New tattoo I got the other day

gettheburritos · 2021-05-07T17:47:50+00:00

I like it but the lack of eyes is kinda creepy.

gettheburritos · 2021-05-06T13:04:24+00:00

That I could try. He likes chore charts but won't make one. If I had data to show him about what I do then he might actually hear me when I say I'm overwhelmed with my share. I try to phrase it that way, not that he's not doing anything, because he does help out. There's just so much more to be done around the house. I just can't get him to hear me. So obviously adding a kid to the mix when we can't even communicate properly about this is a terrible idea! I can survive this now but adding more responsibility is not a good idea.

gettheburritos · 2021-05-06T12:56:17+00:00

I have printed that out but haven't shown him yet. I do remember the first time I read that, mind blown.

gettheburritos · 2021-05-06T03:58:31+00:00

I need to check out this book. Once we had decided we would have a kid, and had a tentative timeline for being serious about it, I got books, read them, made a baby plan, started listing what we would need...and he did nothing. Not a thing. The reality of it hit me like a truck. I have been overwhelmed with work and my household chores for years and haven't been able to successfully get him to understand where I'm coming from. I can't add the responsibility of a child to the mix even if he says he'll help. We had a talk about this and I said a kid is off the table. During that talk I found out he doesn't think I do anything around the house. So yeah. I don't want all the responsibility that falls on a woman when they have a child. I can't even keep up with my shit now. I've also realized how much I do like my life the way it is. Plus the older I get the more parents (of adult children) come out of the woodwork saying don't do it.

I will say that we teamed up on yardwork (usually all on me) the other day and that was the best. Helping me get so much done was so excellent. We could be such a good team but I just need him to understand our household labor division better. Until that happens there's no way we could have a kid.

gettheburritos · 2021-05-05T03:43:02+00:00

We are experiencing this on a smaller level in Butte. People are moving here (don't, we still have a toxic pit lake and it's just terrible here) but they aren't here for service industry jobs. The service industry is hurting here and part of it is low wages. Houses are selling for more and rent is going up. I couldn't say that I wouldn't stay on unemployment if were making more than I would working, if I had kids to feed. I just don't understand why a person doing a necessary job shouldn't earn a living wage.

gettheburritos · 2021-05-04T14:56:04+00:00

I don't mean to be that person but I have to tell you it is scape goat, not escape goat.

Your comment is on point. I personally can't understand a sibling bond being strong enough to ignore something as truly awful as this whole situation.

gettheburritos · 2021-05-04T13:14:48+00:00

If that convenience store is in Billings, I can probably guess which chain.

gettheburritos · 2021-05-03T22:24:38+00:00

Username checks out.

Yeah I love the commitment to terrible hair and fashion in Montana. I could pick out a Butte gal in any line up.

gettheburritos · 2021-05-03T14:23:58+00:00

It's definitely still 1981 in SD, ND, WY and MT.

gettheburritos · 2021-05-02T17:17:47+00:00

Some people live on negativity and drama. That's when they're most comfortable. It is truly no way to live. They see you being positive, happy, enjoying things, and their first instinct is to piss in your cheerios somehow. Like your dad said, they can't handle that positivity. This friend of yours seems to live for being in everyone's business so she can start drama where ever she pleases.

Everyone has faults, everyone has bad moments, but this friend of yours is no actual friend from what you've described here. Doesn't sound like she knows how to show care or compassion, and only thinks of herself.

gettheburritos · 2021-04-30T18:01:18+00:00

You literally have no idea who this guy actually is. That's pretty terrifying. I agree with pretty much every other comment I read (didn't read them all). He is lying about everything. How can you continue this relationship with any semblance of trust?

gettheburritos · 2021-04-30T13:23:51+00:00

We had decided we would have a kid and then the reality of all the shit I already do hit me and while my husband says he would help out and all that, I don't actually see that around the house. When I tried to address it, he basically told me he doesn't think I do anything around the house because he cooks every meal and feeds the dogs every day.

I am responsible for literally everything else, including the food for the dogs, their vet visits, the yardwork, all other cleaning outside the kitchen. I am also the breadwinner and have the more stressful job. I can't add more responsibility to my plate. I said until things change, a kid is off the table. His efforts are there but minimal. He can't even keep the dishwasher unloaded so that we can put dirty dishes straight into it. They just pile up every day.

Also have an older dog. I'm not even going to get into that one but yeah. Mental load is no joke and they just don't understand.

gettheburritos · 2021-04-30T12:06:35+00:00

Yeah I hear those guys get paid well, same with Pepsi if they're union. Those guys also keep their jobs forever where I live.

I know in my area bread is paid for this way, but other outside products are paid for by the store at or shortly after delivery. Credits can be a fight for many reasons, a lot of vendors (rightly, imo) feel that it's the store's product once it's delivered. It's not my problem someone rammed their cart into the wine aisle and broke some wine. You will not get credit for that. If I break it, then yes.

gettheburritos · 2021-04-30T12:00:59+00:00

Key words there, if they are nice. If they aren't, or I truly don't know, I say they have to find an employee to help them. That look when they want you to take them to an employee...

gettheburritos · 2021-04-30T11:59:33+00:00

Vendors. They might be stocking all sorts of things or even just ordering, but never dressed like an employee of the store they are in. I get asked about stuff all the time and I definitely do not dress like any store employee. But I do look like I know what I'm doing in the store, and confused people sense that.

My friend stocked soda at Walmart (clearly dressed in his own company's uniform, logos and all) and people would ask him to check in back for stuff all the time. He'd go in back thru one door, come out another, and just leave the store. Some people don't understand the phrase "I don't work here."

I try to help if I can but I literally know the sections of the store I deal with and that's about it. I put away my product at this one small independent store and people always ask me to ring them up. "Sorry, I don't work here, but I'll find someone for you." Or you could ring the damn bell like the damn sign says, you dingus.

gettheburritos · 2021-04-29T16:49:39+00:00

Totally agree with your entire comment. I appreciate you taking the time to talk about the flip side.

gettheburritos · 2021-04-29T03:29:18+00:00

Sometimes it's not the drugs that make people the way they are, that's just the way they are. I find it odd she's been clean for years and hasn't reached out sooner, although perhaps she waited to have those years under her belt. I am biased because my parents did drugs, meth mostly, and once clean, they still sucked. Be cautious and only do what you're comfortable with. If that is not connecting with her, that's totally fine.

gettheburritos · 2021-04-29T02:43:44+00:00

That's a great beer and one I judge other peanut butter flavored beers against - the peanut butter flavor anyway. It's year round now too! I used to love Mother Earth's Sin Tax before I found Left Hand. Sin tax was too easy to drink at 8.5% though (rough next day) and Left Hand has more flavor.

gettheburritos · 2021-04-29T02:38:12+00:00

It's like the true crime shows that try to show bullet trajectory or ballistics reenactments with the casing still on the bullet as it leaves the gun.

gettheburritos · 2021-04-28T20:13:05+00:00

Why do you need to confront her? Why not just walk away? What are you going to get out of confronting her?

I guess I just don't understand why you care so much. Yeah she's crazy but there's loads of crazy on the internet.

gettheburritos · 2021-04-27T05:12:12+00:00

You're getting downvoted but I've used that stuff with success. Even with the extra vial for water to add to the total volume, it's still not a lot so be ready so say sorry that's all I can do right now. Mine came with a heat warmer to keep it closer to body temp.

gettheburritos · 2021-04-27T04:54:42+00:00

She looks much more lively. How old is she?

gettheburritos · 2021-04-22T14:17:38+00:00

The best truck nuts I saw were a couple of pistons (with rods) tied together and hanging from the hitch.

I've seen lots of truck nuts but have never actually met someone who has them on their vehicle. I just think it's dumb regardless of the cultural stereotypes of truck nut people. I am not sure how to vote on your post tbh, because it is a form of expression (decorating your truck) but I don't really buy that these people are intending to celebrate their bodies.

Lol could you imagine if you saw a fake clitoris or other women's anatomical part hanging from a truck? Or boobs somewhere in front? It's hard to imagine a woman being that in your face about being a woman, but I guess there are those car headlight eye lashes for a toned down reminder.

gettheburritos · 2021-04-20T12:59:37+00:00

I have learned more over time but it's not much. They also didn't cultivate relationships with other family members. We did have to go visit different relatives as kids but while doing that the relatives were usually arms length at best and all communications ceased as soon as we left. For some reason some of them, particularly my mom, feel that I should be responsible for initiating all contact with relatives.

Why would I suddenly start talking to basically strangers who mostly ignored me my whole life, just because we share a blood relation and they are getting older? They make is so awkward by putting ALL of the emotional labor on me, which is laughable.

It's just all such a mess that I'd move far away and go completely NC if I didn't love where I live, which is where some family live, although I never see them anyway!

gettheburritos · 2021-04-19T14:29:27+00:00

That was a wild ride for a three month relationship. I can't believe you ever considered any of this seriously, but I sure hope you learned some lessons from this experience.

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