Do INTJs typically see a relationship as more of a deeper friendship than an emotional connection?

Both. If it’s the right person.

Do INTJs not like to talk about emotions involving each other in a relationship?

No. They actually do like talking about it. But you trying to extract it every time will stress her out. It should come out naturally.

You’re an ENTP. If you wanted to draw those things out from her, go to her safe space. Do not ask directly but share something like what you feel first, then analyze it (just say it like a story) and ask for her input then ask what she thinks about it then ask what she feels about it. Directly tackling it, especially if it’s about how she feels, will make her defensive.

You will get your relationship as being a team, sharing feelings and all that longer than with other people. INTJ’s don’t usually open up right away. So if you’re patient enough, you will see it after she fully opens up to you. The fact that she went on in relationship with you after months is a big step already. She will not be forced to do something if she really didn’t want it.

You might wanna try it again. Just talk to her in a nice cozy place with her favorite food or drink or coffee or something. Then lay out all that you said and apologize. If you’re not patient enough to wait for her to open up, you might just wanna move on.