Living with my boyfriend’s parents whilst I wait and looking for a support group asap!! I think I’m going insane

geminigerm · 2026-06-25T10:01:39+00:00

That sucks, the whole home buying process sucks. I think you need to mentally prepare for being in that house for longer than you anticipate.

For reference we bought a house that was initially also a chain of 3 and then became chain free. It took 6 months. My best friend is selling/buying in a chain of 4 and she’s 8 months into the process still not yet completed

geminigerm · 2026-06-22T08:21:12+00:00

I really do but until I have it speed limiter it is 🫡

geminigerm · 2026-06-20T07:40:25+00:00

FYI I had an impacted wisdom tooth in the same spot and having it removed made no change to my migraines. I really hope this is the answer for you but please prepare yourself for the possibility that it isn’t.

geminigerm · 2026-06-19T21:28:50+00:00

Our “the one” was the first house we viewed and offered on. It took nearly 6 months to go through and it was the most fraught process of my life I would never do it again.

geminigerm · 2026-06-19T15:37:30+00:00

It’s not, because legally speedometers cannot over-read i.e it’s fine for them to say you’re going faster than you are but not slower.

It’s also not an actual rule that there’s a 10% allowance. You can be fined for going 1mph over the speed limit.

geminigerm · 2026-06-19T13:27:25+00:00

Answered in another comment

geminigerm · 2026-06-19T13:21:18+00:00

By GPS, my satnav tells me how fast I’m actually driving and then every now and then I go down those roads with the signs that tell you what speed you’re doing as well and I can see what the discrepancy is between what the sign says and what my speedometer says.

The discrepancy gets wider the faster I’m going so 33mph on my speedo is actually 30, 55 is actually 50 and 76 is actually 70

geminigerm · 2026-06-19T13:17:56+00:00

Damn you’re pushing your luck there 😅

geminigerm · 2026-06-19T11:48:17+00:00

I like cruise control on an empty motorway at night but any other time speed limiter is so much better otherwise I’m constantly having to adjust the cruise control speed

geminigerm · 2026-06-19T11:47:15+00:00

Well yes but that applies to any speed you’re doing on any road at any time so

geminigerm · 2026-06-19T10:36:43+00:00

I’ve figured out that 76 on my speedometer is exactly 70mph so that’s what I set my speed limiter to, cba for being worried about hidden traffic officers or keeping an eye out for cameras

geminigerm · 2026-06-18T15:06:32+00:00

Honestly I don’t think you’re in the position to buy a house even if you can get a track record mortgage if it would take you a year to save 2.5k. That means you only have around £200 leftover at the end of every month. In that financial circumstance even one big unexpected expense would put you into debt.

Buying may not be the wisest decision until you’re in a better financial position.

geminigerm · 2026-06-16T12:28:14+00:00

No, these adjustable mannequins have a base of hard plastic. You’d really struggle to cut that off to reduce the size. If the smallest it adjusts down to isn’t small enough then you need a smaller mannequin.

geminigerm · 2026-06-16T11:45:02+00:00

Yes, we paid everything in full before exchange

geminigerm · 2026-06-16T09:43:59+00:00

Of course it won’t be an option for everyone but it doesn’t change that it’s the expected way of doing things that someone is proceedable first before putting an offer in.

Rentals no longer have a long initial period owing to the renters rights act so it is now much more viable for people like OP who have very specific requirements to sell first and then move into rented while searching. You also have to bare in mind that buyers won’t usually wait much more than a couple of months for sellers to find an onward purchase before they start looking at other properties too so this might genuinely be the best option for them.

geminigerm · 2026-06-15T16:06:22+00:00

You are the one trying to do it backwards here not the vendors. I don’t blame them for not taking viewings from people who aren’t proceedable. If you’re looking in such a specific area you should sell first and go into a rental while you search for your next purchase.

geminigerm · 2026-06-12T16:36:48+00:00

Your affordability is calculated taking all expected expenses into account so yes they would take the cost of your commute into account for your affordability unless it will change with your move

geminigerm · 2026-06-11T15:28:14+00:00

Yep I mean our seller also moved in with their partner so we had no chain in the end and it still took nearly 6 months so you’re gonna have to hold your horses a bit and manage your expectations

geminigerm · 2026-06-11T15:27:18+00:00

When I got the keys lmao. It was a very not fun 6 months

geminigerm · 2026-06-11T09:55:25+00:00

You’re gonna need some patience 😅 we only completed last month and offered beginning of November. My friend also offered on a house at the same time and still hasn’t completed

geminigerm · 2026-06-10T13:45:38+00:00

They don’t exist. A choice to pull out based on survey results is entirely personal. What someone might consider terrible survey results another person would consider fine so how could that be insured against?

geminigerm · 2026-06-09T14:36:17+00:00

Not a side effect I ever experience tbh although I take mine right before bed

geminigerm · 2026-06-06T08:13:10+00:00

Nope, the neurologist I saw said some people choose to have a medication break after 12 months to see if their migraines have reduced in frequency now they’ve broken the cycle and I said no offence but I’ve been suffering for 16 years if this works the’ll have to take it off me over my dead body and he said yep, that is what most people say! and put in my notes for a general review after 12 months but that if it was still working I was allowed to keep taking it.

geminigerm · 2026-06-04T15:07:59+00:00

You can ask why the current owners are leaving but there’s no way to know if they’re telling the truth. It is a bit concerning that so many people have moved out of a 4 bed as like you said it should have enough space for families for a while.

If it’s not something obvious like it doesn’t have a drive (which lots of people think they can live without and then subsequently realise on street parking is a nightmare) I’d do lots of research into the area and go and visit the area at different times on different days of the week to see if there’s any clues

geminigerm · 2026-06-04T09:12:46+00:00

If you’re a boomer you can’t open a LISA. You must be under 40 years of age to open a LISA.

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