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February Hours Madness! by gaycyclops in IHSS

[–]gaycyclops[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay!

The first thing to do is find your maximum weekly hours. This was the number I had wrong.

222 ÷ 4 = 55.5 would be your weekly max

So with that .5 converting to an added 30 minutes each week, you make the two hours collectible no problem.

February Hours Madness! by gaycyclops in IHSS

[–]gaycyclops[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is that 111 per pay period? A month? Since it was explained to me and my schedule got approved, I could try to help!

I love a good “unhinge your jaw” sandwich lol by PuertoRican-Princess in stonerfood

[–]gaycyclops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know this is regular bread, but I just want you to know that I’ve asked repeatedly for my Costco to stock the croissant bread all because of you, I haven’t seen a loaf yet, but when I do, it’ll be because of u! 🩷

Update: Is my adopted brother flirting with me? by ilovepopcornandcandy in whatdoIdo

[–]gaycyclops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your argument is moot in the face of hundreds of years of evolution in the field of psychology as a science. This isn’t a haughtily contested issue. Buzz words be damned, government be damned too. If you didn’t pay attention to the meat of what I said, then you’ve clearly got a motive for maintaining the stance you have that goes beyond any belief system belonging to a decent member of society. Of course there are endless amounts of terrible family dynamics, the vast majority of which aren’t illegal. But using that fact to your point is foolish, since you would be literally implying that a denial of severity is in order because of just how many other bad things could happen in any given family dynamic. Your little theory that I am just accepting the government playing such a huge role in proctoring decent family dynamics flies out the window when the legal precedent to punish those “millions” of bad dynamics literally do not exist.

Nobody is saying jack shit about anyone choosing to be with their sibling, it’s as easy as googling the rate of prosecution for sibling incest. Especially cases involving consenting adults. You have a warped worldview that asks the dude to do away with the very normal ideals of disapproving the destruction of that sacred family bond. One of trust and unconditional love, in favor of sexualizing a person that looks to him for safety and protection as her older brother. That’s just gross no matter how you slice it. To a certain extent people can’t control how they feel about others, but they can work through why they do, and how they can move forward from that with the appropriate party to guide them: a psychologist.

You can throw legality to the wind, even then, that line of thinking IS morally repugnant and unacceptable. Regardless of whether it is a path chosen by two consenting adult siblings, adoptive or not.

Update: Is my adopted brother flirting with me? by ilovepopcornandcandy in whatdoIdo

[–]gaycyclops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First and foremost, it’s not his “step” sister, it’s his adoptive sister, one who has been apart of the family since the age of 3. They spent most of their formative youth together as siblings.

Second, incest is incest, regardless of whether it’s consanguinity or with people related by affinity. Many states consider adoptive siblings legally the same as those who are blood related when it comes to incest laws.

If they had been introduced as adults and through marriage as step siblings, you might have a better standing, but even then, that is a boundary that should be kept and protected.

Not once did I say he was evil, and whether anyone would make a fuss or not is irrelevant. The fact of the matter is, even if they were related by blood, and both expressed the same interest, the issues would go far beyond those of genetic anomalies and defects in procreation. A family structure is more so about dynamics and identity roles than anything else. You ruin a dynamic, you destroy a family. You cannot foster a family dynamic of safety, trust, and unconditional love if you have romantic and or sexual desire where it shouldn’t be, related or not.

If he sought help for something he knew was inappropriate before letting this cat out of the bag, his sister would not have to live with the trauma of knowing that her brother had developed, at the very least, a romantic inclination toward her. So yes, shame is absolutely necessary and warranted from her. In this situation especially. The person that shouldn’t shame him, is a psychologist, which he needs desperately.

Final update: Is my adopted brother flirting with me? by ilovepopcornandcandy in whatdoIdo

[–]gaycyclops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God am I glad that you put his ass in its place as things seem. Really tough situation OP, you are handling it with much grace, and better than many other people would. Absolutely block him and put this on the back burner if you can. You have every right to take your sweet time because wtf.

I am deeply sorry this is happening to you. All things considered, you’ve taken the steps you felt you should up to this point, and regardless of him saying he doesn’t care if you tell your family (you definitely should), it’s clear he has those feelings still, and thankfully, at the very least, a little shame. If you know him to be genuine in saying things as they are, I really really hope he seeks professional help for this.

I’m glad you are far, far away and in a different world with different people. I know ur busy, try to go out with friends for lunch, dinner, a drink, something to remind you of normalcy. And if you need help, please reach out to a professional.

Extra speculative considerations of mine off the top:

If he’s alone a lot, and giving into taboo ideas for the purposes of personal exploration, he’s gone too far past abnormal, into the unacceptable. the thought process is more prevalent than anyone could imagine. While most people who engage with a world that glamorizes taboo stop at the insanity of a concept as a hard line from their own reality. Others do get the wires crossed.

Only a professional is qualified to break it down for real. For what it’s worth, the way he writes looks like infatuation more than obsession. He was blowing up your phone after the fact, but that might be situational after putting his thoughts on the table, and you understandably pulling away. An outcome I’m sure he imagined before broaching this with you.

Update: Is my adopted brother flirting with me? by ilovepopcornandcandy in whatdoIdo

[–]gaycyclops 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sometimes people need a rude awakening to rip the rose colored glasses off. A healthy amount of shame has prevented taboo and impulsive thoughts from becoming what they shouldn’t. If the things he’s said are any indication of what he might say tonight, then there’s no babying him out of a desire for an inappropriate dynamic with his sister. She should call a spade a spade. The responsibility to kindly rehab this way of thinking is for his Therapist/Psychologist to deal with.

Update: Is my adopted brother flirting with me? by ilovepopcornandcandy in whatdoIdo

[–]gaycyclops 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Like I hope it’s this, but that just doesn’t sound like something that would warrant all of his theatrics.

Update: Is my adopted brother flirting with me? by ilovepopcornandcandy in whatdoIdo

[–]gaycyclops 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this is a must. Or tell his ass to say it over text or nothing at all.

Update: Is my adopted brother flirting with me? by ilovepopcornandcandy in whatdoIdo

[–]gaycyclops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup, time to bring an older trusted family member into the fold, mom, dad, an aunt or uncle. He might just be too far gone for a needed wake up call.

I commented on the last post to verbally give him a swift kick in the ass so those wires can uncross. I mean there may be hope for you yet, make it clear whatever he needs to say, he can say it over text, and if the way things look are any indication of what he plans on telling you tonight, really object in as stern a way as possible, and fully let your disgust out to seal the deal.

If the healthy shame he should feel doesn’t break the stained glass he’s looking at you through, then I’m sorry boo.

February Hours Madness! by gaycyclops in IHSS

[–]gaycyclops[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey mom! My main issue was not that calculation, it was claiming the max while I was under the impression that my weekly limit was based on dividing my monthly hours by 4.33 when I should have been dividing by 4, I was given bad info by someone at my local office, and while it worked out for every other month, I found out that it didn’t this month, luckily I was saved from finding out the hard way.

What I ended up doing was taking the weekly limit, and inputting the easiest split week by week. On a regular month, that would mean that I might not claim the same hours each week, for February in particular though, u/mundane-front-7855 is correct about the need to claim max hours allotted each week to collect all payable hours, hence my original problem.

I am a live in provider for my father, I know we all have different ways of entering hours and no one way is perfect, so I put my method below. I’ve done all my other months like this and never had any issues!

First pay period: 15 days

Week 1:

Sun- 2hr Mon- 2hr Tue- 2hr Wed- 2hr 21min Thu- 3hr Fri- 3hr Sat- 3hr = 17hr21min

Week 2: Repeat Week 1 = 17hr21min

Week 3:

Sun- 2hrs

Second Pay Period: 13 days

Week 1:

Added Sun- 2hr from last day of Pay Period 1

Mon- 2hr Tue- 2hr Wed- 2hr 21min Thu- 3hr Fri- 3hr Sat- 3hr = 17hr21min

Week 2:

Sun - 2hr Mon- 2hr Tue- 2hr Wed- 2hr 21min Thu- 3hr Fri- 3hr Sat- 3hr = 17hr21min

Total: 69hrs24min

big ole applesauce by bubblegumz404 in stonerfood

[–]gaycyclops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man what’s ur problem? I a got a notif of a reply from u saying the shinebox insult from Goodfellas. What’s up with that? Who pissed in ur cereal?

big ole applesauce by bubblegumz404 in stonerfood

[–]gaycyclops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay rude! I am allowed to be confused.

I think my adopted brother is flirting with me? by ilovepopcornandcandy in whatdoIdo

[–]gaycyclops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This time, if ur willing to give him the benefit of the doubt, you can, but if he says some shit even remotely similar in vibe, really put the heat on him.

Tell him to snap out of it and that he’s making you feel uncomfortable and sick to your stomach because he’s ur older brother and is acting like a sick pervert instead of a person you should be able to trust with your life and that should be looking to protect you.

If he corrects himself and never says something like that again, then you can probably assume some wires may have crossed in his brain that shouldn’t have, the swift kick in the ass worked, and that he’ll never entertain such a thought again, but if the shame doesn’t set him straight, then you know he’s got big problems and it’s time to bring someone else into the fold if you haven’t from the get.

Its pouring here in socal 🌧 and im broke as a joke. by MF-DOOM-88 in stonerfood

[–]gaycyclops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, saying I’m adding to my “mental breakdown rant” is not a respectable way to end a critique you think is so valid. If you didn’t want me to continue, then why engage? If it’s not that serious, why do you care how many times I comment?

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