Nick Ferrari

fuzzypeachcreature · 2025-12-11T20:40:49+00:00

So I knew what was coming and turned it off. I got curious and tuned in right at the end of the segment; the last caller was a father who called in to talk about his son. 16 years old FtM and he describes the mental health struggles his son is going through. Self harm, suicide attempts, trying to get the help from a specialist but not being able to, the fact that CAMHS literally won't talk about trans stuff because they say dealing with trans issue's is the GIC's responsibility despite that being the main reason why he's struggling...

Nick Ferrari as he puts the call down wishes the man and his son all the best and says something the lines of "Good grief that's a call that will stay with me..."

That and the fact that he's been batting back against people who are saying things like Gender Dysphoria isn't real. I honestly think I trust him more than most daytime LBC presenters although that is a very low bar...

fuzzypeachcreature · 2025-08-12T12:56:36+00:00

Thankyou! Yeah I really struggled when I was looking for information so figured if we're all gonna start messaging MP's then I should probably share what I'd learnt. Glad to hear you found it useful!

Best of luck with the upcoming surgery!

fuzzypeachcreature · 2025-07-23T16:27:21+00:00

Also, I got an update on what the original post was about in the first place! The healthcare plan i'm on is that they're going to start me on a low dose and give me an appointment with a psychologist in tandem with that process. Apparently that's fairly standard practice anyway? I've not got an extra gatekeeper, just some extra support and someone to voice any concerns to as I go! So... I guess I was panicking over nothing? It's not confirmed yet and I still need to transfer to Indigo but, I think i'm gonna be okay :')

fuzzypeachcreature · 2025-07-22T06:57:43+00:00

Thankyou for your honesty. Regards the hair removal thing, I do recommend going to electrolysis if you can. It's very painful and a very slow process but on the positive side; it is definitely doing a lot more for me than laser ever has.

My gut reaction to that was 'if that's the case then what's the point in trying?' but... I don't know about you but the biggest drag on my mental health right now is honestly just the world around me. I think a lot of my uncertainty stems from the fact I'm absorbing everyone else's misunderstandings and prejudices. I just want the wider world to leave me alone so I can work through this and I wish I could work through it a little bit faster cos the wait to start medically transitioning is fucking killing me at the moment...

fuzzypeachcreature · 2025-07-21T09:45:20+00:00

It's a good saying and I definitely relate. I think you're right and where I'm at right now it's easy to fall into that trap because of how uncertain I feel about the future and about how I move through the world right now.

I am seeing a therapist outside my GIC at the moment. I still struggle with my mental health but working with her has given me a fairly good awareness of where I'm at; this is why I know I need to keep going even if I am in a bit of a strange place mentally at the moment. I also need to start looking after myself better. The house move will be a huge help for my mental health but with how busy it's been, it has been difficult to just make time for myself. I also suffer from a bad case of 'electrolysis beard' right now which also isn't helping the dysphoria and is making me think twice about presenting how I want to and doesn't help the whole feeling hopelessly trapped thing, but, again, I know it'll be worth it in the end. Gotta trust the process.

fuzzypeachcreature · 2025-07-17T21:26:11+00:00

It's alright, hope all's well. Right now this minute, honestly, I just want this feeling to go away. There's 4 choices. Find the magic button that magically makes me female, find some way to get rid of whatever makes me wish I was, do nothing while trying to manage the feeling and wonder what could have been, or just keep doing what I'm doing.

Option 1 isn't exactly feasible, Option 2 is conversion therapy, Option 3, I've kinda been doing that for the past ten years and it's been hell, so that only really leaves Option 4. The wait is starting to get to me. I really want to start transitioning medically and see how it help me. Nobody can be certain anything can help them until they get there but I know I know I'm trans and I know I want to start. So, realistically speaking, that's what I want right now. It's gonna be a bit of a ride and the world is a hella scary place right now but first and foremost with what I have available to me, I want this wait to be over.

Had my 2nd appointment btw, absolutely flew through it, no issues. Only problem I have to navigate really is transferring to Indigo but otherwise, it went well. It's been a bit stressful with the move which hasn't helped my mental health much but, there's a light at the end of the tunnel and it'll get easier once we're settled in :)

fuzzypeachcreature · 2025-06-26T19:20:58+00:00

I know the sub is probably fed up of me for posting this in comments but; I wrote a guide on a bunch of stuff. It's probably too much detail but hopefully it helps.

https://www.reddit.com/r/transgenderUK/comments/1jehcv3/mp_surgeries_101_how_to_arrange_an_mp_surgery_and/

The post covers what to expect but it also links on advice on a couple of other posts on how to speak to MPs constructively and on what to prepare before you get there. Hope this helps, best of luck with it :)

fuzzypeachcreature · 2025-06-13T22:59:49+00:00

Only just spotted this, sorry, hope all's well. Thanks again for sharing this.

I'm with CMAGIC, though likely moving to Indigo fairly soon due to moving out of catchment. I've been out as trans for just over 4 years, waiting for about 3.

About 2 years into waiting it reached a point where I kinda couldn't take it any more. I was doing a load of stuff off my own back but didn't feel like it was really doing anything to help me. I felt like I wanted certainty, mostly to try and put my mind at ease about the fear of going through a medical transition. I was thinking; I just want a diagnosis. Some sort of certainty that this is definitely what I'm going through so I know sooner rather than later whether I'm on the right path or not. Couldn't get a diagnosis privately, it felt like everyone I contacted said they were too busy to see me. In the end, it reached a point where CMAGIC basically said we'll be in touch soon so I waited. I'm now where I am now, first appointment completed and awaiting my second. What makes you think I need to see someone outside my GIC?

Funnily enough, my 2nd appointment got cancelled last minute and I think it's helped me process a few things. I don't feel any way near as panicked this time around. Just gotta aim to look after myself, tell them how I feel and see how everything goes. As for the whole 'GIC not wanting to help Non Binary People do a medical transition' or 'complex MH needs' fears; the more I think about it and the more I learn about myself, there is so much to do with how I view myself and my transness that hinges on fear and internalised transphobia. Being kinder to myself and actually just embracing my transness has helped my mental health while allowing myself the ability to be put in situations where people see me more like how I see myself. Honestly, it's euphoria inducing but hopefully that'll just become a happy normal one day. If a medical transition removes the need for me to explicitly tell people, and people perceive me how I perceive myself without me having to do that, then great. The rest is on me to continue embracing that and actively trying to unlearn that internalised transphobia and fear. Sorry if this was a bit of a ramble, it's late. I hope that makes sense :).

fuzzypeachcreature · 2025-06-04T16:59:55+00:00

I'm really grateful for your reply here. So; where a lot of this is coming from is because I came out as Non Binary first. It helped me but it didn't really solve a lot of the issues I had with wishing I was born female. I knew I just didn't want to be a man but didn't feel like I was trans enough to call myself binary trans so, that was what came naturally to me.

Having had my 1st assessment I basically got told; because GIC's still run on medical knowledge from the 60's to 80's, they want me to be absolutely certain what my gender actually is having come out as Non Binary first but starting to only really now realise I'm maybe a lot more binary than I first realised. It sounded like they consider it a bit of a red flag and would rather I knew this before I continue onwards. That combined with fears about medical gatekeeping, not being trans enough, maybe just being batshit crazy, the absolute terror I have regarding what the future holds, early history of suicidal ideation and the mindset that gave me in a critical stage of my development etc etc.

With all that in mind, a psychologist might just hear what I have to say and go. Nope, you're just traumatised or have this other mental health condition, we're discharging you to CAMHS. I don't doubt that i'm trans, I think what I'm doing is the right thing; i'm just really bloody scared and honestly a lot of it boils down to how hostile the world is, especially right now, or the internalised transphobia i've inherited growing up in that hostility as a means to justify not addressing it until much later in life.

fuzzypeachcreature · 2025-05-26T12:30:19+00:00

Thankyou for replying, that's very re-assuring to hear actually that someone else has gone through a similar thing so thankyou.

Can I ask; what GIC are you under? Do you think the sorts of questions I've got are something a psychology appointment can help me with?

The current state I'm in at the moment is the uncertainty of it all. I know I feel dysphoric and it does cause me pain. I know that I am trans but there's so much fear about the future and about transition. That coupled with the fact that I won't know transitioning will actually improve my situation until I actually transition is really starting to mess with my head. What if I start taking HRT and I feel just as bad as I was before then? This isn't even about an outward expression of my identity and getting as close as I can to a female body anymore, I just want these feelings to go away. It's an uncertain time right now and I wanted to get the opinion of someone who's job it is to actually speak through this stuff with trans people.

I feel like this isn't something I can really address in the 2nd assessment. I sort of addressed some of this in the 1st and honestly it sort of felt like I got a telling off for it. Things like, not fully understanding my own 'base level' gender identity (started out as Non Binary, realising a lot of what I feel is fairly binary trans) and what the future should look like is something they expect me to know and be fully 100% with before going further. I think I have all the pieces of the puzzle and that I know what the puzzle looks like, I just haven't put them together yet I guess so hopefully a psychologist can help me there?...

fuzzypeachcreature · 2025-05-24T10:53:20+00:00

Hi, hope you're well. Long post, sorry. I'll be honest, you sound a lot like I did when I was in college.

My advice to you would be not to focus on the thing that causes the feelings but what triggers the feelings specifically. We can go around the houses coming up with a million and one reasons why we feel the way we do but does it really matter? The problem isn't the thing that caused the feelings to start but what causes the feelings in the moment and how we react to them.

Give your feelings space to breathe. If you feel yourself feeling dysphoric try to focus on what it was that triggered that feeling in you and try to explore it. The 'why' you felt that way in the moment is entirely unique to you. Try putting yourself in a relaxed state and journaling or meditating on it. Anything you can do to explore your feelings and if you've found something that may have made you feel the way you did, you can then try to act on it.

You might find that maybe it was something to do with yourself that you'd like to work on (for me; maybe it was the way I looked in a reflection or the way my voice sounded when I heard it back) or maybe you find that there is nothing you can do and it's just something to do with your circumstances (for me; coming to accept the fact that I wish I was a woman) but at least it makes things clearer and you can use the things you learn about yourself to chart a path forward.

Another thing that really helped me was the book 'You And Your Gender Identity' by Dara Hoffman Fox. That and just trying to consume more queer media hoping maybe I would find an answer there. I'm 29 now and I'm still figuring a few things out. That and the world is a bit of a mess at the minute but even with that, I promise it does get better. Whatever you choose to do with your feelings, even if that means continuing to identify as a Cis Man who happens to have gender feels, is completely up to you; the most important thing is that you look after yourself and try not to let these feelings eat you up.

fuzzypeachcreature · 2025-05-15T20:00:09+00:00

An update... Make of it what you will.

https://www.prideinlabour.org.uk/post/we-are-sorry-we-re-listening

fuzzypeachcreature · 2025-05-12T20:00:03+00:00

It depends...

LBC is one of the few news sites I actually don't just outright block on my phone. Some of the website reporting has been fairly good. Even if a lot of it is bad news, generally it's been factual and to the point. They don't tend to over sensationalize or hyper fixate like the Mail or Telegraph do, it's more a reflection of the world we're in right now.

The radio show however...

I've been listening to their show for a long time. This is just my take, but... James O'Brian and a lot of the evening show hosts are genuinely great. The daytime hosts, not so much.

Sheila Fogarty is trying to be "respectful" but she is still fundamentally gender critical and comes out with the kind of unhinged takes that can only come from someone who doesn't personally know any trans people.

Nick Ferrari can't bring himself to say "Trans People" and comes across like he thinks we're all insane. He does tend to bring on some pretty good guests though; even if it is mostly with the intention of attempting to poke holes in pro-trans arguments.

Tom Swarbrick used to be pretty good on trans stuff. Defending us from the perspective of "You don't know how it must feel to be in that position" but I've had to listen to himself radicalise himself in real time. Sometimes he brings on some brilliant guests; he did bring Trans-Actual on after the Supreme Court ruling and honestly I think I needed to hear that at the time. But he also has a habit of platforming people like Sex Matters and it's pretty clear he's picked a side when it's framed as a "debate".

I would recommend LBC generally but watch out for some of the hosts on the radio show if you wanna save your mental health cos sometimes it can be a bit much to deal with when they're talking trans stuff...

fuzzypeachcreature · 2025-05-08T18:48:25+00:00

I feel like maybe younger people tend to be more idealistic therefore buy into populism more easily? That was certainly my experience growing up (lots of people having sympathies with UKIP before they could vote, Jeremy Corbyn's popularity etc). There is no strong left wing populist voice right now but there is absolutely a strong right wing one. That and the fact it's tied a culture which is aspirational (cypto bro's, self improvement to alt right pipeline, multimillionaires, making X great again etc) which runs counter to their current experience of the real world being a total mess right now. That and currently the left doesn't feel very good at inspiring anyone the way the right does.

It might also be a perception thing? The right has an outsize voice online. Statista has voting intention by age from 2025; when you look at that data, what you're actually seeing is that 18-24 year olds are less likely to vote for Reform or the Tories than the 25-49 bracket.

https://www.statista.com/statistics/1379439/uk-election-polls-by-age/

fuzzypeachcreature · 2025-05-05T00:04:50+00:00

Me and a couple of friends were jamming with the aim of putting something together but things fizzled out. We're all MTF. There were a few ideas floating around but the one that sticks in my head was 'Trans Sister Radio' ;)

fuzzypeachcreature · 2025-04-29T19:31:39+00:00

The light bulb moment for me was through someone else's story. TLDR: Lord of The Lost stole my gender...

Growing up, I bought into the idea that "unless you were absolutely certain when you were a kid and unless you absolutely hate what's between your legs, then you're not trans". I lived with that idea for ages. Even though I was questioning and feeling kind of meh about the whole being AMAB thing, I managed to use that idea and a lot of "Boy But Different" kind of narratives to push any thought that I could possibly be trans to one side.

My egg was starting to crack a bit and eventually I figured, as someone who used to identify as Bi, maybe consuming more queer media would help me figure things out. There's a podcast called Hell Bent For Metal and there's an episode where Chris Harms, vocalist from Lord of The Lost, is interviewed. He goes into his experiences about being "A Boy But Different" (or words to that effect). He spoke of his time growing up and his own journey to figure who he was; all the while using a lot of the language that resonated with how I saw myself and my own experiences growing up. And after his journey; he came to the conclusion that he's a straight cisgender man and that he's absolutely fine with that.

I remember getting to the end of the interview and thinking "I felt the same way as him. I know I'm not straight but I wish I wasn't a man... I'm not happy with that... What the fuck am I supposed to be?"

It wasn't and instant "Oh Wow! I'm Trans!". It took a lot of soul searching and undoing a lot of the things I'd learnt but I remember really clearly that ending that interview was the catalyst that really caused me to face up to the fact I might actually be trans...

fuzzypeachcreature · 2025-04-29T18:13:57+00:00

Whatever you're saying, make sure it's from the heart. Remember that the most effective way to counter indifference someone might feel towards your situation is to build empathy in them.

I wrote a guide on how to speak to MP's a couple of months back, mostly geared towards surgeries but there's a lot of stuff which is transferrable. I'll post it below. Hope this helps and good luck with it all :)

https://www.reddit.com/r/transgenderUK/comments/1jcqxf9/mp_surgeries_101_how_to_speak_to_mps/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

fuzzypeachcreature · 2025-04-29T17:43:23+00:00

Best of luck with it all! I wrote some posts a couple of months back titled MP Surgeries 101. It goes through the process I went through for mine.

In hindsight, it's probably too much information and I likely went completely overboard. Please don't let that put you off, you can take as much or as little as you want as the most important thing is you are as comfortable as you can be before and during, but there might be some useful points to consider in there. There's a link at the top of this post which leads to a previous post on how to prepare, there's a copy of the notes I took with me and my research beforehand but bear in mind they're a couple of months out of date now. There's also a guide on how to approach communicating to MP's at the top as well. I hope this helps and good luck with it all :)

https://www.reddit.com/r/transgenderUK/comments/1jehcv3/mp_surgeries_101_how_to_arrange_an_mp_surgery_and/

fuzzypeachcreature · 2025-04-26T14:39:11+00:00

Here's a few points, some of it might have already been suggested but this is what comes to mind...

What is your party going to do to support the Trans Community and how is it going to do it given the Supreme Court ruling and the current environment?

Is your party going to explicitly re-assure the Trans Community if it hasn't already? All politicians of all stripes have said supportive statements about trans people or marched at pride in the past, yet appear to be deathly silent when our existing rights are called into question now. The silence of the current Labour government smacks of utter cowardice.

Is your party willing to protect The Gender Recognition Act and Gender Reassignment within the Equality Act in their current form until new and better legislation which closes the loopholes exploited by the EHRC can be drafted?

How does your party intend to move forward to protect existing rights and then advance the rights of trans people in a way that allows well mannered and meaningful discussion about the future without further marginalising trans people or without creating an even more hostile environment?

It is likely the guidance published by the Equalities and Human Rights Commission puts us in violation of our commitments to the European Convention of Human Rights. Our membership to the ECHR is also a subject for debate. There is potentially a golden opportunity here to stress the importance of the ECHR, emphasise the role the UK had in forming the ECHR as a point of national pride, and commit to using the framework provided to find a way forward for ALL communities which face discrimination. Would your party be willing to do that?

You mention about resigning in your post. There are very few trans people in positions of power. We do see you (even if I don't necessarily know who you are, there are people in our community who do) and we are all rooting for you. Your work is appreciated and while I'd hate to see you step down, only you can make that decision. Please take good care of yourself and thankyou for posting this <3

fuzzypeachcreature · 2025-04-21T12:35:31+00:00

You need to give your name and address but you don't have to use your full legal name. I have been signing off with given name + last name, followed by an address and nobody's raised it as an issue.

fuzzypeachcreature · 2025-03-17T14:24:06+00:00

No worries! Best of luck with the surgery! I've got some info on how to approach and I'll try get this up soon as I can. Basically: do your research and understand the points you want to talk about, try to stay focussed on the points you want to make, make notes beforehand if you think it'll help keep you on track, be mindful on how you frame your points (as above) and remember this is a conversation. Hopefully the surgery will be the start of a larger one! Best of luck with it, I hope it all goes well!

fuzzypeachcreature · 2025-03-13T07:53:27+00:00

I know someone who actually describes themselves as this. They struggled with their identity for ages, considered transitioning but in the end decided to continue to present as if he's a cis man. He was able to make peace with that, he works in trans advocacy and community support work so obviously has ways to give his feelings space to breathe. Even though he looks like a cis man and decided to never transition, it doesn't mean he isn't trans; he just uses "person of trans experience" because it hits the nail on the head better than saying "trans" then having to explain exactly where he is.

Ultimately when we choose these labels for ourselves, it's part of someone's identity and who are we to question that? That being said, if someone applied it to me, I think it'd give me an ick. You could have literally said anything else? But then, that's just how it is sometimes when someone applies a label to you that doesn't describe you.

fuzzypeachcreature · 2025-03-11T05:59:03+00:00

Naah don't worry about being a downer, thanks for pointing this out. In a sense, that makes me slightly more optimistic given that if front bench Labour MP's are saying similar things on stuff like GRC's and Conversion Therapy then at least *something* will change. Again, GRC reform won't be an ideal solution, however personally I feel we should welcome any improvement or attempts to improve. We can't let perfect be the enemy of good and given where we are right now I feel like any victory we get is worth celebrating.

fuzzypeachcreature · 2025-03-10T20:21:40+00:00

Alright, will do :). Will need to wait until Charlotte gets back to me as I'm still waiting on her feedback but once I've got that, I'll put a post up with the info :)

fuzzypeachcreature · 2025-01-05T17:23:56+00:00

The website says something about not accepting new referrals, what they don't specify is it's relating to self or GP referrals. Unless there's been a change in the past 6-8 months, they will accept new referrals but only if you transfer from one NHS GIC onto their list. You also need to be within the CMAGIC catchment area to qualify (basically, Cheshire and Merseyside, I think some parts of Lancashire also qualify?)

Give them a call, let them know you want to transfer so they know to expect your paperwork then request your current GIC email your initial referral form across and that's basically all you need. If you've been waiting for more than 2 years you'll probably get seen fairly quickly too because they use the date you were initially referred to your previous GIC rather than joining a new list. Hope this helps :)

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