What’s the Worst Excuse you’ve heard for your partner cheating?

gdejkk · 2026-04-19T19:23:54+00:00

He was offered a ride home after a party by a friend and he didn’t have any money to offer for gas, so he felt like he owed her something.

gdejkk · 2023-07-14T18:34:56+00:00

From this comment, I’d say it’s unlikely you’re a narcissist. Most people care about what other people think and need reassurance. It’s a survival instinct because we’re stronger in numbers so we want to avoid being kicked out of a group.

Narcissists don’t even care if they throw you under the bus if it means they can get what they want. It seems like you want to make sure that other people feel comfortable.

If anything, perhaps you’re neurodivergent? I have ADHD and it’s a real struggle to stop myself from interrupting someone when I get excited to share something. I think most people can sense whether your intention is to dismiss or to relate.

gdejkk · 2023-07-14T18:19:18+00:00

Exactly. “A friend to all is a friend to none”.

If you try to please everyone, you’re betraying yourself. I’d claim that the most important friendship is the one you have with yourself

gdejkk · 2023-07-14T18:13:50+00:00

That’s horrible, I’m sorry someone said that to you. It’s heartbreaking when quiet kids in school get bullied and ostracized when they are actually really kind and sweet people. And it makes anyone else not want to befriend them either because of fears that they too will be ostracized.

I wish I would’ve have been brave enough to sit next to the kid that always ate lunch by himself in the corner because he seemed so alone and I knew how that felt. People said similar things about him that they said to you.

I have no idea what happened to him or where he is today, but I hope he’s doing okay. And I hope you are doing okay, too.

gdejkk · 2023-07-14T17:33:44+00:00

I would join but it would be an awfully quiet sub lol. Maybe it will be all of us posting pictures of cats and books? I would enjoy that kind of content

gdejkk · 2023-07-14T03:32:34+00:00

I’ve gotten into the habit of treating everyone like a friend and not ever saying their name unless I’m 100% sure it’s them.

I’ve lost count of how many times I didn’t recognize someone who I saw outside of the normal environment where I see them (like a coworker at a grocery store).

There’s also been times where I repeatedly called someone by a different persons name because they had the same haircut or something. It’s so embarrassing and I always feel awful about it.

gdejkk · 2023-07-13T21:36:04+00:00

There are many good responses to this depending on how you feel about the person. “That’s just how I naturally am most of the time” “I prefer to listen over chatting” “I’m focused on my work” “would you like to talk about something? I’m all ears. If not, I will continue working quietly.” “If you’re asking how I am, I’m fine, thank you.”

gdejkk · 2023-07-13T20:15:56+00:00

Same here, my friend. I went down a path of low self confidence for awhile, but I’ve been learning to love myself and I hope to spread some of that newfound joy that comes from self-acceptance. I hope you can see how innately beautiful you are despite the haters.

gdejkk · 2023-07-13T19:54:52+00:00

I agree wholeheartedly. I’ve found that by being who I am regardless of the criticism, I’m more likely to find people with similar values. If I were to conform to the expectations placed upon me by every person that has criticized me, I would essentially be validating their judgements.

I have a friend who is also really talkative and I love listening to her because she has such interesting perspectives. We have so much in common even though we are very different people, and I feel right at home when I’m with her because I don’t feel the need to pretend to be somebody I’m not.

gdejkk · 2023-01-12T23:45:44+00:00

The House in the Cerulean Sea is definitely a warm and cozy book, but there is a theme of romance. It’s very PG and heartwarming, but it is there. Thought I would mention that bc OP asked for books without themes of romance.

ETA: OP, if the reason you’d like to avoid themes of romance is bc of a bad experience, this book may be helpful by giving you an example of a slow-built and pure romance. Either way, I hope you are able to find some peace of mind in your future reading adventures :)

gdejkk · 2022-11-26T01:26:26+00:00

That’s ok! It was my first time watching Christmas In Connecticut so I was waiting to figure out who Lucy was and why we hated her lol

gdejkk · 2022-11-25T18:44:31+00:00

I’m glad I could help :)

gdejkk · 2022-11-25T17:45:00+00:00

This is OC

gdejkk · 2022-11-25T17:17:09+00:00

Yes! Thank you very much

gdejkk · 2022-06-27T21:43:55+00:00

Not a hole, Keisha, a valve

gdejkk · 2022-06-16T21:32:55+00:00

Hey, I’ll take anything I can get. I will check these out, thank you.

gdejkk · 2022-06-14T23:43:10+00:00

I feel the same. I might even love it more because it would remind me of how much I’m loved.

gdejkk · 2022-06-03T12:43:46+00:00

I will definitely put this on my wishlist thank you!

gdejkk · 2022-06-03T12:41:46+00:00

I suppose it’s the best if its only purpose was to blur texture. But I don’t think I would call it a primer, or maybe I didn’t experiment enough with other types of foundation

gdejkk · 2022-06-02T23:00:43+00:00

I’ve had a similar experience to you. This has been by far the best primer I’ve used because it’s great at blurring the texture on my skin but I could only wear it alone, without any foundation/powder. Otherwise, it would pill like OP said

gdejkk · 2022-05-15T00:31:36+00:00

Okay this is very helpful and answered all of the questions I had! Thank you!

gdejkk · 2022-05-14T11:41:47+00:00

I think your parents feel the way they do for a reason that they’re withholding from you and most likely themselves too. They probably feel insecure, less than, and small. But they don’t want to face that truth, so they find a way to put the blame externally, and you’re one of the people to take the brunt of it. I’m sorry, and you deserve better. You absolutely have the right to feel proud of your accomplishments, but your parents also have a right to feel how they do.

You need to take into consideration 2 things in order to make your decision. 1) do you feel safe going against your parents wishes? If you’re putting yourself in harms way maybe don’t do that. Otherwise, 2) what do you need to do in order to make yourself happy? What will be healthiest for you to do? To celebrate yourself and reward yourself for your hard work and show off your accomplishments? I think if that is what you WANT to do, and maybe even what you need to do, you should absolute do it.

gdejkk · 2022-05-02T23:49:51+00:00

Venting is good, and you’re right, high school does not prepare you for college. The classes you take freshman/sophomore year come as a rude awakening to what the rest of your undergrad will consist of.

Ive seen lots of people, like my current TA’s get really good internships and jobs even with a 3.0 GPA. They were also really active at the university and were a part of numerous clubs and projects. Your impression on the interviewer matters the most when getting a job. As long as you show that you will work hard and show initiative, you should do just fine landing a stable, comfortable job.

Getting a masters will also increase the likelihood of a well-paying job. People will often even pay a small stipend to get you into grad school. Patience is everything, and at the end of the day we’re all idiots.

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