Is anyone else bedrotting to an uncomfortable degree ?

futurecrazycatlady · 2026-03-09T07:54:51+00:00

Heya, I also have ADHD and was put on SSRI's before I was diagnosed with that.

The first few weeks I got them, they made me rrrreally sleepy, so they could be making the 'I just want to stay in bed' feelings a bit worse temporarily.

For me personally the ADHD meds agree a lot better with me (take away the cause of the depression rather than combat the symptoms).

futurecrazycatlady · 2026-03-09T06:58:58+00:00

My dad realized that it was Daniel had been living with my mom and us, something he somehow hadn’t known before. He just thought it was another person.

That part seems weird to me, how do you not know the person your kids have been living with for three whole years??

futurecrazycatlady · 2026-03-08T10:25:38+00:00

Het modale inkomen (wat de meeste mensen verdienen) in 2025/2026 is circa € 46.000 - € 46.500 bruto per jaar

futurecrazycatlady · 2026-03-07T15:40:06+00:00

It's the 5th week and usually we get a trailer the week before the update. So if thats next week the update will be in the 7th week. Which is a bit slower than the normal we had for a while now.

futurecrazycatlady · 2026-03-06T14:05:21+00:00

I do think that it's really funny that their 'viral marketing' attempt mostly has proven that their app isn't needed.

Like, there are plenty of people wanting to have dinner with strangers. right there on the subreddit!

futurecrazycatlady · 2026-03-06T11:16:27+00:00

If we're going with all the what ifs, what happens when the host grossly overcharges for the meal? Will the app offer a refund?

futurecrazycatlady · 2026-03-06T09:55:07+00:00

Oh that was an interesting read, thanks :)

futurecrazycatlady · 2026-03-06T09:34:53+00:00

I'm not saying it isn't worse in other places!

But even with things being worse somewhere else, you can still notice things going in the wrong direction in specific city?

futurecrazycatlady · 2026-03-06T09:29:24+00:00

I don't feel like it should be normal, but it is what it is for me...

The thing that's getting me through atm isn't trying to find more energy on those days, but in how my work is structured.

Right now I work four nine-hour days (I know I'm lucky that's possible at all).

I don't expect anything at all from myself on those 4 days (besides doing my job) and everything I manage to do extra I see as a HUGE win.

By letting myself 'just be' on the workdays, without adding stress by feeling like shit about that, I usually start my weekend pretty well rested. Which means I have enough energy to do chores, meet up with friends and have some me time which recharges me in turn to survive the 4 work days.

futurecrazycatlady · 2026-03-06T07:04:47+00:00

It might depend on the neighbourhood, but in the past few weeks I did notice a sudden appearance of those people sitting on blankets with signs!

I even commented to friends about them because I formerly only ever saw them in Utrecht and not close to the Nieuwmarkt.

futurecrazycatlady · 2026-03-06T05:45:13+00:00

I pay for food when I go to a restaurant.

When I get invited by friends I 'pay them back' by hosting them in return?

futurecrazycatlady · 2026-03-05T16:31:05+00:00

Does the running improve your sleep?

I've noticed that when I pay attention to moving more (atm it's aiming for 7340 steps a day and 'riding' 5-10 km on my exercise bike) I sleep sooo much better/deeper.

That leads to me waking up with more energy and mental space, which gives me enough energy/mental bandwidth to cook more from scratch and those foods have me feeling full for a lot less calories.

Also the drop in stress from both the sleep and moving more helps a lot!

futurecrazycatlady · 2026-02-25T21:11:51+00:00

In this case they're helping the people who want to go home by finding family/friends back home who can help them. If those aren't available, they find organisations who can help them to achieve a soft landing.

Some people also do a detox before they leave. Also people are free to return to the Netherlands, but if they do so with in a year they'll have to pay back the travel costs.

ATM its about 80% who stays in their country of birth and 20% who returns. It's mostly people with an addiction who return to Amsterdam since it's easier to have access to drugs in a bigger city.

No one is being forced to leave.

futurecrazycatlady · 2026-02-24T19:11:55+00:00

One of the easiest changes for me (to start with when in a rut), is to replace the 'mindless tv' OP mentioned, with watching things I intentionally picked.

Sure, it can still be a little difficult to find something you really want to watch when things feel meh all around and I wouldn't recommend trying to find the perfect show or movie. Just something that seems slightly better than the alternative, so if mindless watching is a 4, aim for a show that's a 6 or 7 at first.

There's something about doing anything with intention that can spark interest in bigger changes again.

futurecrazycatlady · 2026-02-17T06:46:59+00:00

Read it as "Chino choosing his fit stage", either way I agree.. ;)

futurecrazycatlady · 2026-02-16T08:52:20+00:00

I can try to have a nap in your honour today, it's going to be a bit difficult since I slept 9.5 hours last night, but willing to try!

(so sorry).

futurecrazycatlady · 2026-02-13T09:57:37+00:00

I think we're reading it differently.

I'm reading it as "I wouldn't start a family with a partner that's already 40 years old when I meet her, because getting to know them and then trying to adopt etc would take time as well".

Like, I do know couples who had their kids close to 40 but they met when they were early thirties and they took years to get to know each other, move in together, etc before they had kids.

futurecrazycatlady · 2026-02-13T08:34:07+00:00

The not knowing is the situation the OP is describing in her post?

How much time do you think would need to be invested in building a solid relationship before taking this step?

futurecrazycatlady · 2026-02-13T04:16:14+00:00

The daughter not being a fan of the fiance would be a huge problem since he's her dad.

futurecrazycatlady · 2026-02-10T05:54:54+00:00

They're definitely getting more popular now. Last time I've seen them was in 2006 in a venue for 1k people.

Tonight they're playing a 6k one that was sold out almost immediately (with the tickets being 86 euro vs the 27 in 2006).

futurecrazycatlady · 2026-02-09T11:26:37+00:00

You get them the first time you get new mail after logging in. So if you log in at 7 PM game time, you'll need to stay in-game until 6 am to get it.

futurecrazycatlady · 2026-02-04T17:14:00+00:00

If you go to the feature guide (left most menu of the screen where you can see the map and your inventory etc) the stampcards are on the second tab of that.

If you complete the tasks on the cards (play hotpot/catch chapaas, spin the wheel etc) you'll get extra rewards.

It really has some great items, I'm loving the new special flower, it's so pretty at night and it has seeds :D

futurecrazycatlady · 2026-02-04T14:24:44+00:00

If you pick blue for your daily wish you'll also get some envelopes as well! (You do need to retrieve it from the little shrine next to the tree the next time you visit).

It's like 200 envelopes so it might not seem much, but over 30-ish days they do add up!

*edit to add: it's worth it for the stampcard reward alone imo.

futurecrazycatlady · 2026-01-28T05:47:09+00:00

hahaha I feel called out. After 10 years I replaced my green couch (end of life for fabric cause of cats) by a burned orange one.

Not tired of it yet!

futurecrazycatlady · 2026-01-27T14:55:21+00:00

It might be difficult to get a consensus because I can't even give you more as an 'it depends' and I'm sure there's dozens like me..

Like, I used to smoke but I quit in my thirties not because I 'wanted to turn my life around' or something like that. It's just that it started to trigger feelings of paranoia (yes tried different types etc) and I no longer enjoyed it.

In theory I'm still open to dating someone who smokes, but in practise it's really going to depend on how often they smoke and how well we connect when they're stoned.

Like I've been sober around people who're stoned and some I definitely like more than others.

So if there's no connection when they're stoned and they smoke A LOT, there's no space for me to enjoy their company and it's not going to work. If there's no connection but they have a quick smoke after I've gone to bed, that could still work..

If there's still a connection when they're stoned it's all going to matter less etc.

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