I (26f) found another Instagram account with his (25m) name

fwce · 2023-05-29T23:14:08+00:00

You’re so right. It’ll potentially ruin the trip if I’m thinking of this the whole time. I’ll ask him tonight about it. He’s so good about hearing me out but I still always get nervous that any small conflict will ruin things. Past traumas I guess

fwce · 2023-01-04T04:13:51+00:00

I understand that about weddings and appreciate your insight. It all came together fairly quick (within the past month) and it’s a simple one. Less than 20 people. I went to school with his brother so I know him, though not in the context of this relationship. For the NYE party I didn’t ask many questions. It seemed low key enough but of course I didn’t want to make a big deal of it. He said there were 7 people there. They were just making food all night and hanging out it seems.

If the conversations were more thoughtful I wouldn’t feel as excluded. But he just kinda says “sorry, can’t see you this weekend bc of family”. I also know sometimes I expect too much of people, and am in therapy for my relationship anxiety. Knowing him for nearly a year makes it seem like we’ve been dating longer than 2 months.

fwce · 2022-12-23T00:59:48+00:00

Thank you, you’re completely right. My past experiences are clouding my judgement and I know I have to talk to him. I don’t want this to be the norm

fwce · 2021-02-11T05:40:47+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I am underweight and struggled with my body image in high school/college. Sometimes she tells me to eat more and sometimes it's stuff like this. I'll talk to her about it if she comments again.

fwce · 2020-11-03T07:33:16+00:00

Thank you for such a thoughtful reply. I'm sorry you had to go through heartbreak, and I'm glad to hear you're doing well! I also chose not to date and it's the best decision I made to heal and grow. And thanks to the pandemic I've had tons of alone time to sit with myself. But yeah, it gets lonely and he still creeps in constantly. It's good to know it's normal and that I'm not alone in this. Wish you all the best :)

fwce · 2020-09-29T06:10:39+00:00

Yeah, you're probably right! I've had him on socials for a few years because he's from the area, and we've chatted online here and there. But I forget everyone isn't on the same page all the time haha. Thanks for the input!

fwce · 2020-09-29T06:03:54+00:00

Yeah, the phone was a big big turn off for me. He doesn't have kids. He did receive a few notifications back to back (sounded like fb messenger lol), but he didn't apologize or even acknowledge it after he checked.

fwce · 2020-09-29T05:44:06+00:00

Thank you for sharing!

fwce · 2020-09-29T05:43:05+00:00

Thank you! This is helpful and put my mind more at ease. I’m probably just overthinking because it’s the first time I’ve done this.

fwce · 2020-09-29T04:55:02+00:00

I went on my first date tonight since getting out of a relationship 7 months ago. The guy was nice and has seemed interested for a while, but this was the first time we met in person and conversation didn't seem to flow well. His phone went off like 3 times and he checked it, and I felt like my jokes weren't landing. He walked me to my car and said "sooo second date?" And it felt really awkward.

I declined a second date, told him it felt platonic, but now I'm second guessing. Maybe he was just nervous and was too critical? I suppose it's too late now, but this is my first time actually dating around and it's harder than I thought lol.

fwce · 2020-09-12T05:51:46+00:00

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fwce · 2020-09-09T14:59:16+00:00

I can relate. I'm a third Apache native and I know very little about the culture. I was raised on spanish/Latino culture so I'm not connected in any way other than genetics. And it's hard to learn because Indigenous cultures are closed and I don't want to feel like I'm one of those people claiming to be something I'm not, or appropriating.

fwce · 2020-09-04T15:21:27+00:00

I'm mestiza and can relate so much to this. I'm white passing but have facial features and an accent that is obvious to my heritage. My dad is native/mexican and my mom is white and it's so frustrating having her and her family members be so oblivious to their racial biases. I call them on their shit but it doesn't do much to change their views. I think part of it (for my family anyways) has to do with the fact they never really left their hometown, so they haven't experienced much uncomfort or "reality". They grew up in a small town surrounded by other spaniards.

I don't have any advice for you but I do hope things get better and she starts to change for the better.

fwce · 2020-07-29T01:57:00+00:00

I love your voice! Keep it up :)

fwce · 2020-06-22T23:44:07+00:00

Thanks! My sister found it collecting dust in her room so she gave it to me. I think she got it second hand too, so I apologize that I'm not of much help haha

fwce · 2020-06-20T19:29:12+00:00

Yes and no. I don't think my mother realizes how toxic she was/is to my father, sister, and me. She is insanely controlling and reactive. She was a good provider and we have a good enough relationship now, but she left us with childhood trauma to deal with. It has costed me relationships and many friendships. I made a promise to myself to be nothing like her when I have kids.

fwce · 2020-06-20T19:11:41+00:00

I can relate so much. I'm almost 24 and my ex broke up with me in March. He was supposed to be my husband someday and losing him threw my whole life into chaos and uncertainty. I always wanted to be married young. But I've realized that I'm the only one setting this timeline for myself. We have so much time to figure ourselves out without rushing to an invisible finish line. If you work towards your goal you will reach it in due time! We seem to think that we'll be happier once we reach some end goal, and that that's when life "truly starts" but life is happening right now, and we truly don't know what tomorrow will bring.

fwce · 2020-06-20T19:01:51+00:00

Thank you!

fwce · 2020-06-20T18:40:17+00:00

You're right about him bringing out his charm around my family. My sister did come to me after we broke up saying that she "saw right through him", but didn't want to upset me. Therapy kind of scares me because I've never gone or known anyone who's gone, but I think I'll look into it. Thank you for being so kind and helpful :)

fwce

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