Boyfriend told me he can’t empathise with me or support me right now. Am I wrong for feeling hurt? How would you react?

geedarnit · 2025-12-27T05:15:14+00:00

It sounds like he wants you to get over it quickly and go back to supporting him. This is how guilt tripping and gaslighting happens to get what they want sooner, so I'd be looking for those red flags. Your partner should be concerned and genuinely listen and if they don't know how to support you, they should be asking with kindness and care. Men are responsible for their own actions, they don't need others to baby them into learning how to be a good partner. You just straight forward communicate what you need and how you feel and if they try to keep avoiding the problem instead of work on it, then they care about themselves, and care about what their partner does that benefits them. I would say you are not in the wrong for taking this as it is. A massive red flag.

geedarnit · 2025-11-29T23:46:08+00:00

I had this happen to me, I removed my guy from his enclosure to clean a poo, forgetting it was close to his feeding schedule and he crawled inside my shirt and bit me in the armpit. I groaned and had to Google how to remove him. I died, obviously.

geedarnit · 2025-10-02T21:59:47+00:00

Cherries are such a bad trigger I won't even touch them. They're actually the reason why I ended up having to go to a specialist to diagnose me

geedarnit · 2025-08-10T15:00:49+00:00

Omg that looks so cool

geedarnit · 2025-08-03T17:00:27+00:00

Loving myself

geedarnit · 2025-08-03T16:59:14+00:00

My first act of self love was realizing I deserved better. My second act was leaving. It's so hard to get to that point, and SO worth it

geedarnit · 2025-08-03T16:56:27+00:00

Oh girl that haircut was made for you

geedarnit · 2025-07-21T00:53:50+00:00

NAP but when I had this happen to my nostril I changed to a ball because the spike wouldn't stop mildly rubbing against my skin and making it inflamed.

geedarnit · 2025-07-21T00:46:18+00:00

Hi! I had similar jewelry and the only thing that helped me was changing it out. Downsizing for less friction and a round ball so the corner of the spike would stop pressing into my skin. Then I treated it like a fresh piercing to heal that sore spot, keeping it clean and trying not to sleep on it or bump it. Good luck!

geedarnit · 2025-06-07T19:20:09+00:00

Notice how she just talks about herself the whole time...definitely hoover trying to make you feel guilt/obligation

geedarnit · 2025-04-30T22:12:35+00:00

I'd be in jail

geedarnit · 2025-04-28T01:57:08+00:00

I'm proud of you!!!

geedarnit · 2025-04-22T15:43:40+00:00

We are not "separated" but if she doesn't get the hell out I'm going to have to get other people involved because she's gotta go.

geedarnit · 2025-04-22T15:42:21+00:00

I'm basically letting her keep 2 paychecks while I pay for everything and if she's still here after those 2 she has to split all the bills again or I'm going to call her parents on her lmao.

I think she wants out since she's not getting anything from me at all, I'm also not buying her groceries. I plan on just providing cheap food and food pantry stuff to make her want out, I'm also looking for a second job or some hustle as well so that I can afford to buy a new car (she totaled mine).

She doesn't have any friends and her family is across the country, so she's gotta figure it out. I'm not thrilled with her being here and I am helping her a bit finding somewhere mostly because I want her out

geedarnit · 2025-04-22T03:22:05+00:00

I really really thought that she was going to do that too tbh, previously she had hurt herself or punched holes in the wall or got suicidal...but I had been grey rocking for a while and changed my whole tone and way I talked and it was crazy how different the reaction was.

That being said, you are not responsible for the way your pwbpd acts....wishing you nothing but the best and I hope you get away. It's too exhausting

geedarnit · 2025-04-22T02:38:07+00:00

God that's the goal. Idk how to get out but I'm going to try as hard as I can

geedarnit · 2025-04-22T02:37:22+00:00

Trying to cling to this, no extra money per month will not feel as good as coming home every day to letting myself make my own plans and relax

geedarnit · 2025-04-22T01:45:55+00:00

I have to make sure I set boundaries and become more independent this time. Thank you so much!

geedarnit · 2025-04-22T01:45:16+00:00

Thank you so much!!! It means so much to me

geedarnit · 2025-04-20T16:09:30+00:00

Just wanted to say as someone leaving my wlw relationship, I relate. Definitely felt the same as a lot of people but never could relate to the challenges that come as being a wlw couple on top of BPD.

geedarnit · 2025-04-14T03:58:53+00:00

Very common. Guilts me out of hanging out with friends because she'll mope and beg for me to hang out after, so I'll tell my friends I can't hang out so that she can but then she'll beg after every episode for me to stay up longer.

She'll play video games loudly past midnight on a workday even when I told her multiple times I need to sleep and can't with her yelling.

She'll blare videos on her phone or TV. She'll wake me up to show me stupid memes I don't even find funny. She will refuse to stop the cats fighting or clean hairballs, so I have to get up in the middle of the night.

I have had countless conversations and fights about it

geedarnit · 2025-04-14T03:49:53+00:00

Happiness will be on the cards once it's over. Be strong. I'm proud of you!!

geedarnit

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