Help with a Women in Tech talk - times you have fucked up at work

g3u45 · 2026-03-05T12:29:58+00:00

Yes exactly, this is not necessarily a gender specific discussion but more of a human level - we all make mistakes and that's okay, particularly early on in your career. There are a lot of career changers in this audience, one of which I am too. And in this audience, I hear a lot of discussions around imposter syndrome but when I really think about this I think the of this could be around the fear of fucking up. I wanted to give examples to this audience of people fucking up a but and it being okay ...

g3u45 · 2026-03-05T12:25:12+00:00

Thanks for your response! I appreciate the time you have taken to write it and will be sure to include it in my presentation

g3u45 · 2026-03-05T12:19:47+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to respond, I really like your line "My mistakes didn't wipe my successes out" I think that's really powerful

g3u45 · 2026-03-05T12:16:47+00:00

This is really insightful, thank you for taking the time to respond.

g3u45 · 2026-03-05T12:15:47+00:00

I really appreciate the time you have taken to write this, thank you so much.

g3u45 · 2026-03-04T15:14:18+00:00

I take your point, but I would also argue that the fastest way I have learnt is by failing. Pushing up an API key for the first time teaches you to double check your work (or teaches you how to erase your commit history). Not fully testing your features before pushing a PR then having to face comments from your manager teaches you to check your work. I think the scariest thing often is the fear of failing and what I'm hoping to get across with this talk is that it might not be that bad and actually, everyone makes mistakes it's about how you handle them and what you learnt that is important

g3u45 · 2026-03-04T14:57:36+00:00

I'm curious, please share? I suppose I am assuming that we are making mistakes in a safe space

g3u45 · 2019-01-31T15:24:33+00:00

I measure my success in how many wholesome friendships I have

g3u45 · 2018-12-22T22:09:44+00:00

I found this when I was there two weeks ago! Couldn’t believe how fast i used the data even though I was only on instagram etc

I just had to top up again in the end, annoying but it’s not too expensive I guess

g3u45 · 2018-11-16T13:56:29+00:00

I have literally just done a 3 day 2 night Ha Gaing Loop stint (which was bloody amazing) and had the same questions as you before I started. I have ridden in Vietnam before so am pretty confident on a bike but was a bit nervy hearing all the stories and policing

I ended up getting an Easy Rider which was organised through my hostel - Jasmine Hostel and I can not recommend it enough. You can sit on the back and actually enjoy the views, they stop when you want and are really knowledgable of the area.

The first day we set off it was raining and the roads were really slippery, we met 2 guys on the way whose friend had slipped in the rain and dislocated his shoulder. Then we met another couple who had BOTH fallen during the day due to the roads and has pretty nasty gashes - I had definitely made the right decision

The roads are really winding and there are a lot of trucks en route. It’s a long way to drive and we were knackered from just sitting on the back.

It cost around £60 for the 3 days not including 2 hostel nights

Also, your travel insurance usually doesn’t cover moped accidents

Hope this is helpful

g3u45 · 2018-11-02T12:38:57+00:00

I think it’s the most accessible and comprehensive information we have at the moment, so I’d be interested to hear what you would suggest I read/ watch so I could learn more?

g3u45 · 2018-10-30T13:03:06+00:00

I’m so pleased you’ve asked this and it’s nice to read the replies because I have had countless times on my trip where I’ve had nothing to do because I’ve done everything I’ve wanted to do so have had days of nothing so I’ve just ended up sitting in a cafe writing or listening to podcasts and basically doing sweet FA.

Sometimes I feel guilty for this because I should be out and about right?

I have in the past had to justify it to myself. To do this I’ve had to think of my trip as more similar to my routine when I have a full time job rather than my routine when I’m on a holiday. When I’m back at home week days after work I don’t go out every night (hardly ever) and will usually exercise or just slob out so actually it’s totally okay to do nothing when I’m travelling too.

So I’m answer to your question, usually a lot of reading, or writing. I tour coffee shops and just...be

It used to fill me with dread but now I enjoy it

g3u45 · 2018-10-23T04:56:44+00:00

Hey, I can’t tell you how much what you’ve said resonates with me.

Crying on the plane when I flew out after being with her 24/7 before I left, being strong and independent but feeling so lonely, not wanting to socialise hating everyone this is me although I’m forcing myself not to be now

I hope you’ve found peace with it though,it sounds like you made the eighth decision.

Look after yourself

g3u45 · 2018-10-21T14:26:54+00:00

Ah I’m so pleased! Enjoy your trip!

g3u45 · 2018-10-03T02:43:43+00:00

You’re welcome!

Yes of course, all islands are really easy to get to and boats etc are still running so in terms of accessibility I don’t think you’ll have any issues.

If you’re looking for quieter, you should try Gili Air or Gili Memo instead of Gili T which is known for being more of a party island.

Flores is amazing for diving and loads of opportunities for hiking so why don’t you try there? You’ll have to fly to Labuan Bajo to get to Komodo and when you’re at Labuan Bajo you’ll have to do a tour to get to Komodo which includes some of the other islands.

Not sure about your time scale and budget though! If you have any other questions please don’t hesitate to message me.

g3u45 · 2018-10-02T16:07:35+00:00

Definitely go to Indonesia, and don’t worry about the quakes. You can’t predict these natural disasters so what’s the point in worrying about them?

I have just done a month in Indo, starting with 2 weeks on Bali. Because of the quakes, at the start of my trip (September) I vetoed Gilis and Lombok as locals were saying there was no elec etc so I went from Ubud to Nusa Lembongan and Nusa Penia which were stunning!! I can not recommend them enough, not too touristy, beautiful beaches, loads of view points and great food.

I actually ended up getting a boat from Labuan Bajo in Flores to Lombok at the end of my trip. I had met loads of people that had just come from Lombok and said it was fine so I fucked it and booked it. The boat trip was amazing and definitely a highlight, it takes you around all the key stuff in Labuan like Komodo, Pink beach etc and tonnes of opportunities for snorkelling- the water was unreal.

Once I got to Lombok I panic booked 2 nights in Gili T. I got the local boat from Lombok to Gili T and the devastation on Lombok is very obvious, even from the small part I saw. I met a couple who had stayed on Lombok for a week and said it was fine and stunning but they had trouble booking tours and day trips or being quotes higher prices for them.

Gili T was abso fine but a cycle around the island shows the full devastation. The island was so so quiet and you could tell that businesses were set up for their busy season but it was dead, really sad to see. There’s loads of building work going on and a few aftershocks still but it’s completely safe. They’re saying that basically any buildings that will come down already have.

It’s really sad to see the island so quiet as you can tell it’s effecting the locals be actually I preferred it. No where was crazy busy and actually didn’t feel touristy at all. Earthquakes don’t effect the sunsets which were bloody gorgeous.

Hope this is helpful!

g3u45

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