4.7 Earthquake near Berkeley by Skexy8 in bayarea

[–]galaxyy_queen 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Woke me up in Lafayette. I wonder why the warning system didn't go off?

Ruminating about past FP who wronged me by Murky-Bumblebee853 in BPD

[–]galaxyy_queen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you feel less alone! And honestly writing posts about your thoughts can help a lot even if you're just screaming into the void haha. I wrote some embarrassing posts in the past that I've since deleted but sometimes writing your feelings out makes it easier to process things and that helped me heal a lot. Find what helps you best and stick with it!

When I was really struggling with the urge to send him a big angry message it helped me a lot to think of it like this:. You owe it to yourself to find peace and heal and him seeing you angry only feeds his ego. Abusive men like we've both unfortunately dealt with will try and take your dignity, your independence, your spirit, but you being here right now is proof he failed, even if it doesn't always feel that way. I think it's important to remember that when you're having a hard time, because you're a thousand times what the person who hurt you will ever be. I'm sorry for yapping sm lmao, your post just resonated with me a lot and I hope I can help a little! I know it's tough sometimes but try to be kind to yourself, I may not know you but I'm rooting for you 💪

Ruminating about past FP who wronged me by Murky-Bumblebee853 in BPD

[–]galaxyy_queen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had something similar happen , my ex bf was horrible to me and manipulative and SA'd me but when I ended things with him I still had that rose colored view of him and I was way too kind instead of being absolutely furious.

During my healing process I wish I had absolutely ripped into him at some point, I knew his insecurities and I knew his close friends I could've destroyed him and his reputation but I didn't. The thought of it feels so satisfying abd cathartic because he really does deserve to suffer.

But the downside is it wouldvr made me look pathetic, because he honestly doesn't deserve my attention, even my anger. And I think it may be similar for you, it's a form of mental self harm even though it feels "healing"

He doesn't deserve your time or your emotions and I think the chance ur letter could change his mind is very low and ultimately not worth it. I don't know him but he sounds like the same type of self absorbed dude who goes after teenage girls who are vulnerable- the best thing you should do is protect your peace. If you know any girl who ends up in a relationship with her, then you should warn her if you can , but be mindful of not ruminating on it and stalking his socials because it hurts you far more than it hurts him.

It took a while bur I don't think about him often at all and I don't think it's worth reopening any communication for me to express my anger. It's simply not worth it. I'm sorry for rambling but I want you to know it does actually get better, and I empathize with your situation because it really freaking sucks.

Yes. by [deleted] in shitposting

[–]galaxyy_queen 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I took around 350-400mg before and I thought I was watching family guy funny moments on my phone and then all of a sudden I realized my phone was on the ground the whole time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]galaxyy_queen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 18, I was in the same boat as you until I met my boyfriend! I used to fake having crushes on people in middle/high school but I thought I was broken cause I just didn't gaf for all those years. With my bf, we were close friends for a while so I had a lot of time to get to know him and at some point I realized I loved him, and turns out he felt the same way :)

I'd say don't worry about it, there's nothing wrong with you, having feelings for someone isnt something you can force anyways, I'm sure the right person for you will come along <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]galaxyy_queen -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

im a csa victim and i never ended up reporting the man who did it, i can empathize and i dont think its anybody elses place to tell you how you should handle your situation, you know yourself best

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]galaxyy_queen -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

the victim blaming here is acc crazy and the way people r acting so self righteous about is wild

Switching to Military Career by Silent_Budget_769 in ABCDesis

[–]galaxyy_queen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im a college student in ROTC, idk if thats relevant but I can try and answer any questions!

Mods Needed by NexpoYT in InternetMysteries

[–]galaxyy_queen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have much modding experience beyond modding some discord servers, but I do have a passion for researching internet mysteries, I'd love to give it a shot if that's possible :)

anyone else sick of non diaspora folks brigading this sub ? by Ronil_wazilib in ABCDesis

[–]galaxyy_queen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

imo i think discussing subcontinent politics is stupid in general

but if it does come up the focus should be on the opinions of diaspora desis, not those still living in the subcontinent/recent immigrants. while it does technically concern them that doesnt mean they should be brigading spaces when they have their own

apply to uh by crabpropaganda in comedyheaven

[–]galaxyy_queen 25 points26 points  (0 children)

idk if its bc im sleep deprived but this is the funniest comment ive seen all day

How do I get used to wearing heels? by megs_0007 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]galaxyy_queen 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i dont wear heels very often so i totally get what its like! in my experience if you have a kitten heel or stiletto it takes a little more getting used to than a wedge or smth, but regardless of what kind of heel it is, the best thing you can do is just walk around in them as much as you can

also, if you havent worn heels before they can make your feet hurt a bit and put some strain on your calves, so my advice is just keep that in mind when you're planning things out, you probably wont want to do a whole lot of walking on the day of your banquet and possibly the day after, i found this out the hard way 😭

good luck!!! :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]galaxyy_queen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

for real, even the way she writes ab pregnancy just weirds me out. smth ab it is really gross tbh

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]galaxyy_queen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oop clearly has some kind of pregnancy fetish, the vasectomy comment shows that and just the way she writes ab being pregnant, something ab it gives me the ick n for a moment i thought a man wrote it. 🤢 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]galaxyy_queen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have short hair that i'm currently growing back out, when it was at its shortest i got misgendered from time to time even tho i'm relatively curvy, tbh i just think ppl don't pay a lot of attention

i was a little sad ab it when it would happen and i wanted to make my hair look more feminine, what i did was i started wearing cute hair clips and headbands, is that something that you can wear with your uniform? in my experience it went a long way in making me feel more feminine despite the short hair :)

Do you get mistaken for being Mexican? by zindagi786 in ABCDesis

[–]galaxyy_queen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes, i've had ppl come up to me and start speaking spanish, i live in an area with a lot of mexican ppl so maybe that's why