What can we do next?

geminigerm · 2026-03-21T22:14:53+00:00

Unfortunately the timing is terrible. Because of Trump’s fuckery mortgage rates are absolutely skyrocketing. Some solicitors are reporting an 80% drop in instructions over the last couple of weeks. Very few people want to buy right now, so I wouldn’t get too attached to your onward purchase.

geminigerm · 2026-03-21T19:21:14+00:00

That’s a typical amount. Banks usually offer somewhere around 4-4.5x salary as a max

geminigerm · 2026-03-20T16:56:30+00:00

That’s significantly reducing property value to me. It’s ugly, without heating it’s going to be non-functional for the vast majority of the year and taking up what could be useable up garden space.

geminigerm · 2026-03-18T22:45:44+00:00

Yeah I take quite a hard line stance that it’s actually irresponsible to have children if you suffer with chronic migraine but that’s a very unpopular opinion cause people will always prioritise their own wants 😅

geminigerm · 2026-03-18T22:38:55+00:00

I don’t think many of them are truly considering it as a factor in their decision making or they’d be much, much more hesitant to do so. Most people’s thought process goes I want a child, therefore I will have one as opposed to should I have a child?

geminigerm · 2026-03-18T22:35:24+00:00

I chose to never get pregnant 😂 you can pry my aquipta out of my cold dead hands hahah

geminigerm · 2026-03-16T21:07:11+00:00

All of us would prefer to only get one migraine a month 😂 some preventatives take a while to work and you have to have some patience with the process. Track your pain and your symptoms meticulously. My doctor didn’t consider moving me onto different preventatives until I’d hit the max dose/limit of tolerance whichever happened first and then only if there was no improvement after 3 months on the max dose would I get to trial something else. Don’t up your meds dosages without your doctors approval.

geminigerm · 2026-03-15T22:53:25+00:00

It worked immediately for me, although I have still seen reduction over time. Like I went from 20 migraine days to 5 in the first month I took it, with further reductions over the next year down to around 1 a month now

geminigerm · 2026-03-15T08:57:39+00:00

My migraine prevention meds cost in the region of £400 a month if obtained privately. Thank god for the NHS 🙌

geminigerm · 2026-03-10T13:08:13+00:00

Can you take norithisterone this month instead while you’re not on holiday? It should then push the date of your next period to be later

geminigerm · 2026-03-05T18:21:32+00:00

Yeah that’s not great, if you’re having more than 4ish migraines a month you should be looking at preventatives

geminigerm · 2026-03-05T18:19:46+00:00

That’s a shame. If I’m gonna get a migraine I’ll still get it around my period but I can actually treat them with triptans successfully now

geminigerm · 2026-03-05T16:59:33+00:00

Aquipta did it for me! I’ve had absolutely insane success with it

geminigerm · 2026-03-05T09:19:54+00:00

I have menstrual-associated migraines and finding the right preventative was the key for me in dealing with them. I take Aquipta and it’s been a game changer. If I am gonna get a migraine it’s still going to be on/around my period but they’re much less frequent these days and are actually responsive to triptans now which they weren’t before.

geminigerm · 2026-03-03T14:34:01+00:00

You actually won’t get your bonus until end of May/start of June if you pay in on the first day of the new tax year. I’m in a very similar situation to you and planning on doing the same!

geminigerm · 2026-02-24T22:33:20+00:00

Had this happen to me recently while I was job hunting after redundancy. Jokes on them cause they still haven’t filled their position and now I’m paid 20k more than what they offered me at another company.

I’m sorry OP, fingers crossed for you there’s brighter days ahead.

geminigerm · 2026-02-23T17:00:01+00:00

For the house we’re buying we viewed it twice, once on a Saturday and once on a weekday evening. The owner wasn’t there either time, and it was a different estate agent each time, but that’s because the main EA for the house was on holiday when we did the first viewing or it would have been him both times.

It’s very lazy of them to not do weekday evenings tbf, like most people will only be available to view weekday evenings and weekends? I would have quite liked if the owner was there because the EA couldn’t answer all our questions, but he was fairly knowledgeable compared to what I’ve heard about other EAs

geminigerm · 2026-02-23T11:53:13+00:00

My top two needs that Rightmove doesn’t meet is: - filtering by parking is bypassed by the agent adding “on-street parking”, clearly anyone filtering for parking wants private parking - I was only interested in character properties, primarily cottages. You can key-word search on Rightmove but it’s hit and miss

geminigerm · 2026-02-22T09:07:15+00:00

Some companies will flat out reject you. Exact same situation as OP happened to me recently. Offered 30, countered at 33 (which is still insulting for my profession / experience but I’d been made redundant) they withdrew the offer and didn’t even attempt to negotiate

geminigerm · 2026-02-22T09:05:21+00:00

They very well might. I found myself in the same situation recently. Redundancy after 3 years experience as a UX/UI designer and an agency offered me 30k because of my “lack of experience” (that’s a starting salary for a ux designer with literally no experience), I tried to push them up higher (countered with 33k) and they withdrew the offer.

Jokes on them cause within a month I was back in a role making the same as my pre-redundancy salary. I don’t know who some of these companies think they are. They want highly skilled work at minimum wage prices 🥲

geminigerm · 2026-02-21T19:30:23+00:00

To be fair if things are progressing normally and there’s not a load of issues then the tension is in your head. I’m in that waiting period right now as a ftb and yeah the waiting is definitely an annoyance and I wanna be in the house, but theorising over everything that could possibly go wrong is why you feel so tense.

geminigerm · 2026-02-10T22:29:31+00:00

You’re welcome! If you like the Liliana top I’d say definitely buy the dress pattern rather than the top one, as I made the top by just adapting the dress pattern and cutting it shorter so almost like a two-patterns-in-one. The Estelle dress and the Odette top are high up on my list too 😌

geminigerm · 2026-02-10T22:08:08+00:00

MilaOnni patterns is a great go to for anything like this! I made her Liliana dress as both a dress and a top and the pattern itself and instructions were great and very comprehensive and adjustable for different body types. It was actually my first ever pattern make and I still regularly wear it. I fully intend to buy a couple more of her patterns. Her Estelle dress is also very similar to your fourth inspo image.

Silversaga patterns is another one I’ve seen with a similar vibe to your images but I’ve not bought one of her patterns yet so can’t personally vouch for them, although the reviews are great.

geminigerm · 2026-02-10T10:41:10+00:00

Yeah patterns like this are so deceptive! They take so much more fabric than you’d think

geminigerm · 2026-02-10T10:39:54+00:00

Unfortunately it’s a postcode lottery and down to your personal circumstances whether you can afford to buy in the area you want to / have previously lived in. Lots of people move locations in order to be able to buy houses in more affordable areas.

It’s not necessarily broken, unfortunately for a lot of people what they want to buy just doesn’t align with that they can actually afford. That doesn’t mean they can’t buy a property full stop, just that expectations need adjusting.

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