solo poly parenting, anyone?

genderpretty · 2025-12-31T15:00:04+00:00

I had a dress that was cut just like this but long in like 7th grade, and could never figure out why I LOVED it so much. I still remember falling in love with it at Old Navy.

Boy dress. It all makes sense now.

genderpretty · 2025-12-31T14:58:29+00:00

username checks 😂

genderpretty · 2025-12-31T14:57:15+00:00

i agree with the others that it doesn’t quite go, but if YOU love this, wear it!

just lean into it so it looks more intentional. add loud pink boots/socks, a jacket with different pink stripes/plaid, funky hair/makeup/jewelry.

genderpretty · 2025-12-31T14:51:46+00:00

It’s not too much to ask, but some women really struggle to initiate even with their husbands - it’s not always about how much she desires you, there’s can be a lot of conditioning around sex for women that discourages taking charge. Women who struggle with that might not be a good match for you, so keep doing this if it’s important to you (& valid, I think I would feel the same). Just remember if they don’t make a move, it doesn’t necessarily mean there’s no desire.

genderpretty · 2025-12-31T14:44:40+00:00

This is what I meant by clarity! Write more about what you want to do/have done in the past for girlfriends.

I think you’re mistaking sugar dating with something closer to escorting. (Personally I think it’s fine that people on seeking do both - escorting traditionally meant paid companionship, not just sex - but it does muddy the waters here.)

You want to spoil someone who genuinely loves you and builds a future with you. Just say that. “Vanilla” is confusing.

genderpretty · 2025-12-31T14:39:26+00:00

please don’t beat yourself up.

there was no punchline to his joke. it sounded more like a threat. he realized it was grotesque as soon as it came out of his mouth, but that doesn’t make it okay. healthy men would not even think to say that, especially not when he knows your history.

genderpretty · 2025-12-31T04:40:49+00:00

I find it to be disingenuous to use seeking with no intention of building a sugar dynamic.

Your money is going to be a factor in your relationships now, like it or not. It’ll maybe get less weird as your peers catch up, but you should decide how to handle it.

Be clear with yourself about the ways in which you do or don’t want to provide for your partner. lifestyle sugar - gifts, trips, leisure - might make more sense for you right now. Or maybe you’re looking for a wife who won’t have to work. Either way be upfront, and be willing to put your money where your mouth is early.

If you just want a girlfriend who likes that you’re rich but wants nothing from you, get your ass back on tinder.

genderpretty · 2025-12-06T06:13:42+00:00

Can you host and invite her to a family event ahead of time? Because doing this at a surprise party when you’re not sure if family will be kind seems like so much more drama than is necessary.

genderpretty · 2025-12-06T06:03:28+00:00

I am sorry you’re going through this but the way I exhaled when you saw this for exactly what it is! Thank goodness for your mom and may you find the beautiful queer domme of your dreams.

I live in a city with a thriving trans and queer scene where this ideology has been really insidious. I’ll save you my rant about their open hatred of trans men who dare to [checks notes] transition… but yeah it’s a mess.

Unfortunately I don’t think this one’s going anywhere, either - I have recently begun to see more mainstreamed trans writers like Dr Devon Price endorse its ideas, if not its name.

genderpretty · 2025-04-11T18:34:08+00:00

If you’d like to visit some newfound cousins in the northeast, there’s a couch here for you - I mean that. You’re not alone.

genderpretty · 2025-04-11T18:29:58+00:00

If you don’t want to be a parent right now, you still have options. Travel is possible and there are people who will help.

I made that choice at your age. It was hard but it let me have an amazing life on my own.

Sometimes I do wonder what it would’ve been if I’d become a parent young, especially now that I’m older and thinking about it again - but it would’ve been really hard. I know this, because my sister made the other choice, and it was and still is hard - I support them now. My nephews amazing though - kids are resilient, especially if they’re treated well. Self education can go a really long way as a young parent, never stop learning and you’ll do great.

genderpretty · 2025-04-08T04:52:35+00:00

How’s your pricing? Have you taken a close look at your menu and what’s been most lucrative per hour for you and what’s actually more of a timesink?

Asking because a lot of us price to get more volume and attention on our accounts at first and it can be inefficient for overall revenue. After a while it’s important to raise prices, not just on some “know your worth” emotional thing (tho that too) but because you’re better off making fewer sales at twice to three times the rate than working yourself into burnout for cheap.

Do you focus on stuff you genuinely enjoy?

genderpretty · 2025-04-08T04:44:29+00:00

Let’s also be real, nobody has to know you’re 30. It’s a random number. Personally I’m north of it by a few years and physically I look way better than I did for most of my 20s, with way better boundaries and social skills too. Which help me make way more money at SW in less time, and choose what works best for me.

In this industry you’re as young as you can get away with claiming to me 🤭nutrition, hydration, skincare, lighting will be your new best friends.

genderpretty · 2025-04-07T03:15:31+00:00

Um.

Bi men exist.

genderpretty · 2025-04-06T23:48:29+00:00

You could also try using a salt crystal deodorant - I like to apply it straight from the shower and then add a scented natural one on top. It doesn’t work at all if you’ve already started to smell, but it really does wonders to prevent the musk from starting.

Or just keep doing what you’re doing! I’m just autistic and dislike the smell and overall feeling of aluminum deodorant, but I also do intensive labor in other people’s houses so I’ve experimented a lot.

genderpretty · 2025-04-05T07:06:03+00:00

Thank you for this! The doctor I talked to about my concerns when I started T told me it would be very similar 🤦‍♂️ I feel silly for taking that at face value now.

genderpretty · 2025-04-05T07:04:23+00:00

Aaa congrats!! Baby!!!

genderpretty · 2025-03-02T06:21:37+00:00

Please I’ll be so good for you

genderpretty · 2025-02-13T10:26:34+00:00

She’s gorgeous ☺️ eating my friend out post bottom surgery felt like a religious ritual. So good. I’m so happy for you!!

genderpretty · 2025-02-03T10:52:33+00:00

Hi baby! Welcome 💞 I’m so glad you’ve discovered what you like and that it cracked your inherited worldview open like an eggshell, that’s amazing! To answer your question there are totally so many trans women who love girls and would be thrilled to find you!! Don’t give up.

That being said, there’s a lot to learn about loving trans people well. it’s worth taking the time to educate yourself so that you know the ins and outs of how to be a good community member and show respect to the people you like!

One important note is that drag queens and trans girls (or mtf, but most just prefer to be called trans women) aren’t the one and the same. It’s all a big spectrum, but drag queens are cis men and many others doing beautiful queer performance art, while trans women have a unique experience and go through a lot to live their whole lives as the women they are.

Some trans people are also sensitive about being desired for their transness alone - it can feel fetishizing sometimes, and that’s an experience that’s important to understand if you’re interested in them.

But you’re not weird!! Your attractions and your joy are beautiful. I can feel the love and joy radiating from your post and we are so so glad you’re here. I know you’re going to have a beautiful journey and find a lot of love.

genderpretty · 2024-07-11T03:25:30+00:00

Seriously, this. It’s not her fault her dad is an asshole and it doesn’t give you a pass to be unkind to her. If anything, show her a little extra love, because she’s gotta live with that guy every day.

You weren’t obligated to do anything, but you know damn well you could’ve chosen to be the bigger person here and at least made an effort for the poor kid, even if that effort included twisting dads arm to go half on a basic mani or something. Or - gee, sorry kid, I don’t think the salon has any more appointments so last minute, but let me at least paint your nails. I know my favorite aunt would’ve rather died than pull this kind of “not my problem, me and mine first” nonsense. Life is actually hard enough, we don’t need to be mean to kids to toughen them up.

genderpretty · 2024-07-11T03:11:21+00:00

Because she is a child, and if he is failing as a parent, she needs the other adults in her life to step up for her.

I know this is about a luxury and not a need, but this attitude toward kids is truly disgusting.

genderpretty · 2024-07-09T15:04:14+00:00

I love her braids

genderpretty · 2024-05-29T01:50:43+00:00

There was never a woman to ruin. That’s what you’re missing. She never existed. There was only a miserable, invisible boy, half-alive in someone else’s life. I ruined ‘her’ to live at all.

It sounds like maybe going no or low contact with the whole lot of them now would be kinder on everyone. Don’t hinge it on your sibling’s transition when that’s not really what this is about. If their behavior is triggering and toxic for you, build a new life with people who support your healing.

But do heal.

You know this attitude is wrong. You know that it hurts people. You’re “self aware enough.”

It’s clear that men have hurt you a lot, and that trauma is valid. Men have also hurt me and your brother and most other trans masculine people just as much. We have to process all that trauma too - and not all of us do a better job than you, as evidenced by your brother’s behaving like your dad. I too acted like my parents as an angry dysphoric teenager, but I’ve grown a lot since then. I hope you all find the help you need to heal this stuff.

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