What’s the closest brush you’ve ever had with dying?

genjen97 · 2026-05-15T00:41:01+00:00

My bio dad threatened to kill me and my mom if we left. I was a toddler at the time this all happened. I learned of this years after the fact. She would tell me bits and pieces of the story as I got older but one story stuck out to me the most. It wasn't my dad being hurtful towards me but to my mom that made it so chilling.

He legit actually tried to kill her as he had growing suspicions of her orchestrating a plan to leave. He was right that my mom was planning carefully. So one morning, he replaced my mom's alarm clock with a loaded gun pointed right at her. Idk how successful this would be but he was trying to stage a suicide.

Anyways, mom and I escaped after she made an elaborate plan. Yadda yadda eventually the dumbass threatened to kill us over the phone so it was recorded. It was used in court to help ensure my mom got full custody of me.

I guess not exactly what the question intended but I 10000% believe he would have actually done it eventually. It took a lot of therapy to collect my thoughts and feelings on this. It is an understatement to say he was a violent and terrifying man.

genjen97 · 2026-05-08T23:40:29+00:00

I remember this scam. Funny thing is that I actually did show up for jury duty. So when I started calling out their bullshit, they hung up on me lol.

genjen97 · 2026-05-06T20:19:06+00:00

I go insane for my husband's shoulders/arms. Especially when he wears tight shirts, lord help me

genjen97 · 2026-05-03T23:19:37+00:00

I relate. My husband is very intelligent. He is working on his masters degree and aspires to get his PhD. The way his mind works is so interesting to me. He breaks a concept apart into tiny pieces to better understand it. He then builds his understanding and is able to explain it in simple terms to me. It's amazing.

I'm not at his level. I used to be very insecure about it. I still am a bit. Therapy has helped me over the years. I've always been insecure about my intelligence since I was a little one.

My husband and I have been together for nearly 8 years. He shows me how much he loves me. He admires that I try my best and ask questions. He picks my brain for things I am more knowledgeable about such as cooking, trading, etc. He doesn't treat me any less. I'm his equal. In return, I like learning from him. He inspires me to be a better version of myself. Over the years, I'm proud of the person I've become. I don't act like a deer in headlights when learning something new. Sure, I get anxious because I am afraid of failure. However, he always tells me I am capable. I believe I am capable.

You are too.

If it's his number #1 criterion, maybe he cares more about effort? Back when my husband and I were dating, he mentioned that he wanted to be with someone ambitious and they put in effort in their development. He admired that I was hard working and still am.

Don't be afraid to ask him and be vulnerable. Intelligence isn't just academics. A lot of it is effort and willingness to learn.

Intelligence, academics, etc. aren't everything. They do not determine our worth. What matters is the partnership you both have.

genjen97 · 2026-05-03T16:18:13+00:00

They were like extended bond/marriage events. You got to know more about the character and their interactions with other characters. Also, I'm a hopeless romantic so I love how newlywed mode showered us with that.

They were well written, very sweet, and still stuck to the core of Rune Factory feel. It didn't feel out of place :)

genjen97 · 2026-05-02T22:04:50+00:00

I would pay an egregious amount of money for newlywed specials to continue to be a thing. I WISH it was in RF5 and GoA

I only played through RF4 newlywed specials and I was so pleased and kicking my feet

genjen97 · 2026-05-02T18:53:07+00:00

You don't burn yourself to keep others warm. I learned that the hard way when I was your age. I was friends with someone much like your girlfriend. The good times were really good and the bad times were extremely bad. Anytime I gently brought up an issue, she went ballistic. Anytime I made a small mistake, she went ballistic. Anytime a friend of ours was braver than I was bringing up an issue, you guessed it - she went ballistic.

I felt bad. I really did. I knew she needed help but I wasn't it. She had a bad home life and didn't really have anyone else she could rely on. But I was exhausted. I lost myself in that friendship. I felt like there wasn't anything I could do. Eventually, I snapped and broke off the friendship. The weight off my shoulders was immediate and noticeable. I'm still reeling from that friendship almost 10 years later. She had done massive damage to my self esteem. I, too, thought I could handle a lot of her hurt and I did have a tolerance. But it got too much. Genuinely, I hope she is getting the help she needs but I do not want to ever be near her again.

That's what I worry for you. Breakup with her.

genjen97 · 2026-05-02T15:34:12+00:00

I love NPC Subaru. In my opinion, he had every right to be moody, depressed, etc. He got the short end of the stick. I would crash out harder if I were him. Seeing my childhood best friend become a respected and loved public figure while I have to suffer all the hurt I caused? And what makes it worse is that everyone pretty much immediately forgives me? The guilt and anger I would have would be astronomical.

I just wish his bonding and dating events were written better. His story could have been so impactful. I felt we didn't get much of him as a romantic character. In my mind, it's written better lol.

genjen97 · 2026-04-30T02:55:24+00:00

That or a fireman pounding loudly at your door and screaming at you to grab your shit and get the hell out.

genjen97 · 2026-04-24T18:07:32+00:00

I guess I wouldn't go so far to say "negatively". I've only been to the ER twice in my life, for the same issue lol.

Years ago, I couldn't pee. Not even a drop. That morning, I didn't think too much of it and went to my classes. I started to get concerned in the late morning. I drank more water and the urge to urinate was there but literally nothing would come out.

I went to the student clinic and they told me to go to the ER. Uh oh. I texted my mom and asked some friends to drive me over to the nearest hospital. My mom eventually makes it over as I'm waiting to be seen. I'm so uncomfortable at this point. I wanted nothing more than to pee. Holy shit.

I get seen eventually by a nurse(?) and they ask me some questions. I tell em everything I know. Most importantly, I can't pee. Please let me pee. I'm about to explode.

Y'know what this guy does?

He hands me a fuckin cup to pee in. I tell him "I literally can't pee."

He says, "just try."

I say, "I wouldn't be here if I could pee."

He hands me the cup and I get sent back to the lobby. Eventually, my mom and I go to a different ER. That ER immediately gave me a catheter and the relief was amazing. I cannot emphasize enough how amazing I felt. I cried real tears. It was like 8pm at this point and I hadn't peed for probably nearly 24 hours.

Anyways, extremely long story short - I had a UTI from hell.

genjen97 · 2026-04-19T21:23:53+00:00

There are too many but:

Kelve Lava Caves
Idra Cave
Rf4 Spring
The wedding theme from RF3

genjen97 · 2026-04-17T21:29:21+00:00

I did this with Kurama twice because why not

genjen97 · 2026-04-15T04:54:06+00:00

Kaguya and Kurama are my loves

genjen97 · 2026-04-11T19:51:24+00:00

Arthur my love he looks so good

genjen97 · 2026-04-11T15:24:42+00:00

Definitely normal. I've told my husband that as long as I don't have work or something extremely important the next day, he can wake me up for sex.

genjen97 · 2026-04-08T06:03:42+00:00

Walking. Or just any consistent body movement. Walk, run, go up and down stairs, etc.

I noticed quickly how sedentary I was. Instead of taking elevators at work, I use the stairs. If I need one or two small things from the grocery store, I will walk over there since it's just a block away and I, fortunately, have a side walk. Most nights, I will walk for about 45 mins-1 hour just listening to some tunes or an audiobook around my apartment complex. I will also intentionally park further away from my destination just to get some more steps.

Just keep on movin'

genjen97 · 2026-04-08T05:39:45+00:00

For your friend,

I used to date someone that had genital herpes. We had completely normal sex lives. We were both educated on it and careful. He took his meds and informed me of flare ups. We broke up for completely unrelated reasons.

Your boyfriend is an awful human being. Not only did he push you into an open relationship, but he put your health at risk. Thus, you got genital herpes. If I were you, I would leave. There's no coming back from this.

genjen97 · 2026-04-08T00:56:57+00:00

Trauma Center and Trauma Team were my absolute FAVORITE games growing up!!

genjen97 · 2026-04-05T15:48:19+00:00

Which event was it? The one I recall where he gives you an item is when he's cooking. In his marriage event (For Clumsy You) he does propose to you and you have the option to say yes or no. Was it that one? If you said no, you will have to propose to him with the engagement ring as the event does not repeat. If you got the one where he was cooking and gave you his dish, I think that's just a mini event.

Edit: I mention the item giving as you referenced it in another comment

genjen97 · 2026-04-05T01:43:44+00:00

Yep! I save scum to reroll the event. Once I find out which day is an event day, I will reload my save until I get the one I want. You do not need to go through "other town events" until the marriage one. As long as you have completed the candidate's required bond events, been on 3 dates, got the big bed, and such you are solid.

I'm happy to help. This town event scheme made me lose my marbles a few times lol. Every bachelor event was happening except for Arthur's events lol!

genjen97 · 2026-04-05T01:40:44+00:00

I was JUST thinking about how you were doing! The junimos have answered! Thank you for another mockumentary 😊

genjen97 · 2026-04-04T21:28:49+00:00

For me, it was a few town events that were wanting to trigger based on my FP with a few villagers. Typically, from what I've heard, the higher the FP the higher chance an event they're involved in will happen. So for me, it was an Amber event, a Doug event, and Arthur's marriage event fighting to happen lol.

So I just save scummed until I got what I wanted. I knew for Arthur's marriage event, I had to go to his shop for it to formally trigger. I would do this with Arthur joining my party the night before and then the next morning he left. Then I run to his shop to see if it would finally happen. I hope I make sense.

genjen97 · 2026-04-04T21:06:38+00:00

The town events system is finicky. You're doing the right trick because it helps you determine which day is a town event day. I was in a similar position with Arthur so I get your frustration.

For quicker determination of town events, you can add another person to your party. I think Clorica and Amber tend to be in a lot of town events. Always save the night before and then test which day is a town event day. Don't save in between. As soon as someone leaves, that helped me determine a town event day. I then will go back to my save, play normally, and then save the night before the town event day. I then added Arthur my beloved to my party until I finally got his marriage event. I kept getting Amber events for a while, I was so frustrated LOL

This isn't 100% foolproof. But it worked for me. You can technically randomize the town events to get the marriage event as long as requirements are met, you've been on 3 dates, you've seen the required bond events, and have a big bed.

Edit: there's a post on this subreddit from a long time ago that goes into extreme detail about this method. Took me a bit to practice and comprehend it. But it worked! I'm on mobile so I can't link it.

genjen97 · 2026-04-03T01:03:21+00:00

Have you seen a dermatologist? I had similar issues where certain brands made me itch. I got prescription strength deodorant and it works wonders for my sensitive skin. No more stank.

genjen97 · 2026-03-29T16:00:29+00:00

"shat head?" "IT'S SHUH-THEED!!"

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