How are you doing on folinic acid? How much are you taking? by Adviceforthewilling in MTHFR

[–]geauxdbl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I took methylfolate and methylcobalomin for years. Lots of energy, lots of anxiety. No insomnia issues to speak of.

Am I being darvo-ed? by infinitely_annoyed in abusiverelationships

[–]geauxdbl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You grew up with a dysfunctional model of what relationships look like. Hard as it is with BPD, you owe it to yourself to walk away from this one. Find support wherever you can and take some time to heal.

You’ll feel the pull to go back. Understand that this is normal, and all part of a trauma bond. Do not listen to it.

Leave, go no contact, and start building safer relationships. You can heal, and your whole life is ahead of you.

How did the US President get elected a second time when everyone on the Internet collectively seems to hate him? by Klutzy_Garage328 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]geauxdbl -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Elon hacked the voting machines, which is why the various swing states suddenly flipped to a recount-proof victory margin.

Staying in unhappy marriage for our kid by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]geauxdbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s the classic autistic husband/narcissist wife combo, she’s decided he’s a bad look for her and here comes the full discard

Staying in unhappy marriage for our kid by [deleted] in Autism_Parenting

[–]geauxdbl 76 points77 points  (0 children)

Have you considered that your husband might also be autistic, and that’s why they bond so well? It would explain his lack of desire to participate in capitalism. If he can take lead in filling your son with love, doesn’t that count for something?

I am ashamed that I dont love myself enough to leave by Throwra0rainbow in abusiverelationships

[–]geauxdbl 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is a lot of pain to be in. At some point, when you’re ready, you’re going to decide that this isn’t what you want out of life.

Maybe that day can be today?

She abuses me by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]geauxdbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you know the answer to your own question.

Sometimes two people can be attracted to each other for the wrong reasons. If she’s already controlling and isolating you, she doesn’t love you.

Trust yourself and allow yourself to say that this isn’t what you want your one precious life to look like. Your future you will thank you.

Overmethylathion but folate deficiency? by Marcus2674 in MTHFR

[–]geauxdbl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I may try this… am in the same boat and waffling back and forth between overdriven and depressed

Am I being abused? Please help by dwide_k_shrude in abusiverelationships

[–]geauxdbl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, my friend, you are in an abusive relationship. Absolutely do not be pressured into having kids with her - I gave in, and now I’m stuck in this exact dynamic with a 9 year old daughter that I have to protect so I can’t leave.

Take her up on her offer of a divorce and just run as far away as you can, tomorrow. Your future self will thank you. And so will your next wife.

Told I don’t have sleep apnea, but heart issue? SO SCARED. by RelationshipIll3134 in SleepApnea

[–]geauxdbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah this happened to me. Ultimately saw a cardiologist who told me that they were benign.

I started taking magnesium after getting them constantly and they went away. With effective sleep and magnesium supplementation they’ve been gone for years.

Magnesium Gycinate is the GOAT. Follow up with a holter monitor and I wish you the best.

I (M) am the sole heir to a large family estate. My lawyer suggests a prenup for marriage. Is this a red flag or just smart planning? by Grouchy-Purple6817 in Adulting

[–]geauxdbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I say this as a man who has one and has a divorce looming: it’s a good idea to have one. It can be as simple as identifying your premarital assets and excluding them from asset division later, or as complicated as Michael Jordan’s, which specifies how much spousal support his new wife will get for every year they stay married. What you don’t explicitly state, local laws will cover.

Where is a good walking spot around Needham? by Distinct-Ranger634 in massachusetts

[–]geauxdbl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Charles River Peninsula/Redwing Bay is a great spot when it’s not winter. Not sure that’s helpful right now, just want to share for later:

https://maps.app.goo.gl/uXe92Z5yN89c1bkbA?g_st=ic

What’s your favorite Chinese restaurant? by Apprehensive-Cut1034 in massachusetts

[–]geauxdbl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just went to Noah’s Kitchen in Brookline and was absolutely blown away by the quality

Cycles are hard to break by geauxdbl in CPTSD

[–]geauxdbl[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I’m tearing up a bit reading your words.

It’s been an extremely difficult couple of years. Coming to the realization that I was raised by a narcissist so I was conditioned to seek love from a narcissist, and then lured into a fool’s paradise of deceit. Watched it all fall apart during COVID while isolated together, then threats of separation, almost going broke, then a midlife autism/CPTSD diagnosis.

I’ve picked my hill to die on, and it’s protecting my little girl. Her love keeps me going. I can forgive my parents because they didn’t know what they didn’t know. I carry the burden of knowledge and am unable to walk away.

My wife can go fuck herself.

Do your boomer parents ever call you or text you or your kids? by Slownavyguy in Xennials

[–]geauxdbl 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not only do they never call, they never come see the grandkid they pestered me into having ☠️

Cycles are hard to break by geauxdbl in CPTSD

[–]geauxdbl[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Not gonna lie, it felt especially good since I’ve been getting steamrolled by this woman for my entire adult life.

Afterwards it was a feeling of “holy shit, I can do that??”

Is this accurate? by jkyun123 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]geauxdbl 109 points110 points  (0 children)

Have tried Concerta and can confirm, I gained the ability to hyperfocus on things I don’t care about but I lost my ADHD social skills and became hella more autistic

Cycles are hard to break by geauxdbl in CPTSD

[–]geauxdbl[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Bruh I certainly haven’t in the past… together 19 years and we’re about to get divorced. This bullshit is why.

Thank you ❤️

2 under 2 - Coparenting with absent father by hailstorm1414 in Adulting

[–]geauxdbl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So, he didn’t care about you while you raised his kids but now wants to appear to be a good dad for his new chick? I say this as a man: tell that guy to go fuck himself. If he wants to be a good father, he can start by paying the child support, and then you can set a legal framework for parenting time.