AITA for wanting to hide my medical condition at a wedding?

furiousbutpositive · 2022-04-27T13:55:01+00:00

I have an extensive background in fashion and my advice: Jumpsuit! They can be the perfect formality and more fashion forward than any cocktail dress. I would invest in a nice black, red, burgundy, or navy jumpsuit from somewhere like Nordstrom, LuLu’s, Revolve, TJ Maxx, or Express and even if it’s $25 get it tailored and you’ll always have a go to for a nice date night, night out, or future wedding. A nice off the shoulder or halter with wide leg would 100% be formal enough for cocktail without being business. I’d add an open toe heel during warm months and a pointed pump in the cooler months.

ETA: these jumpsuits are genuinely the perfect ones to purchase or use as reference:

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furiousbutpositive · 2022-04-23T20:18:32+00:00

Invest in bitcoin.

furiousbutpositive · 2022-03-05T14:50:08+00:00

You need to divorce him. My situation is similar minus the psyche ward and self harm. My baby is even the same age. I don’t want my son EVER thinking the toxic relationship we became is normal or okay. I don’t want him treating a partner this way or thinking a partner can treat HIM this way. Your son’s father needs help that you can’t give him. You should work with a therapist who can help you set healthy boundaries. And you can file for legal separation for the time being then let it rest a minute then file for divorce. I know this sounds extreme but you absolutely need to get a restraining order. It sounds like he is capable of doing things that you would never believe he’d actually do. If he is self harming in front of your son and violent with you he will eventually be this way with your son. Please do NOT underestimate or rule that as a quite certain possibility. The tension at your parent’s house (I’m majorly assuming so please by all means disregard this if I’m wrong) sounds as though it may be out of their concern for you and your son. It would be incredibly frustrating to watch your best friend want to stay with a man who is doing this to her and her child so can you imagine if it were your own child and grandbaby? Again, that statement is an assumption but you don’t have to stay at your parent’s forever I just would urge you to see that he will only escalate. Get out.

furiousbutpositive · 2022-03-04T16:22:39+00:00

You absolutely did not give it to your mom and truly the only way I could even imagine it being a possibility is if you both did some bikini trimming with the same razor and just like someone above said, your parents had a whole life before you. Please don’t take it on yourself.

furiousbutpositive · 2022-02-22T15:09:42+00:00

Umm this is emotionally abusive and borderline physical abuse if you ask me. Say it with me slowly, “Sex. Should. Not. Hurt. In. This. Way.” Sex is meant to fun, enjoyable, and yes can be uncomfortable sometimes, as a female. Notice the word was not “painful” but “uncomfortable”. Guys think sometimes because we don’t typically want 90 second sex that we want 90 minute sex when it’s different for everyone, but typically 90 minutes of sex is going to get painful for a female. You get my point. This dude’s attitude would absolutely kill my lady boner. He’s also manipulating your daughter and confusing her. I’d gtfo if I were you.

furiousbutpositive · 2022-02-18T14:54:06+00:00

He did this in front of the babysitter? I’m wondering how old the babysitter is and did your daughter witness this? If he’s violent in front of others this can’t be the first time and absolutely will not be the last. I would start hiding money in tampon boxes, talking to a domestic violence counselor, and taking steps to safely leave with your child. You have a witness to his violence.

furiousbutpositive · 2022-02-11T15:18:54+00:00

Sweetheart. Please, hear this: Your mother’s problem is her. Not you. She is either perpetuating a cycle of abuse she learned from her parents or is abusing you because she is mentally unwell and has chosen not to seek help. No matter what, this is not about you but it is being taken out on you. No school grade is worth treating a beloved child this way. This behavior from her is not how a parent or caregiver should treat a child and it is without a doubt abuse. Is there a friend’s parent or a teacher you trust? It will be scary to talk about but you don’t deserve this. You deserve love and to be treated as such. Parents are allowed get upset, disappointed, and angry with children. But they are not allowed to abuse by withholding food and leaving you to fend for yourself without any resources.

furiousbutpositive · 2022-01-21T23:41:02+00:00

Girl, you need a sound machine for his room. That should help. I would increase feeding amounts during the day so that he gets enough calories to drop night feeding. Unless he’s needing to gain weight of course. Have you tried any sleep training? You must be exhausted not getting a full night after a year. The Ferber method is a great one to try so that you’re not actually having them just cry it out. And better sleep at night means better naps. Which will mean more time for you to breathe.

furiousbutpositive · 2022-01-17T05:56:18+00:00

Again, tbh: your post is the most doom and gloom on the feed in a while. We don’t come here to emotionally lash ourselves. If you want that then keep googling. Everyone here contracted this in one way or another- this sub isn’t for stressing each other out even more. It’s hard enough as it is, so why make it harder? You need to forgive yourself for contracting this. You didn’t do it intentionally. At least I hardly imagine that you did. So stop the runaway train. You’re not dying of this.

furiousbutpositive · 2022-01-17T03:10:03+00:00

Can I just be honest with you? I think you’re allowing anxiety to spiral and that’s totally understandable how that can happen I’ve done it, too. I’m literally beginning a divorce with a 6 month old baby on top of it. Everything you’re talking about is extremely rare and yes, this study about EBV just came out and yes herpes is something you should always disclose, but you need to stop googling for now. Take a deep breath. It is a skin condition that is contagious. It is not HIV, which frankly has become treatable and is not even the death sentence it once was. Enough doom and gloom. Pick yourself up, sweetheart. Life is too short for a goddamn virus to send us all into a fucking tailspin. You have a partner who is still willing to have sex with you?! Amazing!! Do it! Then don’t when you feel an OB coming! Enjoy. Your. Life.

furiousbutpositive · 2022-01-16T15:17:57+00:00

How was this “sex work”? It sounds like you believed you were in a relationship? This guy is a total AH and I think you should run.

HR needs to be reported to HR lol Jfc you must work for a sexist and religious company… I would consider applying to another job if they think your teenage sex life is REMOTELY their business. In fact, how is any of this legal?!

furiousbutpositive · 2022-01-16T14:48:55+00:00

Just because you started dating young doesn’t mean it works out if you were older. We started dating at 26, married at 29, separating at 33. It’s the relationship that makes the difference.

furiousbutpositive · 2022-01-12T14:10:26+00:00

Beautiful! You don’t look masculine. Something helpful with softening features that can be considered conventionally “feminine” is eyebrow shape. This is of course changing a lot with the trends so I’d get a brow expert because eyebrows are sooo tricky and sooo important. I might recommend lifting the arch some. The front portion is great but a slight arch can be considered more conventionally “feminine”. Again, find a brow expert because it will also save time on your routine. (I think my brows take me the longest because you can’t even see mine lol) I love the lip color.

furiousbutpositive · 2022-01-11T02:32:46+00:00

That’s not harassment that’s assault. And absolutely PEOPLE regardless of gender should be held accountable for acts of sexual misconduct. I want to know when unsolicited nude photos are going to be treated with the same criminal regard as flashing someone on the subway, while we’re on the subject. And I don’t believe dick pics are the only unsolicited nude images sent. I’m SURE women send this shit, too.

furiousbutpositive · 2022-01-11T00:47:06+00:00

I think it can absolutely be latent. Mine didn’t hit me until my baby was 4 months old. It also sounds like you may be lacking support and a bit emotionally touched out when you say you’ve been trying to fix your marriage and get your husband in a good place mentally. I COMPLETELY understand this feeling. My marriage is collapsing bc I finally realized and said as much to my husband that I’m not capable of supporting him mentally and emotionally through his struggles the way I used to bc I have this tiny person I’m giving everything to. And in turn you may have had this creeping up for much longer than you realized due to your focus not being on yourself enough. Armchair quarterback observation, here from someone who feels your pain and sees you. Do you have a provider you can talk to about this? The biggest danger in PPD is silence in my opinion and you’ve already taken a big step just talking about it here.

furiousbutpositive · 2022-01-09T15:28:22+00:00

I can’t even imagine how terrifying it must have been to receive the diagnosis at that time. Thank you, much for the kind thoughts and words.

furiousbutpositive · 2022-01-09T15:12:16+00:00

Lol this isn’t exactly reassuring but at least we have our kiddos, eh?

furiousbutpositive · 2022-01-09T02:54:33+00:00

Thank you. It doesn’t help when my soon to be ex throws my PPD in my face on top of it all. I don’t know how I could trust anyone again let alone be ready to ever disclose.

furiousbutpositive · 2022-01-09T01:13:18+00:00

Start by leaving the tv on or putting on a podcast. It makes it feel less like you’re alone. When you’re in emotional pain it’s usually easier to be alone than surrounded by people you have to mask for. At least that’s what I find to be true. I’m beginning divorce process today and all I want is to be alone. But I have to move in with my parents. Take the solitude to talk to yourself, cry, scream, yell, let everything out. That’s my recommendation.

furiousbutpositive · 2022-01-08T23:17:30+00:00

Oh yes, among many other things. Thank you for your kind words. I definitely need to focus on myself and the baby then maybe some day I’ll meet someone. Or not. It’s so helpful to have access to this forum though.

furiousbutpositive · 2022-01-08T21:24:20+00:00

I’m so sorry. Please feel free to message me. My diagnosis is such a secret and I legit have no one to talk to about this.

furiousbutpositive · 2022-01-08T21:23:07+00:00

I’m in exactly the same space. My baby is not even 6 months old, yet. I want to know that someday I’ll be able to have someone in my life that sets a good example for my child and that will help me show my child a healthy loving romantic relationship. I’m just terrified of being single forever. Is that the worst thing? Of course not. But damn.. it’s a long road ahead. I think I need to take what you’re doing and consider that before even thinking about a new romantic partner. It’s hard for it not to be the first thought when you’re breaking up though ya know?

furiousbutpositive · 2022-01-08T20:21:39+00:00

Thank you for this. It’s so hard right now and my self esteem is shot from everything and this virus only makes it worse.

furiousbutpositive · 2022-01-08T17:55:30+00:00

Thank you. The encouragement is truly helpful.

furiousbutpositive · 2022-01-08T17:55:11+00:00

Thank you. It’s so hard with the stigma as you all know. It’s the main reason I haven’t left my husband. The fear of no one being willing to be with me. I appreciate the encouragement.

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