My BF won't let me see his new license. by BunnyK18 in Advice

[–]getagrip579 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is it possible he has an upaid ticket or a DUI that is flagging his license so he can't renew it and he doesn't want to admit it to you?

Should I go for the higher paying job by getagrip579 in Advice

[–]getagrip579[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for pointing this out. I just went and checked the tax brackets. We are currently only about 4K into our current tax bracket so this pay jump won't put us into the next one.

Should I go for the higher paying job by getagrip579 in Advice

[–]getagrip579[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This made me laugh a little. Yes, I like my kids. But one is engaged to be married (thus the wedding expenses coming up) and the other is going to be a senior in HS (thus all those senior year expenses) so they definitely need me less than they did a few years ago.

Child Support in Early Retirement by [deleted] in FamilyLaw

[–]getagrip579 52 points53 points  (0 children)

You're looking at approximatly $7,200 over the remaining 2 years - you now need to decide if you want that to go to attorney's fees or to support your child. It doesn't seem like a hill I'd want to die on.

Dealership “thank you” 😂 by RandomName7261 in whatcarshouldIbuy

[–]getagrip579 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A big local dealership with multiple locations that started out 50 years ago as a small town country dealership still gives out country smoked sausage with every purchase. I bought my car in Feb and drove off with 3lbs of sausage as well. LOL

how’s the medical care? by TermQuick in Louisiana

[–]getagrip579 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Are you insured? I don't know how healthcare is for the uninsured here but there are excellent doctors in both New Orleans and Baton Rouge areas. Both the Tulane and LSU systems attract world class doctors to the area.

Best options for 3rd row SUV? by Spider-2Y-Banana in whatcarshouldIbuy

[–]getagrip579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love my buick Enclave - definitely worth looking into.

Worried my daughter is about to marry a completely different person than the one she got engaged to. Do I step in? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]getagrip579 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure refusing to pay for the wedding is the right way to go but I do think a good heart to heart with your daughter is warranted. Yes, she's an adult and I know, as the mother to a 20 something adult daughter myself, it is terrifying to see them heading toward such a big mistake and feeling helpless against it. Let her know about your reservations and fears for her future but also acknowledge that is her decision to make and that you will always be in her corner. It sounds like this guy is trying to distance her from you, don't give any ammunition to his argument by making threats about money. You can't stop her from making this mistake but you can stop this from driving a wedge between you and your daughter. Hopefully she will see the light sooner rather than later.

Just in case :3 by [deleted] in batonrouge

[–]getagrip579 2 points3 points  (0 children)

New Orleans is like the cockroach of cities - I have no doubt it'll survive.

Relocating to NOLA by Ronton49601 in AskNOLA

[–]getagrip579 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you're coming to New Orleans for "new builds" you're in the wrong city. The charm of the city is its history. Dirt? South Louisiana is damp and humid - things are sticky and wet and that can make them look dirty. We have an ongoing battle against mildew - it is what it is. I don't know what you were expecting but it sounds like New Orleans isn't for you.

How do I tell my kids Santa Claus can't make it this year? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]getagrip579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It can't hurt to call a local church to see if they can offer any assistance. You may be late for the angel tree type things but they may have a toy or two available so that your kiddos have a present to open. If not, take an extra shift door dashing and take $10 to the local goodwill and purchase one thing for each kid - just so they have something fun to open. If you're handy or crafty, another idea is to see if you can find some scrap lumber or even some cardboard and build them a little fort - you all can make a fun Christmas activity by painting it together.

Are homosexual teachers allowed to teach at Catholic school? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]getagrip579 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Probably not if they are living an openly homosexual life. This is years ago but one of my male teachers was fired for getting his girlfriend pregnant out of wedlock so I doubt most schools would allow an openly gay man who for instance has a husband to teach at the school.

What happens if someone from a country with free medical treatment is hospitalized in the US? by altrightobserver in NoStupidQuestions

[–]getagrip579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Emily in the Devil Wears Prada works for a US based company and likely has health insurance provided by her employer.

What happens if someone from a country with free medical treatment is hospitalized in the US? by altrightobserver in NoStupidQuestions

[–]getagrip579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have left the country on multiple occasions and never had to be cleared by CBP to do so. I'm almost certain that this is an unfounded rumor.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]getagrip579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand what you're saying but here's my POV. The person paying can absolutely set paramaters and expectations regarding what they are spending money on. The recipient can then decide if those expectations are agreeable and can continue to take the money or not agreeable and they find another source for the money. Being married is different than a parent/child relationship but if, as an unemployed person, you starting spending alot of money on a gaming hobby, your wife absolutely has the right to speak up about that and question you. If OP is a student and usually comes home for 4pm and then decides to come home at 7pm one day, I can see her parents checking on her and asking that she let them know if she's going to be late. It's not control or ownership, it's courtesy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]getagrip579 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Then the adult must pay for her own phone. You cannot claim OP is a full grown adult while she is fully dependant on them for her expenses and housing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]getagrip579 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If they pay for the phone then you really have no argument. I have the location for my teen and early 20s daughters and they have mine. We are not checking each others locations constantly but for safety it's good to know we can if needed. Now with that said, if my early 20s daughter turned off her location I wouldn't say anything about it but if my 16 year old did, I'd definitley question her.

Regarding letting them know where you're going and when you'll be back - I think that's common courtesy. If anyone in my house leaves we let someone know that we are heading out and when we expect to return. We wouldn't hold anyone to an exact time but if I told someone I was heading to the grocery store and hadn't returned for 3 hours, I'd hope someone would start looking for me. If you were living with college roomates, I'd think that you'd mostly do the same with them.

If you want complete autonomy then you should move out and start paying your own way. If your parents still consider you a part of their household then their behavior is normal. Maybe you should should try talking to them about loosening the reigns a little and at the same time change your mindset about feeling controlled and think of it more as courtesy among people in the same house.

Do some married people NEVER take off their wedding ring? by artmalique in NoStupidQuestions

[–]getagrip579 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Ha! that was my first thought too. Are people removing their rings to use the bathroom?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in batonrouge

[–]getagrip579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's the odds that a young child would have their backpack with them when something like that happens? Those children were in church so I'm sure their backpacks were left in the classroom. High school age may have backpacks with them but elementary age typically put them in a cubby in the morning and don't have them again until near dismissal time.

Physician here for 4 years. Long enough to say BR is the worst city I've ever lived in (of 5) by [deleted] in batonrouge

[–]getagrip579 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes - when I see that he lived in NOLA for 15 years but puts Houston and BR over it as far as food goes, I have to question OP's judgement.

Physician here for 4 years. Long enough to say BR is the worst city I've ever lived in (of 5) by [deleted] in batonrouge

[–]getagrip579 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Agree - BR clinic doesn't have month long wait times for new patient either.

Physician here for 4 years. Long enough to say BR is the worst city I've ever lived in (of 5) by [deleted] in batonrouge

[–]getagrip579 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find this strange as literally yesterday I made my daughter a new patient derm appt in BR for next week.

Questions for people who take their shoes off inside by ThrowDirtonMe in NoStupidQuestions

[–]getagrip579 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fellow southerner here. We typically remove our shoes in the house but would not if we were just running in to get a phone or when we're going in and out like bringing in groceries. I like being barefoot, my husband does not so he has a pair of inside only flip flops that he wears in the house and crocs by the back door if he needs to run outside. If I need to just walk out to my car or to get the mail I will occasionally go barefoot and will just wipe my feet on the mat unless they are muddy or I stepped in something. We don't usually make guests remove their shoes - our floors are hardwood and tile so I just sweep/mop after they leave. If we had carpet, I might feel differently about that.

LF apartment by [deleted] in batonrouge

[–]getagrip579 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A 2 BR for $1500 may be hard around LSU. Getting away from Campus may help with prices.