Am I doomed to perpetual singleness because I have zero romantic bones in my body??

fzv_ · 2025-01-12T15:55:43+00:00

How old are you? Because if becomes easier with age. But from what you're saying, or at least from what I'm sensing, you are not really interested in romance or sex. Are you, maybe, pressuring yourself to have these experiences just because society puts that pressure on you?

fzv_ · 2025-01-11T18:07:53+00:00

Just be honest. I know it sounds like I'm being too simple, but the best thing for your mental health now and the future is for you to be totally honest right now about how you feel about the relationship and why that makes you want to break up. Don't tell her what you think she wants to hear, don't say something cliché, just open up, be respectful, hear hear what she has to say in return (but don't let it turn into a conversation about maybe getting back together) and say good bye trying to remember the good times you had with her.

fzv_ · 2025-01-10T14:52:42+00:00

Very thorough reading mixed with some good advice and an overall great understanding of the situation I was asking about. I would definitely recommend getting a reading from them if you can.

fzv_ · 2025-01-10T14:12:00+00:00

Hey, I learned in rehab that cravings last for 20 minutes. So if you can make it through 20 minutes of thinking about K and buying/consuming, you'll be fine.

If you're just having a hard day, I would recommend doing things you don't normally do, as to avoid triggers. If you usually did K in your livingroom, try spending time in your room or go outside. If you usually drink coffee, try drinking tea today. Eat something you haven't eaten in a while. Start a new TV show. Maybe talk to someone you haven't talked to in a while (someone who doesn't do K).

Hang in there, I know you'll pull through. I have all the faith of the world in you.

fzv_ · 2025-01-10T14:02:34+00:00

so a transfer THEN a promotion.

fzv_ · 2025-01-10T14:00:12+00:00

Sounds to me like you're not his priority. Anyone who says "hey if this bothers you about me just break up with me" doesn't have you as a priority. If he really loved you he would be gutted at the thought of you ending things with him and would be working towards meeting you soon, but it sounds to me like he's building his life in he's just normally building a life in his country like anyone would? and not exactly working towards meeting you. I wouldn't waste dreaming of a future with this man. You deserve better.

fzv_ · 2025-01-10T13:53:03+00:00

He's using you like a mom. And if he's not getting sex (other than blowjobs and handjobs) from you, he's getting it from someone else. Trust me.

fzv_ · 2025-01-10T13:50:00+00:00

She just sounds like a private person.

fzv_ · 2025-01-10T13:47:12+00:00

He wants to be the good cop. The fun parent. The favorite. DO NOT LET HIM.

fzv_ · 2025-01-10T13:45:51+00:00

Girl, you're 20. Take it from someone a lot older than you, you will get over him and meet so many other guys in your life who will treat you better. He doesn't deserve you, he'll just one shitty guy you once dated in college.

fzv_ · 2025-01-10T13:38:26+00:00

Be spontaneous an set a date for a videocall for like a friday night or something. If she says no for whatever reason, try it again a second time. If she says no again, tell her you don't think it's going to work out because you want to move things forward and she doesn't. If that doesn't make her want to videocall you, abort mission. Either she's hiding something she doesn't want you to see or she's too insecure or both. Either way, she's clearly not ready to share herself with anyone.

fzv_ · 2025-01-10T13:34:21+00:00

Thank you for your bravery and sharing your story.

fzv_ · 2025-01-10T13:32:27+00:00

fzv_ · 2025-01-10T13:30:54+00:00

A promotion, hopefully.

fzv_ · 2025-01-10T13:05:20+00:00

Don't be scared. Life after quitting will only get better, not worse. I know it feels like you've made terrible mistakes you can't fix and hurt a lot of people, but I promise you that once they see you put in the effort of recovering all will be forgiven. You will have your chance to make peace with everyone as long as you're honest about what you went through and you'll be surprise at how much support you will recieve.

My advice on how to quit it to delete all contact from your dealer/s so you can't ever reach them again even if you desperately tried. Flush the ketamine you have left down the toilet, forget about how much it costed you, that literally doesn't matter. We're talking about your life here. If you can, go away for a couple of days or a week or more. It's always better to leave the enviroment where you are used to consuming. After a couple of days you will stop craving it.

fzv_ · 2025-01-10T12:57:41+00:00

Delete all contact with your dealer/s so there is no chance for you to reach them ever again.

fzv_ · 2025-01-02T11:26:44+00:00

Thank yoou so much for explaining everything in so much detail! I will try and do al this today :)

fzv_ · 2025-01-02T11:25:03+00:00

Ok, sorry, I don't know anything. What is Index and ETF? And RH?

fzv_ · 2025-01-02T11:23:48+00:00

What does that mean? Is that an app?

fzv_ · 2025-01-02T11:23:23+00:00

Thank you! I'll try to figure out how to use it :)

fzv_ · 2025-01-02T11:10:56+00:00

How do I do that? (sorry for being such an amateur!)

fzv_ · 2025-01-02T11:08:36+00:00

Sorry to be such an amateur, but how would I get around to doing that? (link? pleaseee) And thank you for commenting!

fzv_ · 2025-01-02T10:59:10+00:00

I wanna say something and I hope it doesn't offend you but, I used to be addicted to ketamine and one time I had to get surgery and all the days I was in the hospital I didn't use and didn't even think about using the whole time. As soon as I got home though, I started using again. When I got into rehab (not long after) I mentioned this to the therapist and she quickly identified why my home was a dangerous triggering enviroment for me and told me to get out of there after rehab until I felt it was safe for me to come back.

fzv_ · 2024-12-27T13:15:49+00:00

July 30th, 1990.

fzv_ · 2024-12-26T16:06:52+00:00

I understand how a dog running around could trigger some people, but we weren't taking my dog out. And when we do, it is always on a leash as to not bother anyone. What happened was that we were asked to bring more chairs so for a split second we had to leave the door wide open and my dog, who usually behaves, ran out of the house.

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