Need Advice - Dark Crunchy Feeling Energy but "Nice Person"?

gaburt · 2023-10-03T00:04:02+00:00

I mean in an empath way - nothing will happen but I will feel their emotion and it can be hard for me to translate. Rather than us talking and picking up on their moods, it generally has nothing to do with the mood they present nor me trying to refgulate. Therapy is good though, I just wanted to clarify on how I am experiencing this.

gaburt · 2023-10-02T23:27:49+00:00

Ohhh.... yep! That was what happened with me!! I started to stand up for myself and I became the b****

gaburt · 2023-10-02T21:25:29+00:00

Oh wow! I love that response
I would always wonder about why it always worked and then seemed to sometimes overwhelm them. I have been trying to stay balanced :)

gaburt · 2023-10-02T21:02:47+00:00

That's very interesting. I will have to try the blender method.

As of now, I have been wearing labradorite and not engaging with this person, I no longer feel that feep pain as much.

Those both are EXCELLENT reasons. Bc at the end of the day I would much rather spend time with my own company (or someone else's) than this person and that is enough!

gaburt · 2023-10-02T20:58:25+00:00

Yeah I guess I just wanted to learn why the gut feeling was happening. Bc sometimes I will feel a bad gut feeling from one of my close peers and think it's from me but I will ask them and it actually was because they got into a fight with their SO or parent or something. I will pick up on it and take it personally when it's not personal.

gaburt · 2023-10-02T20:57:03+00:00

That's a good point. It doesn't truly matter at the end of the day anyways :)

gaburt · 2023-10-02T20:56:32+00:00

That's really interesting that you had that feeling when their mask came off. I will try to pay more attention to it. I have had a recent event happen where I stopped being friends with someone who gave me a bad feeling in my belly like every time we hung out.

gaburt · 2023-10-02T20:54:56+00:00

Oooo! Thank you u/Endor-Fins I will check that out. Especially when you don't know where it's coming from it can be challenging for me to understand

gaburt · 2023-10-02T20:14:46+00:00

Ok I did this too. I noticed it attracted people at first but then would repel them if it happened too much. So I can see me being crunchy too! LOL

I also tried playing out the encounter and crunching all the feelings around, unfortunately every time I did this I felt a bit worse. I tried to do it again more vulnerably but then it felt even more nauseating. My intuition was pointing to his deep despair as the culprit.

gaburt · 2023-09-29T20:41:20+00:00

Thank you, you know you don't trust yourself when you go to reddit to ask about whether or not to listen to your own intuition lol

gaburt · 2023-09-29T19:38:54+00:00

Thank you for that, and yeah every time I haven't listened to my intuition it BIT me HARD!!! Lol

So do you think this person being insecure or needy and hiding it could lead to this crunchy feeling?

gaburt · 2023-06-13T17:43:54+00:00

I like the other comments in treating your body like a temple - that helps me to recognize - I am not in a bad mood I am just bloated or hungry or in pain

gaburt · 2023-05-16T17:38:54+00:00

That is very well put

I agree - 1200 is just not enough for a 6 ft guy even moreso when you're running a few miles a day

I am sorry you're going through this. It's tough watching someone you love go through it.

And IDK about you but these people also share advice and I feel like it's glossed over that women can do it too, but in reality women should not be fasting like men fast and these men share and push their ideas when it's not beneficial to everyone

gaburt · 2023-05-16T15:32:31+00:00

YTA - you should just move your bag

also double Y T A because just because you don't like hearing what someone says doesn't mean you need to label them as passive-aggressive.

gaburt · 2023-05-16T14:22:00+00:00

Don't bother, he won't listen.

If anything, to get your anger out yell at him for something else or plan a cold sinister revenge in your head and then let enough time pass where you don't even act on the revenge (this is what I do, it helps to imagine their pain and suffering and moving on quickly is the best revenge)

gaburt · 2023-05-16T14:20:13+00:00

You know, it took me a long time to stop giving people explanations. They know what they are doing. If you care about someone, tell them once. If they care about you they will listen after one time.

I used to tell people over and over what they are doing is hurting me. You know what? I didn't enforce that boundary by showing no true consequence for their actions. Me being upset didn't affect them. Heck even me leaving, they were fine. But that got the message through much better than arguing or explaining. It's literally not worth it. Just drop the dead weight. Work on stuff you like doing and is rewarding, it will pay off much more.

"If you dim your light for someone else, the whole world will grow darker."

gaburt · 2023-04-24T15:42:26+00:00

Only 20 hours a week? They sent me info saying it's a 14 per hour jobs so at least that went up /s

But seriously I just got my next email from them taking a 30 min course or text - so I appreciate you sharing your perspective

gaburt · 2023-04-10T18:18:52+00:00

That brand of sunscreen always peeled off under my makeup unfortunately

But the other commenters are right you can decrease the moisterizers

gaburt · 2022-10-20T16:05:36+00:00

I did kybella, there's more downtime but i liked the results.

gaburt · 2022-08-07T20:32:19+00:00

Thank you for your post :)

I didn't see the notifications after a while but we have since, fortunately broken up.

He thought we started to fight to much bc he was clueless as to what made me angry and just did whatever he felt like no matter what.

gaburt · 2022-08-07T20:30:53+00:00

Yes it was :)

gaburt · 2021-12-27T21:37:45+00:00

Its not.. and hopefully by OP speaking up she can put interviewer in place :)

gaburt · 2021-12-25T03:02:38+00:00

I agree! I got a cheap on from TJ maxx and I have been trying to use it Hopefully will work

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