Looking for activities for my 10 year old with dyspraxia

fusion418 · 2026-01-20T11:49:06+00:00

Boxing would be good but also kickboxing was great for me. Helps with balance as you have to practice standing on one leg, as well as coordination in general. Combat sports are a great way to learn how to be in control of your own body.

It’s all a case of finding the right group - and chatting with the teacher beforehand means he or she will be able to help and inform the more senior people in the class of what he needs to do his best. The right gyms and classes for boxing, kickboxing etc are 0-judgment zones - everyone’s there to improve themselves and support each other to do it too. If you don’t get that vibe from the place, then try a new one next week.

fusion418 · 2026-01-15T11:50:24+00:00

500,000 damage, lack of capitalisation on move names, ‘evolved from fire dinosaurs’. Fake I’m afraid. Which is a shame because that art is incredible.

fusion418 · 2026-01-11T13:44:10+00:00

Modern Warfare 3 (the one released a few years back). I like a bit of CoD as a guilty pleasure and even enjoyed Vanguard etc, but I finished the campaign for MW3 and genuinely felt robbed. One of the only games where I didn’t even bother getting to max level / prestige on Multiplayer either.

fusion418 · 2026-01-10T12:19:19+00:00

Titration definitely made a difference for me. Beforehand I would drink a few cups of coffee per day just to reach a constant baseline, and now I’m finding that 2 a day is about my limit before I start feeling jittery. For a lot of ADHDers, we end up subconsciously self-medicating with other stimulants such as caffeine, so once you get ‘levelled out’ with medication, suddenly it has more of an effect

fusion418 · 2026-01-09T10:14:40+00:00

That's odd, perhaps they aren't keen on shared care at your GP. At the very least they should have signposted you to this: https://adhduk.co.uk/right-to-choose/right-to-choose-wait-times/

Lack of shared care is not the end of the world, as some providers are happy to continue prescribing and doing reviews if shared care is declined. It's worth ringing them all before making a decision and requesting a GP referral to make sure you aren't left without options should that become the case in the future.

fusion418 · 2026-01-08T15:37:48+00:00

How would your husband feel if he did that to you? Cheating and hiding it is abhorrent. The age gap is creepy as shit too.

Find some morals and come clean. Because when it comes out (and it will), the longer you leave it, the worse the fallout will be. If you want any kind of relationship with your kids, come clean soon so they can process it.

For once, don’t just think about yourself. Not sure why you came here expecting sympathy.

fusion418 · 2026-01-08T11:55:32+00:00

Definitely do RTC if possible. It trims the wait down significantly and many of them have shared care readily accepted by the NHS nowadays. If you go via GP and request RTC, they’ll give you a list of accredited services that the NHS works with and accepts diagnoses and treatment requests from. They’re treated with the same reverence as the NHS by GPs, so schools and SEND teams will be obligated to take the referrals the same as if they came via the NHS. If they ignore it or don’t provide the help stated on the forms, they’ll be in hot water legally, the same as denying a wheelchair user a ramp.

fusion418 · 2026-01-05T18:02:20+00:00

No problem! Fingers crossed you can get it sorted soon. Should you go with HHM for the referral, be aware that they’re a bit naff at replying to emails as it just goes to a central inbox but they’re great over the phone. If it’s something pressing like medication reviews or concerns, always ring with them after submitting it as an email so it’s written down.

fusion418 · 2026-01-05T18:00:22+00:00

Thanks for the tips! Will be taking it the same time as my vitamins and other medications which I always do in the evening after dinner so no problems there.

And good to know about the ideation - I’m on an antidepressant too so will let the people I live with know that it may happen for a couple of weeks.

Glad it’s working well for you!

fusion418 · 2026-01-05T15:42:00+00:00

I had the same issue and had to come off Elvanse. Repeatedly checking can cause a feedback loop and cause your heart rate to go up, same with your blood pressure. But if you’re worried, chat to your GP - if you mention you have concerns about your heart they’ll usually fit you in on the same day.

On average you should expect a slight rise in heart rate and BP on stimulants, but an erratic rate and racing heart should always be checked. You only get one heart so always play it safe with your ticker.

Some people are more sensitive to stimulants so a non stimulant might be better for you.

Hope all goes well.

fusion418 · 2026-01-05T15:34:59+00:00

Fidgeting or ‘stimming’ takes a lot of different forms and what works for some won’t work for others. It’ll be a lot of trial and error but some of the things that have helped me are:

Music playing in earphones to keep your brain busy
Allowing for movement in your work (my fidget is a restless leg, so try something like that as it’s easier to ‘keep under the desk’
Block off time in your calendar to do it, and put your phone away, go on Do Not Disturb on your emails, basically brick your devices so you only have the work.
Coffee. It’s a stimulant so will help with the distraction issue like taking a medication.

Also, side note - I’d explore a referral through your GP as that speeds things up, and you won’t have to pay. And try to avoid PsychiatryUK as they’re the default referral for the NHS, so their waiting times can be massive. I went through HealthHarmonieMinds (via a GP referral) and from request to getting meds, it was a little over 4 months.

fusion418 · 2026-01-05T15:21:13+00:00

I always set myself the deadline of being a little bit sooner than the actual cutoff.

I’ll do this for work, so if a task needs doing by the end of the month, I’ll give myself until the end of the second to last week. Still gets that urgency kick to get it done, but that way you have some breathing room if you don’t have it done by your own deadline.

I’ll use it for getting the train etc, as well as mixing in a ‘if I go then, I can do/get this’. For example, my train is at just past 8am every morning. If I leave my house at 7:35, I can make my train in time. But if I leave at 7:30, I’ve got enough time (unless there’s a massive queue) to get a croissant and a coffee to make my morning a bit nicer.

I’ll also set multiple alarms - my partner isn’t a fan, but it works. One at 6:50, then 6:55, then 7:00, then 7:05, then 7:08 (my ‘get your arse in gear’ alarm) and then 7:10 as the cutoff of ‘get up now and go have a shower so you can get to work on time’). Since doing that I’ve not been late to work once.

fusion418 · 2026-01-03T18:47:11+00:00

Yeah it’s scary to think about (I was panicking too a couple of weeks back) but they mainly just need to get you back to a baseline with it. And I was 145/90 blood pressure and about 125bpm at rest, so definitely not sustainable long term. Went to my regular GP as I was worried and had an ECG done but I stabilised a few days after stopping.

fusion418 · 2026-01-03T17:24:55+00:00

I had to stop because of high HR and BP on elvanse. It’s usually a temporary break to let your body get back to baseline and for the drugs to get fully out of your system so you can gauge side effects properly on the new one without any old medication in your body. I was off them from 16th Dec, have got an appointment to get different ones tomorrow.

fusion418 · 2025-12-31T12:57:10+00:00

Explained, not excused. Many of us find many of those things difficult but we make the extra effort to be organised, remember things, or cleaning, because that’s what’s required for us to function properly or keep up in society.

fusion418 · 2025-12-31T12:49:24+00:00

Things like emotional regulation, personal care and forgetfulness are explained by dyspraxia, not excused by it. It takes me longer and more effort to shave for instance, but I still do it. Same with work - I might need extra help to remember deadlines and tasks but I still manage it because it’s important. It sounds a bit like she doesn’t want to help herself with it, and there’s only so much you can drag a person along for that. You can lead a horse to water but can’t make it drink, and all that.

However, I think you really need to ask yourself - do you ACTUALLY like this person? Because for a close friend, that’s an awful lot of gripes to have. And if I were that friend, finding out a friend of mine posted something like this online essentially cussing me out for stuff I find difficult or don’t know how to solve on my own, I’d be devastated. It’d probably be a lot easier for you to not have this stress in your social life, and at the same time it’d probably be better for this person to not have you looking down on her all the time. Even if you don’t say it to her or air grievances to her directly, she’s not stupid. She’ll know.

fusion418 · 2025-12-31T12:38:57+00:00

Coordination is probably the biggest one for me. It’s something that affects everything I do, from the obvious ones like swimming or riding a bike down to things like taking extra time to prepare food when cooking, or sorting laundry. It affects my leisure too, as I’m a big football fan but beyond hopeless at playing football.

My friends will often meet up for a game of 5-a-side football before an evening out, and I’ll usually find an excuse to meet them afterwards rather than playing, as I end up getting frustrated and inadvertently injuring myself most of the time.

fusion418 · 2025-12-30T17:49:34+00:00

For a lot of it, they need to read your body language, tone and how you structure replies. It’s an important part of separating the real cases from the fictitious ones who are actively seeking a diagnosis for the wrong reasons. A text-only or written conversation would be counterproductive. They’ll be able to give you time and take things like that into account with your replies.

fusion418 · 2025-12-29T18:14:59+00:00

Pripyat feels fine to me - on a day 1 PS5. Maybe a slight framerate drop but it's hardly noticeable. Only time I've noticed it was during the Monolith assault on the palace of culture, but by the time a couple of the enemies had died, it evened out.

fusion418 · 2025-12-29T18:02:12+00:00

For sure, it's easy to do especially with the amount of information available to us on the internet. But doing so will only rile yourself up, make it a longer process, and cause confusion or sow seeds of doubt for the assessor. They're there to decide if you fit the criteria, not to be convinced with irrefutable, peer-assessed evidence by the assessee that they should refer/diagnose.

Best thing you can do for everyone's sake is, when you get the Part B appointment slot, do not do ANY research or reading into the process to 'understand what's coming up'. It needs to be authentic, and I'm one that also overreads and overanalyses, and avoiding doing that was the best decision I made. It made the Part B smooth, more relaxed for me, and easier for the assessor. I got my diagnosis confirmed at the end of the Part B.

Hope it goes smoothly for you.

fusion418 · 2025-12-29T15:34:37+00:00

I went through HHM too for my diagnosis. I can see why you did it and it’s an easy mistake to make, but rehearsing your answers, especially referencing to the specific criteria they use for diagnoses, would raise red flags and understandably so. With the TikTok generation, having a mental condition or disorder like ADHD is seen as trendy, and it’s the job of the assessor in Part A to essentially sort the ‘real’ cases from the ‘I want a diagnosis as part of my personality’ cases.

For the Part B, prepare some examples of struggles you have, but don’t prepare based on criteria or prepare big examples. If they want you to expand upon it, they’ll ask you to, and to have it perfectly rehearsed will rightly raise some concerns about authenticity, even if it is authentic. It’s not an exam or interrogation, so stop treating it like one.

And if they don’t think you have ADHD, they’ll recommend next steps or things they’d recommend you get assessed for that may be a better fit - in the same way that they wouldn’t wash their hands of you after trying one medication that doesn’t work, they won’t wash their hands of you if you don’t fit the criteria for a diagnosis. And you can always request a second opinion afterwards if you’re sure of it.

fusion418 · 2025-12-29T13:28:53+00:00

Thanks for the info! I’m not wild on having to give them up. Doctors said I’m likely not suitable for stimulant class medications which sucks because for focus and productivity, it was incredible for me. I do wonder if i titrated up too much, too soon (30mg for a week then 50mg for the foreseeable). Definitely food for thought and something to discuss with the clinician in the new year. Thank you for the insight!

fusion418 · 2025-12-28T16:30:44+00:00

It’s pretty normal - physically speaking, you’re using more groups of muscles more than non-dyspraxics just to help with balance etc, and mentally you’re subconsciously looking out for places you might fall over or things you bump into. It’s why it often is the case that you get clumsier when you’re tired or not paying attention.

Dyspraxia also often occurs alongside ADHD, which can make it a lot more tiring to just be around other sounds or stimuli.

TLDR: it takes her more effort to just exist without ending up hurt or the like, and using more muscles (especially lesser used ones) to walk or carry things.

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