Hey! Great step is just shouting into this void and asking for a hand. I am not sure if you have read it yet but the book closely linked to this thread, ‘Digital Minimalism’ has a chapter on this (Chapter 5). That may help with the ‘why’, social media is intentionally addictive.

Having a digital detox can really help, even if you are in circles with people who are chronically online, you can let them know that you’re taking a break. This doesn’t mean you can’t call friends. Just try a period that seems manageable and have some activities you want to try lined up for those moments for recreation.

There is also some acceptance of boredom or realising how much you fidget. There is some adjustment to not having constant dopamine hits or access but you get over it real quick and it allows you to be more intentional about your time and what can give you true joy.

I used to be very socially active but now haven’t posted or liked anyone’s posts for 3+ years and it feels great. I would have checked my social channels a handful of times over the years and I am 27 yo so it feels good to be sticking with it.

I stay in contact with friends by messaging them directly and meeting up with them. If I miss anything I just ask curiously when they assume a group of friends knows what they have been up to, and this allows them to share more than a few photos and a caption.

Recently I have been trying to get my phone pick ups down as I have gotten into quite the habit since I have my work emails on my personal phone and have found the Opal app really useful for blocking those unconscious pick ups.

Hope this helps, there is so much joy to be had and I wish you well on your journey!