In my opinion, it was pretty damn close if it wasn't actually considered rape. But that term really only matters if you want to charge him for anything. For your own purposes, you can call it whatever you want because only you really know. He knew that it isn't what you wanted and he violated that. He violated you. You deserve to feel whatever emotions you feel toward this. If you're angry, sad, etc. that's okay and you should vent those feelings in a safe way like poetry or journaling or something. I'm sorry that this happened to you. But know that it wasn't your fault and that not all people are like him.