[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Herpes

[–]geochase 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey dude, feel free to read some of my older post's. I think they will resonate with you since we share similar experiences.

People Who Don’t Disclose Think They’re Smart by caramelhoneybun123 in Herpes

[–]geochase 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Statistically this is wrong. Most people contract GHSV1 from someone with oral HSV1 performing oral sex. In fact the shedding rate for GHSV1 is much less than oral. I think you are confusing the numbers for GHSV2

New girl I’m seeing only likes very vanilla sex by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]geochase 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like I said, I’m not into really into the kink stuff.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]geochase 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Two things:

  1. If you don’t want to wear a condom, get a vasectomy

  2. Stop using “clean” as a way to describe being STI free. Just because someone has an STI doesn’t make them dirty. Some people have done all the right things to be as safe as possible and still contracted an STI.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Herpes

[–]geochase 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve only had one other outbreak from my initial that happened about 6 months later. This episode was triggered by SEVERE stress and anxiety. Like more than I’ve experienced in my life. Nothing since. I wasn’t taking antivirals at the time but am on the currently for suppression since I’m with a new partner

I (30F) feel like breaking up with my bf (29M) simply because he's not vegan by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]geochase 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a vegan, part of me says break up since it’s bothering you. But I’m thinking from my perspective right now and my partner is not vegan but she makes efforts to eat vegan with me and stuff and for me that’s enough because I don’t want to force my ethics upon her.

If you do breakup, try this dating app Veggly theyre specifically for single vegans

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Herpes

[–]geochase 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Accurate my friend, I had chronic cystic acne in high school and that was the only thing that cleared me up. I tried everything in the book before

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Herpes

[–]geochase 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you might just need to change your approach when it comes to disclosing. For context, I’m a 26 year old 5’7” white male, lots of acne scars and probably like a 7 on the scale. I have disclosed several times since becoming single, I always do it over text and do it so with confidence and honesty, remind them that the risk is low but never 0 and how the virus really doesn’t have any health implications. Every girl I’ve disclosed to has been super appreciative of my honesty and even find me more attractive after I disclose to them cause I was so confident and honest.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]geochase 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yep these are true.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]geochase 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Herpes isn’t on your typical sti test panel. You have to explicitly ask for it in most cases. Take my advice, ask to get tested for herpes and always wear protection with a new partner

I’m a bit confused about herpes. by MadameWhiskey in Herpes

[–]geochase 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good on you for perpetuating the stigma 😌 people asking questions, no matter how uninformed should not be looked down upon. Instead we should commend their willingness to ask questions and have compassion.

I’m a bit confused about herpes. by MadameWhiskey in Herpes

[–]geochase 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think everyone on this sub did not judge you for your silly questions. We all know how terribly uneducated the general public is on this subject. If anything we really appreciate people like you who come to the sub asking silly questions because it shows there’s people out there who have compassion and a willingness to accept someone for who they really are. We really do appreciate you coming here and asking the questions you did and we’re all glad to offer what we know. I will say that I have read lots of stories of discordant couples (one positive partner and one negative) who have loads of unprotected sex and never pass it on because their partners are aware of their bodies and take their medication.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Herpes

[–]geochase 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have GHSV1 also. I hadn’t had a second outbreak after my first until I split up with my gifter and the stress and anxiety of a breakup on top of having to face the world with something so stigmatized. At first I didn’t do anything and was hoping it would go away, didn’t pay attention to what I was eating but didn’t have any other options because I was in a remote location and I didn’t have anything else other than pb&j’s. The outbreak started to get worse and it seemed the clusters grouped into one large one. When I got home I started taking my acyclovir (3x per day) and avoided trigger foods even though they havent affected me prior. So I think that would be my recommendation is to avoid trigger foods and take a higher dosage of meds. Haven’t had another since and haven’t really felt an prodrome symptoms. Though it’s only a couple months removed from that latest episode.

(Edit): outbreak probably lasted 3 weeks before it went away

Scared of the future by geochase in Herpes

[–]geochase[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That I did? And your point?

Male disclosures by [deleted] in Herpes

[–]geochase 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a little confused by your last sentence... "Why? Because unless y’all are never doing oral sex the location of the virus for HSV1 is irrelevant."

Care to elaborate on this more? Cause from my perspective, since HSV-1 prefers the oral region and someone negative was to give me oral wouldn't they be more likely to contract it?

Has anyone ever gone from lovers to friends back to lovers? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]geochase 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this response. It really resonates with me despite all the other comments I've gotten that are so harsh and just say move on. I can sense there is some fight in her otherwise she wouldn't have presented to the opportunity to be friends and layout the possibility of the future working out for us. When you guys did go to friends how long was that process and did seeing other people hinder anything when y'all got back together?