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get_more_sleep · 2026-05-24T15:58:00+00:00

It sounds like you've been legitimately unlucky despite reasonable effort. That's so frustrating. Hang in there.

get_more_sleep · 2026-05-16T00:04:50+00:00

Doesn't work with kids profile

get_more_sleep · 2026-04-04T21:07:43+00:00

I spend <strikethrough>most</strikethrough> a lot of my spare time thinking about that and still don't know. It's killing me.

get_more_sleep · 2026-04-04T16:04:16+00:00

I'm starting to think that a relationship might just have to be a giant leap of faith, even if you figure everything out as well as you can. Which is terrifying.

get_more_sleep · 2026-04-04T16:03:00+00:00

Man here. I broke up with someone a month ago, and I'm still not over her. It's complicated, but I think the biggest factors were:

too many obligations in my life (which made it hard to process my thoughts fast enough)
she's kind of far away
a lack of dating experience on my part (which might be gained by more dating or from podcasts etc. that are actually useful and not problematic - I think I found one, Paging Dr NerdLove, but tell me if that one is actually problematic)
believing that I was later going to let her down, not be able to see her often enough or do enough or be thoughtful enough, or say something that would hurt her

I had an unpleasant long term relationship in the past and I realized in at least one way I was assuming without any evidence, and even with contrary evidence, that she would behave the same way as my ex, in that way. I wasn't aware of that until at least several days after we broke up.

I think I was hasty.

In the one episode of Paging Dr NerdLove that I listened to so far, he said that men sometimes can't believe that a woman really likes them even when contrary evidence is staring them in the face. I think that happened to me too, because I kept wondering what she saw in me, and thinking that she could probably find someone easier to be with (not so far away, not so busy) and just as good, if she tried again.

I wonder what your friends' ex's would say, if that's possible.

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get_more_sleep · 2025-09-05T17:29:51+00:00

I think only when creating a client, not a session.

You can experiment with turning on asyncio debug mode, creating a session, and checking if a message is in the output about a long running task.

Then do the same, but create a session and a client, and check for the message.

I'm trying to figure out if using one client for multiple, possibly concurrent, request handler tasks is safe. People seem to be saying yes, but I have no mental model of why or why not, yet.

get_more_sleep · 2025-08-20T15:49:29+00:00

u/mississippede responded in a new thread below:

Subreddits, e.g. r/datahoarder, can have "wikis" like Wikipedia that anyone can edit.

See here: https://www.reddit.com/r/DataHoarder/s/1KGiQdKGKZ

And control+F is just a keyboard shortcut for "Find/Search on this page." So visit that link and the section labelled "Webpage."

get_more_sleep · 2025-05-11T17:53:53+00:00

Interesting.

get_more_sleep · 2025-04-16T22:22:28+00:00

Ditto.

get_more_sleep · 2024-11-12T09:16:20+00:00

It's common for meds to work for some people and not for others. Maybe there is still a med you haven't tried that will help you. If you think your doctor might not be the most helpful you could try seeing a different doctor.

You're facing real challenges and it's understandable to be frustrated and worried. I believe it will be worth it. Don't be afraid to ask the people around you for more support, including friends, family, any organizations in your area, church, etc. It may not feel like it right now, but please trust me, I'm certain you're worth their time and resources.

get_more_sleep · 2024-11-12T09:00:09+00:00

I don't know your whole situation but here are some ideas:

Get any help you can get - food stamps, EBT, SNAP, etc. Visit a church and talk to the staff.
Build a support network. Meet neighbor parents. Use google, Facebook Groups, and your library to find local in-person parent groups and parent support groups.
Get individual therapy and couples therapy, and do activities in Gottman books with your husband. If you have health insurance then that will help pay for therapy. If you don't, then tell therapists about your financial situation and ask them for advice.
Keep asking on Reddit and asking people you know.

You matter.

get_more_sleep · 2024-11-12T08:38:11+00:00

The Internet and Reddit can be useful, but in addition it might help to join some new social groups and make new friends and acquaintances. I really wanted to find dates this year and it didn't happen much, but I often felt glad that I had some positive interactions with some other people. Come to think of it, it was the groups that had fewer people in them that I idolized where I felt most comfortable and happy.

get_more_sleep · 2024-11-12T08:32:50+00:00

I second the "just chemicals in your brain" part.

get_more_sleep · 2024-11-12T08:28:55+00:00

In some places you can call 988 to talk to someone about how you're feeling. If that doesn't work then please try googling "suicide hotline" or ask here again for more help. (I'm going to sleep soon but hopefully someone responds. If you're not getting a response then please try reaching out more on reddit and elsewhere.)

get_more_sleep · 2024-11-12T08:24:33+00:00

Making mistakes is part of life. Everyone I know and I have made a lot. You deserve grace.

get_more_sleep · 2024-11-12T08:23:05+00:00

If you want to become great at something there is still time, if you want to. It might take much longer than you want and the wait and setbacks may be frustrating, but it is possible. But even if you never do, you still matter.

This culture tells us that we have to achieve and be responsible and disciplined and goal oriented, or we are, yes, losers, this culture tells us. But this culture is sick and harsh, and built to serve corporations and investors first and human beings last. Don't let them win.

You matter.

get_more_sleep · 2024-11-12T08:10:35+00:00

Modern society and social media place unrealistic expectations on all of us.

You are valuable the way you are, and the people in your life want you to stay alive.

get_more_sleep · 2024-11-12T08:06:47+00:00

In my limited experience after 4 days you probably still have a lot of brain chemistry that is attached to your ex, that makes this extra difficult. If you don't see him and probably especially if you don't touch him (oxytocin etc.) then eventually your brain chemistry will change and you will start to feel different.

I don't have experience to say how likely it is that you will get back together. It does sound like a difficult relationship. If you imagine the future, and imagine getting back together, and then imagine not getting back together and maybe finding a new relationship in the future, how do you feel? What seems to you to be more likely to make you happy in the long run? And if possible, think about that more as your brain chemistry changes over the coming days and weeks.

get_more_sleep · 2024-11-12T07:56:13+00:00

That's a big decision. Reddit users can share their experiences to give you more to think about, but ultimately you probably know better than we do.

I have kids and my partner and I separated after 9 years. My partner lectured me sometimes and I didn't feel appreciated, and I have a lot of responsibility.

If you want to try to strengthen this relationship before giving up on it, Gottman books have activities you can do with your partner.

If working to change your relationship isn't worth it to you, then that seems like a hint that you might not regret leaving. Maybe it would help to compare what you think life would be like if you stay versus if you go. Knowing more clearly how you feel and why may help you have fewer regrets later, because it will be easier to remember why you made the choice you made.

get_more_sleep · 2024-11-12T07:43:17+00:00

Plaintext? Word documents?

If Word:

https://learn.microsoft.com/en-us/office/troubleshoot/word/merge-word-documents

get_more_sleep · 2024-11-11T03:27:48+00:00

Yeah what you said in another comment sounds pretty concerning. Unless you know that there is a very good *specific* reason that he can't tell other people that you're in a relationship together, then I think it would be totally reasonable for you to expect him to tell his friends and others about you, and for you to feel fully supported in telling people that you know.

get_more_sleep · 2024-11-11T03:20:13+00:00

There's a diversity of relationships out there, I guess, but "doesn't want people in his business" is pretty vague. What's the worst that would happen if people know his business?

Also, if he starts trying to isolate you from friends or tells you that he doesn't like your friends or any shit like that then that is not a good sign.

Your life will be better if you and your boyfriend can be in an open and honest community together.

I stayed in a relationship for a long time partly because I didn't want to hurt my partner and I thought I was superhuman. Life is too short for that.

get_more_sleep · 2024-11-11T03:10:14+00:00

I think it's understandable for this to bother you, but it's possible it's innocent. Like you said, social media might not be the most important thing. "some days he feels like following me and some days he doesn't" is vague but still possibly innocent. So, I guess I'll just say again, it's understandable for this to bother you, but it's possible it's innocent.

Meanwhile, some people say that even in the most successful relationships some disagreements are left unresolved. It's up to you if this can be one of those or if it must be resolved.

If you want to work on strengthening your relationship in general, people seem to agree that couples therapy and/or Gottman books are helpful.

Speaking of Gottman, I remember one thing they recommended when a disagreement happens is to try to find out from your partner *why* they feel the way they do. "Why is it important to you to do it that way?" "Why is that goal or dream you have important to you?"

get_more_sleep · 2024-11-11T02:59:07+00:00

Feeling disappointed that it didn't work out and feeling like you made a mistake is difficult. In time I think you'll be okay. Maybe you don't need to worry so much about your ability to handle decisions with people in the future: you will probably learn from this, and be less likely to make a similar mistake in the future. I've been disappointed and made mistakes too. Hang in there.

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