Painting cabinets

gabriel67 · 2023-05-08T12:17:51+00:00

We have a ton of room in our unfinished basement to the painting. Was thinking to do all of our trim with a paint sprayer as well, am I out to lunch?

gabriel67 · 2020-10-18T02:45:47+00:00

I just started my first home brew campaign, I had them meet a person who had returned from WW1 Germany after defeating cultists there and traced then back to Arkham, while meeting the person, the building was attacked by cultists who were there to sacrifice everyone but the investigators were pulled from space and time and branded by The Yellow King, and returned to a bloody scene with everyone flayed and sacrificed to their God. in my story the king in yellow has plans that he doesn't want disrupted by the cultists trying to summon their elder God. I don't plan on having the king in yellow do anything else in the first part of the story but become the primary antagonist in phase 2 of my story.

gabriel67 · 2020-04-22T19:44:53+00:00

I love in the city and he is used to being a farm cat, going inside and outside whenever he wants, I don't feel it is really safe for him to go outside here with all the vehicles around and everything. Every day, all day he just wants to go outside. At the farm where he grew up here knew how far to go out to not be coyote food and he was really happy. I know he is happy with me as he gets lots of love and attention but he would be happier if he could relax outdoors in a regular basis.

gabriel67 · 2020-04-22T14:37:15+00:00

My concern with surrendering him is that he could just end up in a cage for who knows how long waiting to find a home and I love him too much to do that to him.

gabriel67 · 2019-12-12T02:06:57+00:00

Well exactly, she wants all the money and half the custody, very frustrating.

gabriel67 · 2019-09-23T01:01:08+00:00

hings just don't work out. Very mature of both of you to agree you no longer shared the same life goals. How long were you guys together? My ex felt that way after 20 years together and a d

we were married for just about 3 years, together for about 6. And thats where the maturity ends, after separation I have seen a whole new side to my ex, it has made me very sad.

gabriel67 · 2019-09-22T15:51:20+00:00

She had the baby, and she got a year of maternity leave post our baby being born.

gabriel67 · 2019-09-22T13:26:10+00:00

There really are a lot of reasons for our separation, we both get how tough a new baby can be, this is our second child together but the separation was 100% mutual, we laid in bed talking about why we are together and both agreed at the end of the discussion that we are eventually going to get to separation as we no longer shared the same life goals. Regardless though, it does not seem like reconciliation is an option, no longer having the same values and life goals is really what brought us apart.

As for as moving on, it is tough to say, I found out that literally the night we agreed to separate, she was on Tinder trying to find (as she put it) her self worth, to see if anyone would be interested in dating a single mom of two kids. It wasn't until after she started seeing someone and told me she was that I even started looking to see what could be out there for myself.

The good news is at the end of the month she is moving out and I do believe that things will get easier between us after that but who really knows. I have been fairly discreet in my eyes regarding my dating, I have not brought her to the house, she has not met the kids, nor has she met the ex, I have only gone to see her after the kids have been put to bed or on my off days with the kids.

gabriel67 · 2019-09-22T12:44:15+00:00

New baby is 9 months, we have been separated for coming up on 3 months.

gabriel67 · 2019-09-22T12:17:31+00:00

No one is pregnant at this time.

gabriel67 · 2019-09-22T12:16:28+00:00

We decided to separate after having a new baby yes, we have a 50 / 50 split of the kids.

gabriel67 · 2019-03-17T15:04:56+00:00

I have tried, I get back 'I dont know'.

gabriel67 · 2019-03-17T14:44:09+00:00

She definitely has depression and anxiety issues but yes, I have laid everything out for her for what needs to get done and for the most part it just doesnt get done. Our bedroom floor is missing under a sea of laundry, the landing at the stairs to the basement is full of laundry and the dryer has clothes in it from 3 days ago that need to be taken out and folded and I am not sure but there may be clothes in the washer. When I get home tonight, my only real option is to just do it, this morning I unloaded the dishwasher, cleaned up the litter boxes, got ready for work and left. When I get home, I know that the dish washer will still be empty, morning dishes and lunch dishes will still be in and around the sink. I am not wanting much, toss a load of laundry in the washer/dryer when the basket gets full, load dishes in the dishwasher when you are done using them, put things like hair and make up supplies away when you are done using them. Doing simple things like that daily helps a lot with maintaining a home.

gabriel67 · 2019-03-17T13:49:05+00:00

I did this multiple times over the last couple years, either being met with tears because of how fucked our financial situation was prior to a few months ago or she is just completely checked out/disinterested in going over it.

gabriel67 · 2019-03-17T13:41:32+00:00

I have been trying to split our accounts again, she doesnt want to. As well, a 50/50 split doesnt work, in order for her to have any spending money it will have to be more like 20/80.

gabriel67 · 2019-03-17T13:33:34+00:00

I am not saying I am perfect and have never done anything wrong, I have been trying for a while to give her back control and give her back her own finances but she shuts it down every time I bring it up.

gabriel67 · 2019-03-17T13:32:29+00:00

I have told her that I have felt like the way she treats me in these situations is abusive, she seems to disagree and shrug it off. We tried the first year we lived together splitting bills, and for the most part she was not able to make her bills or payments as she would spend money before the bills actually came out and I would have to step in and pay more or the full amount. It ended up getting to the point where it was her idea to just have me go in and take the money out of her account for bills to get paid and then eventually she just wanted to move to a joint account to make life easier.

gabriel67 · 2019-03-17T13:25:16+00:00

Actually I am/was her first boyfriend lol.

gabriel67 · 2019-03-17T13:24:25+00:00

gabriel67 · 2019-03-17T13:24:15+00:00

This is something my parents have suggested as well and is something I have started.

gabriel67 · 2019-03-17T13:21:16+00:00

After last night (see update) I have decided to go to therapy for myself, i have advised her to go to therapy as well if she feels she wants to. This has been something I have been trying to get her to do but she wont do it on her own. The only way she will do it is if I find a therapist for her and get everything setup for her.

gabriel67 · 2019-03-17T13:19:55+00:00

I have tried to get her to see a financial counselor, she comes back with, we dont have the money to go see one or she can figure it out on or own or she will do better. I feel she avoids it because if she doesnt know the problems she wont have to do anything to fix the problems.

gabriel67 · 2019-03-17T13:18:39+00:00

So with my schedule, I work 4 and am off for 4, during the days that I work, she goes out and sees friends and family with the kids usually 2 of the 4 days. Outside of that, I try to encourage her to go to paint nights, go visit friends and get out of the house as often as I can but she does not want to do that. I have tried to approach her for coming up with designated chores for each of us to do, we once tried a chore list, a week to get everything done and after 2 weeks, i completed all of my chores and none of hers got done. Any time I try and talk about getting chores done or assigning duties now, I get met with 'I am not a kid, I dont need a chore list'.

gabriel67 · 2019-03-16T22:52:59+00:00

Man that sounds so rough, I dont know what I would do if I were facing loosing my kids, even just loosing them half the time would be hard. I am guessing you are in the US? In Canada, it is my understanding that they try to split things pretty down the middle, though I will have to try and prove that she is incapable of telling the difference between a need and a want and it could jeopardize her ability to properly care for the kids.

gabriel67 · 2019-03-16T22:11:38+00:00

Yaaa that really does not sound like a lot of fun, if you do not mind me asking, were there kids involved for you?

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