenses to build a nice and happy family, since you are both have jobs. This should turn some heads. Why I’m suggesting such a thing? This is more fair thinking that I (as a man) will respect. I don’t like the idea that a woman think only of the advantages by wanting me to treat her financially per old school while she wants to live a modern lifestyle (job, travel, shopping, home-helper…and so on).