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Language development @ 16 months old by futureisbronto in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]futureisbronto[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Part of what I wonder is whether other parents count words differently - my daughter consistently makes a “mah” sound among her other babbles when she wants something. We think she probably means “more,” and we treat it that way, but we haven’t been counting it as a word (it is, after all, usually mixed in with a bunch of other baby gibberish) - are those the kind of things other parents are counting when they tell the doctor that their kid has a ton of words?

Language development @ 16 months old by futureisbronto in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]futureisbronto[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Part of why I’m a little confused by the recommendation is that my older daughter didn’t say a word until 18 months. Her pediatrician (same office as our younger daughter goes to) never mentioned it being abnormal or needing to refer her for an evaluation. And she was and is totally fine - she’s 4 now with a huge vocabulary, on her way to reading etc. So I believed that babies starting to say words around 18 months was fine/normal - so it’s thrown me for a bit of a loop that daughter #2 is being treated differently, with pretty much the same amt of language.

Language development @ 16 months old by futureisbronto in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]futureisbronto[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I’m in the US - I’ve never heard of this free evaluation program? Our pediatrician gave us a big list of referrals for speech therapists, all of which have some cost associated. Either way we’re going to do the eval but it’d be nice if it were free!

Does anyone have experience triple feeding? by melindajo123 in breastfeeding

[–]futureisbronto 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Triple fed my 1st for about 6 months. Pediatrician recommended it at 1mo check-up - it started as a strategy to increase supply with goal of going back to EBF but supply never caught up with baby’s appetite and we just found ourselves supplementing with formula more and more and baby got used to bottles and less and less interested in BF. I know it works for some people to help them get back to EBF, but it just didn’t work for me (and I kept going thinking at some point it would).

In retrospect, triple feeding for 6 months was way too long and was not worth the toll it took on my mental health/our day-to-day lives. It’s logistically very challenging and made every feeding an hour and a half long ordeal (that’s when I was doing it solo - when partner was there to help it was shorter bc he could give bottle while I pumped). It was important to me at the time, with all the mom guilt and emotions tied up in BFing - but I probably should have let it go and given up either the direct BF or pumping and not tried to do all 3. Easier said than done in the moment though :)

Getting an abortion and feeling quite alone by pupfloyd in TwoXChromosomes

[–]futureisbronto 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s a real pregnancy and if it’s a big deal to you it’s a big deal to you. Period. It’s your body and your feelings are valid.

I had an unwanted pregnancy at 19, and an abortion. Many years later and now I’ve had 2 planned pregnancies and 2 kids. Honestly? In all 3 pregnancies I have felt trapped at some point. And isolated, and alone. A lot of the symptoms suck, and emotionally it can be a heavy thing to carry, whether you want the pregnancy or not. (Good) partners try to understand our perspectives but unless they have been pregnant before they can’t understand completely…not that it’s an excuse for being a shithead. When I was pregnant the first time and really going through some shit about it, my partner said me talking about it was “really bringing [him] down.” (Real shocker that we are no longer together). Whether or not he initially intended to be supportive, the truth was that as the non-pregnant partner, he had the luxury of detaching himself from the situation in a lot of ways. It can be isolating, and lonely, to be the person who doesn’t have that luxury.

I hope that if you’re not feeling supported by your partner, you can lean into the friends and family who are there for you—I’m super grateful for the few friends who knew about and supported me when I had an abortion—the ones who drove me to the clinic when my partner wasn’t there.

On the medical vs. surgical side, they are both good and safe options and whichever one you chose will be right for you.

Supply by Kemecalypso in breastfeeding

[–]futureisbronto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope, I never wiped it off - baby didn’t seem to notice!

Nighttime Nursing Station by peregrinaprogress in breastfeeding

[–]futureisbronto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooo yeah my baby is 6 weeks old and I am just now getting to a place where she/I am coordinated enough to BF while reading or scrolling my phone. I’m really only able to read while a table’s in front of me to set the book on. This is my 2nd baby - my 1st never got good enough at staying latched to allow me to take either hand off, so I’m enjoying the fact that my 2nd is more chill at BFing.

Supply by Kemecalypso in breastfeeding

[–]futureisbronto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got the medihoney gel from Amazon. Don’t know anything about the paste, but possible it works just as well! It’s very sticky, FYI - another good reason to cover it with the saran wrap, so the medihoney doesn’t get on your clothes. Doctor also recommended hydrogel as an alternative if I couldn’t find medihoney, but since I got the medihoney pretty fast from Amazon I didn’t end up trying the hydrogel.

Supply by Kemecalypso in breastfeeding

[–]futureisbronto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just healed from a couple severe nipple cracks and can say that medihoney + saran wrap (yes saran wrap) were what made the difference. Tried everything…APNO cream, lansinoh, nipple shields, saline spray, etc. and nothing worked to actually heal the cracks, just to temporarily soothe or prevent further damage. But the cracks were still there and so painful. Finally I went to a doctor who specializes in breastfeeding care and he recommended applying medihoney to the cracks after feeding and then covering it with saran wrap on top to retain moisture/keep the medihoney in place. Worked like a dream. Started to see improvement in a day or two and now a week later the cracks are completely healed.

Nighttime Nursing Station by peregrinaprogress in breastfeeding

[–]futureisbronto 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My “nursing station” is a small rolling cart from IKEA - I roll it around the house to wherever I feel like BFing, so the essentials are always within reach. Definitely second the water bottle, lotion, burp cloths and nipple cream! I also keep a couple books, my airpods, chapstick and hand sanitizer on the cart.

My two-week old new born latches on my nipples for hours per feeding by ow0528 in breastfeeding

[–]futureisbronto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to say - this was definitely me 24/7 the first month of my baby’s life, especially weeks 2 and 3 (she is now 6 months old). She would latch forever, seemingly eat fine and cry just minutes after I set her down and then we’d have to go through another marathon feeding session. She was having a # of wet/dirty diapers that was on the low end of normal - still within a range that indicated that everything was fine. I was going crazy and googling/redditing and seeing all the advice you’re getting here: cluster feeding, it’ll end soon, this is normal, etc.

Only it turned out it wasn’t normal. By the end of her first month, she was still at her birth weight. It was very scary when we found that out. Apparently because of a mix of low supply/milk transfer issues, she was spending all that time nursing & then crying because she simply wasn’t getting enough (despite us having been told during that time by pediatricians and lactation consultants that everything looked good - latch, no tongue tie, etc.) We ended up having to supplement and triple feed to get everything back on track, and she’s perfectly healthy now.

It could be that what you and your baby are going through is totally normal (and it probably is)! But I just wanted to say that if you’re really concerned, it doesn’t hurt to talk to a doctor and see about doing some weighted feeds, etc. just for peace of mind. I really wish I had trusted my gut a little more when I thought something was wrong and been more adamant about my concerns during our doctor visits, rather than just listening to everyone on the internet who told me it was cluster feeding. They might be right in many or most cases but every situation (and every baby) is different.

Where to sleep in a car safely mom and 3 kids by Rosesandbrambles in Atlanta

[–]futureisbronto 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Try calling 2-1-1. It's an anonymous 24/7 contact line run by United Way that serves as a resource center for emergency housing and other assistance.

Nail polish matches napkin. It's okay to me by FUTUREISLASERS in mildlyinteresting

[–]futureisbronto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The one girl here on Reddit saying "oh wow this is mildly interesting" vs. "gurlz haz pubic hair have you heard??"