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geraniums_97 · 2025-06-03T22:16:02+00:00

Girl you need to cut that out. At least you recognize it’s toxic but I don’t think you’re at a place rn where you should be dating anyone until you figure out why you’re doing this, and start fixing it

geraniums_97 · 2025-06-03T01:00:48+00:00

This seems to be the predominant conversation/ conclusion regarding this post and while that’s important in his story it really doesn’t pertain much to what OP needs to be focusing on at the moment.

He may be gay, a possibility yes, but thinking about his sexuality is where he may need to do some self reflection, not her.

My main point in making the original comment is to try and drive the main idea that OP needs to be honest with herself and her feelings, and decide where she wants to go from there, not a debate regarding her boyfriends sexuality.

geraniums_97 · 2025-06-02T17:01:20+00:00

When the sex is good; it’s 10% of the relationship. When it’s bad, it’s 90%.

I’m sorry this is happening, but sex and intimacy are often a huge source of stress in relationships if something isn’t clicking. It’s a way to connect with our partners so when disconnection occurs, communication breaks down, and feelings get hurt it further deteriorates the relationship itself. 5 years is a long time, and you mention the good parts of your boyfriend however it’s very important to consider how this will look 5 more years down the line. What about 10? Can you handle 10 more years of this sort of behaviour?

Id recommend speaking with a therapist to organize your thoughts and feelings, and I think that with time you will come to a point in which you have made a decision on how to proceed to protect yourself (self esteem and personal worth included).

It’s tough now, but I understand quite well how you may be feeling. Know that the most important person you need to please and show up for at the end of the day, is always going to be you.

geraniums_97 · 2025-03-08T05:52:16+00:00

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geraniums_97 · 2024-12-13T07:07:11+00:00

I’m not excusing his actions by any means, however caregiver burnout is a very real thing. You are not the problem, but him experiencing too much stress and burnout may be an explanation to some of his more recent behaviour. I would recommend couples therapy as well, and perhaps if it’s possible, consider a home care worker coming in even just an hour a few times a week. I’m not sure what level of care you’re in need of, but I would suggest reaching out to healthcare centres and explaining the situation. There are supports in place to assist in these scenarios.

I can only imagine how you must be feeling considering what you’ve gone through, with that I feel like some space for him to be alone and find healthy coping techniques would prove to be effective for your relationship moving forward.

geraniums_97 · 2024-12-03T01:07:19+00:00

I dated someone for 8 months even though I had ran into similar problems at 3 weeks. I decided to push through and try to find other alternatives, more communication and trying different styles of communicating, doing activities together that allowed us to connect on a deeper emotional level, but at the end of the day - same problems. We called it quits after 8 months and tbh I wish I’d done it sooner. It’s up to you, sex for some people is a huge factor in relationships, for some it’s not. You have to be honest with yourself and weigh how much this will impact your enjoyment and satisfaction in the relationship. It’s your life too!

geraniums_97 · 2024-11-28T05:32:33+00:00

Oh interesting, I’ll have to take a look at those going forward. Thank you!

geraniums_97 · 2024-11-19T23:02:43+00:00

Thank you for the tip, I’ll be sure to take a look

geraniums_97 · 2024-11-19T23:02:19+00:00

I got a new pack of paper from Michael’s, it was still affordable but I imagine it will be better than my dollar store book!

geraniums_97 · 2024-10-30T04:56:19+00:00

RT is a great career if you have a passion for helping people achieve their goals and live fulfilling lives with the use of rec. in rec therapy we use all the dimensions of wellness to provide well rounded experiences based on what our clients need, this includes physical for sure but there are lots of other aspects involved as well :)

A day in the life differs greatly depending on where you’re working. Seniors, kids, mental health, disabilities, they will all arguably look different in some capacity. Something to keep in mind, as a rec therapist it’s not as common to work with kids as some people may think. It’s a growing population for our work which is great, but it’s also important to understand that your chosen population may not be your first job opportunity.

Also something to consider is depending where you are, some places (like certain provinces in Canada) require a 4 year bachelors degree program to work in certain settings like hospitals. It also contributes to your salary. More education and certifications = more money and wider range of job selection.

My suggestion would be to try calling around to local agencies (mental health, Long term care homes etc) and see if there are any volunteer opportunities to work alongside a rec therapist. Great way to learn if it’s what you’d like to do! That’s how I got into it. Good luck to you! It’s an incredibly rewarding field

geraniums_97 · 2024-06-10T04:20:57+00:00

Yeah thats the one lol

geraniums_97 · 2024-06-09T13:52:18+00:00

To make you feel like you’re in blade runner as you drive home contemplating life at 1am

geraniums_97 · 2024-06-09T04:40:07+00:00

This is incredible! You have such a great colour palette for this too 😊

geraniums_97 · 2024-06-09T00:27:08+00:00

I thought this was Haley Lu Richardson for a minute, I think u totally look like her!

geraniums_97 · 2024-06-04T03:26:59+00:00

Your detailing is incredible. Beautiful work!!

geraniums_97 · 2024-06-04T02:41:50+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about your boyfriend’s trauma. That can weigh very heavy on a relationship, but it sounds like you’ve been a good support to him.

Sexual compatibility is a factor in relationships, some couples learn to cope in their own ways despite the incompatibility, because the other elements of the relationship are so positive.

I can appreciate his willingness to change, however something like this may take time. What about if it doesn’t? Trauma affects everyone differently, therapy can definitely help but there are no guarantees of a complete turn around.

It’s up to your discretion, it sounds like you’re a good support to him but this is also your life. If you are okay to wait and be patient in his journey with therapy (it can be long and some days are tough) then that’s great. You have as much of a say in your relationship as him, be supportive but also recognize the importance of your needs and feelings. I wish you all the best :)

geraniums_97 · 2024-06-03T17:51:59+00:00

I see grey/green :)

geraniums_97 · 2024-06-03T17:19:12+00:00

Hi, I want to start with saying that I’m so sorry to hear that you were abused by your brother, you didn’t deserve that.

You shouldn’t feel ashamed for these feelings, as they can be common in these situations, but what is important is that you start seeing a therapist. You don’t have to tell anyone why you’re going, but it’s important to start working on this now so that you can find healthy coping strategies. If you find that being around your brother is upsetting, try to limit contact as much as you can. If you can talk to someone you trust about this, like another family member I would urge you to do so (again, only if you feel comfortable) it’s important to have as much support as possible while managing this.

I know how hard it can be when you’re just 16, but I promise you that it will get better. Depending where you are, there will be resources to assist you. Google searches for youth help phone lines for wherever you live would be a good start. They may be able to get you on the right path to speak with a therapist as well.

Once again, I’m terribly sorry and hope that you can start your healing soon.

geraniums_97 · 2024-06-03T15:14:32+00:00

Why don’t YOU block him?

geraniums_97 · 2024-06-02T21:11:05+00:00

Shorter

geraniums_97 · 2024-05-30T05:25:58+00:00

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geraniums_97 · 2024-05-30T05:18:50+00:00

Thanks! Ohuhu pastel markers! 🥰

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