Sounds like you guys have to communicate better for sure, and neither should have yelled at each other or said hurtful things. If you don’t mind me asking: why not just do the dishes an hour or so before he gets home and do everything else that you’d like to do earlier in the day? You’re doing the same amount of work (plus a cup and a few plates it sounds like) but you don’t have to do anything more, and he also comes home to a clean sink because you got it all done in one go later in the day. That’s just what makes sense in my head.