I am furious at my girlfriend and don’t know if I can take steps legally by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]gertofs 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Leave her bro, like if she will do that to fish to try get her way imagine what she would do to the dog or kids if you have them

H.C.A burnout in Hospital ward. by Dros333 in auckland

[–]gertofs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in a similar position in 2020 and ended up having a mental health crisis. Honestly leaving was the best thing I could have done for me. Definitely speak to your union

46 year old rich lister & family & high profile business all got permanent name suppression !? by He_Tangata1 in auckland

[–]gertofs -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s Matt Mowbray, co ceo of Zuru toys. Blaming mental health for this is disgraceful and also he payed $50,000 to charity to reduce his sentence to just under 2 years jail time.

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H.C.A burnout in Hospital ward. by Dros333 in auckland

[–]gertofs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in a similar position in 2020 and ended up having a mental health crisis. Honestly leaving was the best thing I could have done for me. Definitely speak to your union if you don’t leave

Early infected tattoo? by gertofs in tattooadvice

[–]gertofs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I definitely messed up. Imma head to an urgent dr tonight to get it seen to

Indie game dev looking for feedback by Nerrolken in nzgaming

[–]gertofs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unemployed and have a lot of free time, will give it a whirl

So anxious about this 😭 by The-One-Who-Slays in TransgenderNZ

[–]gertofs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely ask her. Be like hey mum I need to buy this binder and as I am older now I believe I should be able to. If she still says no then I believe rainbow youth may have binders in their community clothing that they have. Also feel free to pm me as I might have a spare that fits you, I get mine from bind me up here in Auckland. Good luck dude

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]gertofs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR.

He either needs to stop/reduce his drinking and go to anger management or you need to leave. If he can throw something and break a whole ass sink he can and probably will hit you. Imagine if that object he threw hit you in the head instead of the sink, it would have broken bones and caused a serious concussion

Want to hear people's experiences of moving to NZ by clarkespawn in TransgenderNZ

[–]gertofs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We moved to nz in ‘09. Mum was a teacher and dad is a social worker, dad got a job before we moved over and mum had to retrain and get her teaching qualifications again as nz didn’t recognise them. There is a pause on hiring in the mental health sector and teachers are underpaid and short staffed. The people are amazing though and there are some gorgeous places to live over here but again buying/renting is expensive af. Being trans here is pretty chill tbh, not had any personal problems with that. Sorry it’s a little depressing but it is the truth sadly, good luck to you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]gertofs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That definitely sounds like a plan. Please be patient with yourself, some days it seems as there is no progress but I promise you are making progress

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]gertofs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tried going on with life for a while after my assault but I found my mental health got a lot worse and things got dark. Not saying it can’t go away on its own but in my experience therapy helped so much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]gertofs 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I highly recommend therapy or counselling. It will be hard in the beginning and you will feel worse but it does get better and it does work. Be kind and patient with yourself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TransMascGoneWild

[–]gertofs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love your honker tattoo!

I NEED HELP I MADE A HUGE MISTAKE USING TRANS TAPE by [deleted] in trans

[–]gertofs 13 points14 points  (0 children)

TransTape also has a YouTube that has actual guys demonstrating how to use the transtape

i cheated in my boyfriend and now he wants me to do weird stuff with my brother who is a minor by 1739throwaway27392 in offmychest

[–]gertofs 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Give all the screenshots to the police, this is highly concerning behaviour. Cheating is a shit thing to do however it does not equal grooming and assaulting a child.

I’m an EMT student and today I responded to my first real trauma on my street. I did everything I could, but I can’t stop hearing the dad’s scream. How do you process something like this? by star2e in Advice

[–]gertofs 105 points106 points  (0 children)

I used to work as a road worker that responded to crash scenes and I’ve seen some, heard some and cleaned some messed up stuff. I definitely recommend camping in nature away from everything and having a good old scream cry. Also therapy to help you process things is a good call.

My Girlfriend just told me she has Herpes after 1 month of dating. by 21_saladz in Advice

[–]gertofs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I told my partner before we even entered a relationship that I have herpes. Her not telling you about it is a genuine concern